To think countryside people are condescending and moany all the time?

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Does anyone else think this too? Partly stemming from the story about the people who are trying to ban weddings from being held in their village and putting up signs like "Bride and Grooms not welcome here" in order to dampen their big day and ruin their wedding photos.

People who live in cities know how to share and live alongside people. Yes, tourists can be annoying but we don't scream at them (well I don't, anyway) or tell them they are not welcome and to go away. Yet people in the country think this is perfectly acceptable and not rude behaviour. And they constantly make awful comments about cities and city living and how they would rather die than live somewhere so busy but then when there is a lot of rainfall and their places are flooded they shriek and moan that people aren't helping them fast enough for their liking.

They literally think just because they live in the countryside that they own the countryside and get to say who can go there and what can happen there. And if you're "unfamiliar" they were literally stare at you. AIBU to think this is entitled behaviour and very annoying?

I don't ignore them because I'm not a twat.
Country people, city people. Twats in both camps.

This is the same OP who cried in the toilets because they weren’t IDed in the supermarket?
And who thinks posters are ungrateful if they don’t thank individual replies for their advice 🙄

Grew up in a rural village chosen to live in a city - this is no accident! You are not accepted in the village I grew up in unless you were born there - preferably several generations. Happy to leave them to it!

My lovely friend moved to a village and pissed off her neighbours by daring to exist and improve a barn that she owned or something so pretty much the whole village hates them now. A nightmare! She’s sticking it out though as she likes the rural life idea -honestly even visiting them is stressful running the gamut of glaring and curtain twitching from her batty old neighbours.

in our village people used to put up their own home made speed signs - more what they wanted it to be rather than what it actually was. Then had the nerve to stop drivers and tell them off when they drove ‘over the limit’ 😆

The signs I mentioned were in a cute hamlet (Duchy owned) some locals were furious at lockdown walkers and put arsey signs up literally saying “get out of our village if you don’t live here”. Utterly mental. Some would shout at walkers there was a fb post from a lovely nurse who had done a tough shift and gone for a walk there only to be yelled at by these old gits.

Your posts and the one by @Cuppasoupmonster is exactly the type of behaviour I am talking about. But I'm supposedly making it up and it doesn't happen

I’m genuinely surprised my village didn’t erect a burning wicker man.

In some ways it’s cute/quaint - ie if you post on the Facebook page ‘does anyone know a Fred that used to live somewhere near the Royal Oak pub that burned down in the war’, you’ll get a ton of replies.

Other times it’s completely suffocating and a bit The Hills Have Eyes. Lots of complaints about ‘youths loitering’ when a few 12 year olds are in the park past 5pm.

What I will say though is that this sort of behaviour seems to be perpetrated by a certain demographic - usually middle class retirees who believe the entire village should behave according to their retirement dream of living in a quaint and sleepy place.

Working age people, kids, most elderly people all fine.

Similar to others; had a great childhood in the country and now a city dweller for 25 years. I went "home" recently and there was a pull...the concerns for my parents are very different from mine. They worry about the village getting too big, about traffic on the "main road", and all the "incomers" moving away from nearby towns who "don't mix" nor want to say hello as they take their walk.

My concerns are traffic (again), the cost of living here in general, about kids getting stabbed in the street, about the drug problem in my neighbourhood, about people wanting to talk to me (weird) on the Tube, and about my child's education.

There are d++kneads everywhere. Back home it's about not wanting wind turbines in their local fields or the Hunt or some other ridiculous idiocy. In the cities it's still a selfish culture but more people protecting what tiny amount of space they have, and people being too slow.

I don"t recognise any of the stereotypes written about on here. Maybe because I don't live in a tourist destination village in a fashionable part of the country.

My village is an ex mining village, and is home to as many incomers as people born here.

Yes most countryside dwellers are perfectly nice and reasonable but you can’t deny there are some loons! Guess they are more visible in the country than in the city!

I think it’s just ‘big fish small pond’ mentality

I must have imagined all the parking threads I have read on here.

Parking is a country issue too. We went wild swimming and parked safely in a village on a road with no markings and a lady in a gilet stormed over shouting and stomping - the village belonged to her or something. We smiled and nodded…

I live in a lovely village in an AONB and designated site of special scientific interest, and it is a million miles from what you describe and fear. There are people who have chosen to come here, from everywhere, and provided you don't want to tell people how to live, the people who have ancestors in the graveyard dating back 900 years are generally pretty chilled about you doing up an ancient building to live in. But, it's expensive and there's almost no social housing left.

I live in a touristy city.

We need the tourists but I will admit to sometimes getting annoyed at them when they queue for a small ghost shop for example.

I also love the countryside. I don't think I've ever had a problem in the many many years I've visited it. I can see how people can get annoyed with visitors - but we also bring money as well.

There are people who complain everywhere.

I hope that you're lawyering up. Shee needs the arse suing off of her.

Yep. Met some awful locals since moving to a tiny village 15 years ago from a city.
Thankfully they are in the minority and since met some great locals who are neighbours/friends. I just ignore or just say hi to the ones who are strange. I have one neighbour who can be awkward. She is very posh and will moan about anything and everything but I will always greet her with a big smile and be over friendly. We help with her bins and just beening neighbourly. After 15 years she has started to warm to us.
I think you will meet some kn*bs where every you live but living in a small place magnitudes it all.
I found the primary school gate the worse but that is another thread all together.

Yes moaners everywhere but the countryside ones do tend to be rather vocal about it! I visit an elderly relative who lives rurally and by the sea and everytime I do I get told off for parking there - cue red faced apologises and scuttling off when I explain I’m not a tourist but niece of X. Honestly get a life!

You are right OP

you are much to nice and sensitive for the country

all those country people shouting…😉 killing foxes and spoiling your selfies

can anyone give me one real life example of the weddings not welcome thing? Quite curious what that was about😁

We've got one in our village who puts cones out opposite their drive to stop parking.....because they can't get their 2 massive cars out their drive otherwise 😧😂

When confronted there's a lot of huffing and got air. They're entirely in the wrong.

Equally, we have a lot of livestock nearby and despite me having a fairly trustworthy dog I'd always have him on lead. It's not worth the risk. I know of a tourists dog that was shot recently after it went nuts chasing sheep and couldn't be recalled.

Control your dog. Pick up it's cr@p. Take your litter home. Smile and nod at the slightly crazy ones who tell you can't park where it's perfectly legal too. Enjoy the local pub.

Just spent a gorgeous week in the countryside (lake district); I was respectful and considerate. The locals were welcoming and friendly.
I actually live in a northern large city. People here are really friendly too. 😁

I do hope you checked that it was an area where wild swimming is permitted - many people don't realise that actually stretches of river or lakes are very often owned by the land owner who's property the are in, and wild swimming is trespass.

E.g. a lot of people walk along the river Eden and wild swim in it, picnicking afterwards on the banks. What they don't realise is that the fields they have spread themselves across are owned by the Pembury Estate and the only right of way is the footpath NOT the river bank or the rest of the fields.

There are no safety measures in place along that stretch of the river so if you get into trouble you're stuffed. Kids jump off the bridge & don't realise that people dump old bikes & similar crap off the bridge making it hazardous. Picnickers leave rubbish strewn around the field, so people get out of the water & tread in broken glass, or the animals get injured when they are in those fields. The estate can't use that area for grazing in the summer due to all the people there.

You can NOT just go "wild swimming" wherever you see an apparently suitable body of water - like as not it isn't a public access area. Oh and the woman? She may well have owned that village!

I'm a suburbanite. Everyone hates me 😁😁

Well she can sod off! I don't take kindly to being bossed about by other adults. I lived in that village for years (longer than her I reckon) and know all about swimming there thanks - she had flop all authority to huff and puff. The water is no deeper than my thigh and has no current.

She reminded me of the dreadful woman when we were teens whose dog ran into my friends garden, killed her pet rabbit then somehow the woman yelled at my friend and made out it was my friends fault! God so glad I do not live in the countryside anymore!