To be upset by this situation with DD?

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DD 16 just came home from a friend's house on the bus. It's about a 30 min bus ride. She was upset when she got home saying a man roughly in his 60s who was clearly drunk (smelt of alcohol and was swaying when he got on the bus) had chosen to sit right next to her despite there being many other free seats. She said he stared at her and made her feel uncomfortable, put his face close to her when talking to her and told her she was really pretty etc. She was trying to ignore him and looking at her phone, messaging friends etc, and said he was constantly looking at what she was doing on her phone. At one point he also touched her arm because she had turned away from him in an attempt to ignore him. She said she wanted to tell him to move away but felt too scared to do so.

I don't know what I'm posting for. I suppose I'm just upset on her behalf that men feel this sort of behaviour is appropriate especially towards a teenage girl. DD is very pretty and attracts a lot of attention from boys her own age, but this feels different and almost bordering on harassment the way she described it.

How can I advise her to manage this in future?

Have a look at the Transport for London sexual harassment campaign together. It includes phrases like 'intrusive staring of a sexual nature is sexual harassment', and has posters explaining behaviour like staring, upskirting, pressing, touching, cyberflashing, and catcalling. It's really important to learn what harassment can look like, I wish I'd learnt much earlier and not through experience.

I really feel for you and your dd. As other posters have said, it’s extremely unfortunate that it is still commonplace for women to get harassed on public transport by men. Similar things like this happened to me when I was a student, travelling to / from home from university.

Sit by the driver.

Shout as loud as she can, "Fuck of you creep".

Sorry Fuck OFF

i had this when I was 18 and travelling by train to my new job in London. Weirdo started pressing “himself” against me. I did as my mum always said and I said at the top of my voice “ stop pressing against me and move back” I could see around me everyone heard , he went crimson and got off next stop looking less smug.

She needs to find menopausal women like me who have both the rage and enough life experience of this shit that we’ll will happily give pricks like this a dressing down in public if they dare behave inappropriately with our young girls - or anyone else for that matter.

THIS X100^