Screaming at us to shush

[Nopeaceinthishouse]

Dd, just turned 4 has started shouting at us to shush and to go away etc if she’s angry (usually if she doesn’t get something she wants)
She wasn’t like this before and it’s been the last couple of months.
It’s just so rude and disrespectful screaming at us to shush, anything I do isn’t working to try to calm/stop this.
Is this normal? What should I do?

However it feels, a 4 year old's behaviour isn't this: still being treated like shit

Adults treat people like shit sometimes. Children, no. There'll be reasons.

Try giving her a big bear hug and rocking gently but no talking.

Deal with discipline when she is calm.

I disagree. The treatment is the same regardless of the reason. Being screamed at is being treated like shit, whether it's a toddler or an adult. It's just understandable and harder to avoid with a toddler.

I love this. Love it. And agree.

Or the next 30 years (as in my experience) The fun never ends! 😩

DS is 4 and occasionally has shouted at us. I will look confused and ask quietly if that is how we speak to each other. He thinks, says "no mummy". So I ask if he'd like to say sorry for being unkind and he does. Then we hug and I can ask why he was frustrated / angry / if he's tired etc. I don't remember if that's what we did from the first time, but I think it was. Most of his frustrations are related to being tired but trying to carry on anyway, or feeling like he hasn't had enough of our time individually.