Why are people so obsessed with adults only doing adult things?

[SirMoose]

Sat through another meal tonight with family where everyone made fun of my husband for skating. He takes it well and doesn’t let on that it makes him feel bad but I know it does. He has a great job, is a great husband and father, does his share of housework etc. I don’t see why it matters what he chooses to do in his down time. Does anyone else think like this or is it just our weird family? I feel like people do think like this a lot especially the way adults liking Disney etc is viewed in here but I just don’t get it.

Using Aibu for the poll.

yanbu- being over 18 is what makes you an adult nothing else

yabu- skating is for kids and he should grow up.

I have a friend who kites, boards, skis, sups, bikes & is endlessly playing. She had a kid & he has the best life learning all these things, fit as a fiddle!

It's really fab, lives her life with joy!

Honestly, go do a boot camp, group training or some classes. Loads of fun!

Go do what you want to do.

You realise, no one who matters actually cares, no ones looking at you thinking 'that person isn't the sort of person who should do this', that feeling of 'this isn't a thing I can belong to/do/try' is entirely in your head and no one else can see it!

So go do what you want - I do all manner of stuff, im learning to carve small things out of wood, I learned in lockdown to do wire wrapping, I'd love to try glass bead making but the kit is a bit spendy. I like colouring, I like jigsaws, if I could still go rock-pooling I would (its not the most wheelchair accessible thing going), bloody love that.

Do what makes you smile, fuck anyone who thinks it should be for a specific age group!

I'm like you @JJudellie I love a good swing and hate to see those pesky toddler seats. I got a rocking chair for the house and would install a large swing in the garden like I had as a child if I had enough space. Trampolines are great too. I don't do it without the pretext of having a child to play with though

@SirMoose I started ice skating when I was 26. Been doing it regularly now for almost 10 years. Most rinks run adult learn to skate classes, and they are full of people of all ages, shapes and sizes, and everyone I've met through skating has been friendly, fun and really supportive. The ice dance club particularly is mainly full of people who have retired, and they are thrilled any time anyone new turns up, no matter the skill level! Each stage of the LTS course is only 8 weeks, what have you got to lose by trying?

I'm a 51 yr old woman. Kids are grown and oh god I love rockpooling or standing in a shallow river with a fishing net trying to catch sticklebacks.
I also love making sandcastles. Not 'adult' quality ones but kiddy/family types.
I do these with our family kids and love their enjoyment and enthusiasm but they're growing up and I'm waiting for the next generation.

I love playing and have been called childish, I don't care. I've been known to climb into large boxes left lying around at work.
I'd skate if I wasn't so scared (rollerblading as a teen, landes on my coccyx and still remember the agony of crawling home) and would love some fun hobbies. Good for your DH. His brother sounds like a twat.

Your friends at dinner sound like boring rude people! People who think they are hilarious because they take the mickey out of others. Lowest form of humour.

I’d get some new friends.

There's literally no logic to it - balancing on 2 wheels (a skateboard) is apparently childish but balancing on 2 wheels (cycling is a completely fine and appropriate sport and competition.

Roller Derby and ice hockey are much more interesting, dangerous and high speed sports than football in my humble opinion so no idea why skating would be childish but shouting and crying because the other team beat yours is a perfectly adult way to behave.

There's literally no logic to it - balancing on 2 wheels (a skateboard) is apparently childish but balancing on 2 wheels (cycling is a completely fine and appropriate sport and competition.
Quite, I love skateboarding but skateboarding = childish to many but skiing and snowboarding a fine adult hobby and holiday to take, its all nonsense!

Life’s too short!

"We do not stop playing because we grow old, we grow old because we stop playing.." George Bernard Shaw

”You are never too old to set another goal or dream another dream.” CS Lewis

it’s important to explore, but more so to find joy in doing so. To all of you who wish they’d done something, there’s no time like the present

Do all the fun stuff while you can. I'm a bit inhibited by time and money at this stage of life (pesky kids and their activities) but it's so important to keep your brain and body young by doing fun stuff, even if it is "childish" or "out there"

Most people with cats bum mouths are boring fuckers who cover up their own inhibitions by being disdainful of others.

I loved adult ballet before kids got in the way and an extreme lack of talent didn't hold me back.

I'd love adult soft play.
I had a big birthday during a lockdown so I went and played in a playground because that was the most fun I could muster in the circumstances.

Our nearest ice rink is 4 hours away 🥲🥲

I feel like people do think like this a lot especially the way adults liking Disney etc is viewed in here but I just don’t get it.

I confess to not getting the obsession with Disney branded goods and especially just how much they geared towards women, but it's not something I would say to someone who likes Disney stuff, so YANBU.

He should rub his skating in their faces. They're probably jealous because they would fall down.

I might get some Lego, no kids, in my 50s, wgaf.

Just bought a new bike. Do have a trampoline.

Go on Youtube and follow some of the guys having fun, it's inspiring!

I like Mark Lewis, lots of the cycling dudes, etc. Life is short and I may be living it vicariously, but baby steps!

Our old next door neighbour, used to roller skate with her son, I was really jealous, she was really good, and it looked like great fun.

When I got a new bike, one of our neighbours was really rude, and asked if I would manage to ride, and of course I would. I thought he was mad.
I was never off my various bikes as a child.

It transpired, his ( older than me) wife couldn’t ride a bike, she can now though, as I’ve seen them on electric and pedal bikes

Some people are just weird, and probably very jealous 😀

Being an adult is overrated.

Don't know what's wrong with skating particularly but I do think grown adults riding on scooters look frankly ridiculous, the kids and I gave exh grief when he met us riding one.

I collect Lego, love it.

Maybe your husband should stop putting on such a good show of it not bothering him. Sometimes I think the best way to deal with ‘banter’ is to be totally honest. Say you find it rude/it upsets you and ask people to stop rather than pretend it doesn’t upset you.

YADNBU - a group of friends have started roller skating again recently - in their 40s/50s! They hire out a hall, put a soundtrack together and skate a few times a week. It's such a fun and joyful thing to do and anyone mocking something like that is a miserable old git.
You rarely see a sad skater (roller or ice or board). What's a more 'adult' use of time? Get drunk, shop, watch TV? snooze. He sounds great

Where I live in the US (Boston) loads of adults skate. Our kids had lessons on sunday afternoons - dh and I learned with them - and at the open skating hour after, loads of adults turned up just to skate. Including a fabulous elderly Japanese gentleman who had speed skates. Lot of the middle aged guys I worked with participated in pick up or league ice hockey games too.

I think your family are weird tbh OP. And I think you should pick something random - dance glass, drawing class, whatever and sign yourself up and see how it goes.

I went to an adult ball pool. It was great fun. But omg I was absolutely knackered when I got out.

I took my niece to her ice skating lesson. The oldest student there was 70. You could tell he was loving it. Skating is for any age surely

I keep seeing tap dancing classes for adults, might be a way in to dancing for you? Definitely not too late to pick up a hobby, go for it.

And yes you are right dh family are being unkind. Is he bothered though? Me and my siblings are a bit hard on each other, we really don't mind though and know what is fair game and what is not. I think it is just a nostalgic throw back to bickering as children.

I'm in my 60s and a HUGE Disney Parks fan. I usually go every year if not more often. I couldn't care less what others may think. I wear my Disney Tshirts proudly and the divvil take the hindmost.

"Them that mind don't matter and them that matter don't mind"

Just ordered roller blades because if this thread 🤭