To think working class shows?

[MrsBonnie]

I work in a lovely school where they’ve all had very different upbringings to me. Very much working class here. Sometimes I think it shows with little things I’ve noticed.

Having sugar in tea, using a tumble drier, not having a cleaner, using the wrong glasses for different drinks (I.E using the same one for everything!)… what else am I missing that excludes me from the club 😂 sometimes I will mention something like the above and get “oh I never use a tumble drier” … then I just think oops have I said something weird there?

Sometimes I think they’re judging me with things I say and do but I hope not! I grew up being homeless at a certain point, council houses, single teen (but amazing) mum, a very specific type of circle. I feel like Mum did everything she could to get us out of that way of life, but I can’t help but feel I don’t belong sometimes. Or that I stick out like a sore thumb. Am I being daft? Imposter syndrome a little bit!

Are you saying middle class people don't use tumble driers?

You probably don't stick out. My dad is now 75 but grew up very working class. He's a doctor now but I think he's very sensitive to class differences.
I'm middle class, use a tumble drier, know that I could use different glasses but not what they are!
Be yourself, it really doesn't matter.

Tumble driers don’t generally trigger social mobility crises 😀

I’m sure you are lovely, possible over think this. We are all different but the main thing is kindness - if they are unkind then there is a problem

The tumble dryer thing is just plain weird. I am from a working class background and there was no room in our house for a tumble dryer. I didn’t live in a house with a tumble dryer until I “became” middle class!

Sugar in tea is an abomination

Although not as heinous a crime as sugar in coffee

I'm a teacher. Proud of being working class. We were few and far between when I started teaching 25years ago. The snobbery was rife. We are everywhere now🤣

I'm very much working class and I don't have sugar in tea, also never had a tumble dryer. Sounds like you're overthinking.

Tumble driers are middle class? Surely not. Lower middle class if anything.

Going to the local corner shop to get fags for parents

Own your roots and be proud. You’ve nothing to hide and are valid and worthy just as you are.
If your colleagues judge, then let them. It’s a mark of their character not yours.

But TBH, it sounds like just general workplace chit-chat & it’s more than likely that they not at all interested in your social background.
If you think imposter syndrome might be playing a part then just “fake it till you make it”. Most people are too busy worrying about the minutiae of their own lives to pay too much attention to yours x

No, none of these things are particularly related to a working class background at all.

Are you saying middle class people don't use tumble driers?. We very, very rarely use the drier cycle on our washing machine. Like a lot of people we know, we have a fairly large, well ventilated utility room with a drying rack on a pulley. You need more space for that than for a tumble drier. It probably is fairly middle class, but I'd never thought about it until now!

I always wonder why people are so against sugar in hot drinks when many of them consume plenty of sugar in other forms

Is this going to turn into a tumble drier debate. I think we can all move past that?

OP don’t doubt yourself or worry. Work on your confidence and seeing past class identifiers.

Because it tastes horrible. It's not for health reasons, I just don't like sugar in tea because it spoils the taste.

Tumble driers are completely classless. Yabu.

Sometimes people say things, and it’s just their personal opinion or preference. Not everything is a class signifier!

I really wouldn’t read too much into the tumble drier comment, for instance.

Having a clothes maiden or pulley or whatever does not make someone middle class😂😂😂

it's so weird isn't it. I'm definitely as MC as you can possibly be and when I check my reactions to tumbler dryers I sort of think "Ohhh Nooooo, dear!" like it's just not for me. Only ever used it once or twice to dry things in a hurry. It's clearly a class marker to me by why??? How on earth could that have ever come to signal anything?! It's hardly the Uses of Literacy is it.

What is the problem with being WC?

What context do you talk about these things in? Do you give them unsolicited advice about what glasses they should be using? Did you mention that you don’t use a tumble dryer as part of a conversation about doing laundry? Because it’s a pretty weird non sequitur. Maybe that’s why they look strangely at you.
If you comment on the fact that they put sugar in their tea and don’t have cleaners, then they probably think you are very rude.
Are you looking for stereotypes of working class people to add to your list? Because that could get quite nasty and then the thread would get taken down.

That makes sense. I'm more referring to those who judge if someone else has sugar.

I have a lot of very well to do friends and they all use tumble dryers

My DH is definitely working class.
He went to Oxford university, because he's also super-bright.

He said they have a million different subtle ways of letting you know that you don't truly belong.

But agree with posters. Be yourself and be proud of who you are.
People who are twats have no class, no matter what they think