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Nothing makes me want to be unkind more than that fucking "Be Kind" mantra!

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A580Hojas · 22/10/2022 12:54

I am not an unkind person so I don't need it shoved down my throat.

I'm sick of seeing it on Mumsnet too. If you think someone has posted in a manner that breaks talk guidelines then just report them. Don't yap "be kind" all over the thread.

OP posts:
Roystonv · 23/10/2022 10:02

See that bit about be kind to staff no abuse or bullying I read as the company already know they are providing such a shit service to make their clients so cross so at a loss that to be a pain in the ass is the only thing left. I try be kind but as soon as I realise it is getting me nowhere I get a tad tetchy. So be kind is really just put up with crap.

Reservoirbogs · 23/10/2022 10:06

It's not aimed just at women

When was the last time you saw the slogan emblazoned across all the clothes in the men's department? You won't have because they don't put this shit on mens clothing, only womens. Ironic really when we all know it's the male species who could do with being a bit 'kinder'.

Unseelie · 23/10/2022 11:28

Trainfromredhill · 22/10/2022 13:03

I hate ‘be kind’. Be kind is how women end up as doormats and in coercive controlling relationships. Be civil, yes. There is no need to be rude or nasty , but ‘be kind’ gets translated later into ‘don’t do anything that might hurt or upset the other person’ Irrespective of how uncomfortable or unhappy it makes you feel. DD was at a school that drummed on and in about ‘be kind’ how it played out in the play ground was that the SEN kid could be as nasty, manipulative and horrible as they wanted, and nobody could do anything in response, because it wasn’t ‘kind’.

What @Trainfromredhill said.

”Be kind” just means “your needs and wants are unimportant, little girl.”

What people to be kinder? Model that behaviour in your own life I reckon.

MangyInseam · 23/10/2022 13:20

Reservoirbogs · 23/10/2022 10:06

It's not aimed just at women

When was the last time you saw the slogan emblazoned across all the clothes in the men's department? You won't have because they don't put this shit on mens clothing, only womens. Ironic really when we all know it's the male species who could do with being a bit 'kinder'.

I think both these things are true.

People do say this to men, in particular in relation to public behaviour and discussions, just like to adult women.

But in general you see it as a slogan on shirts and stuff for young girls. Sometimes women too, but in that case I assume it is jerk women who want to wear that shit. I've seen a man's t-shirt that said it, but only once.

donttellmehesalive · 23/10/2022 17:53

Roystonv · 23/10/2022 10:02

See that bit about be kind to staff no abuse or bullying I read as the company already know they are providing such a shit service to make their clients so cross so at a loss that to be a pain in the ass is the only thing left. I try be kind but as soon as I realise it is getting me nowhere I get a tad tetchy. So be kind is really just put up with crap.

Your argument isn't with the poor sod who happened to be working a shift when you picked up the phone though. I've had terrible service many times but never got 'tetchy' with the person I'm talking to about it. Does getting tetchy often work, because I can confirm that being respectful but determined definitely does.

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