Pull out of friends wedding 4 weeks before

[Annabananna1]

AIBU to pull out of attending my friends wedding, having rsvp'd yes several months ago?

We've only been friends for about 18 months. Really sweet of her to invite DH and I to her wedding. It is about an hour away, on a Wednesday so both of us have booked annual leave. We are also paying for babysitting (£100+).

In the last few 3 or 4 months I've barely spent any time with her. We don't socialise with them as a couple at all. Yesterday she cancelled plans with me for the second time this month. She has a habit of cancelling on me at the last moment it's been an ongoing theme.

I don't want to go to the wedding anymore. But I don't know if it's too late at this point to back out?

Honestly I'd be more than happy to spend AL day, babysitting money, gift money for a close friend but this just feels silly

The thing is, I’d imagine she’s spent money on you and your husband in good faith that you would attend given your rsvp. I think if I was going to do this, I would offer to pay for what has been spent on my behalf (food).

*had.

also, she may feel the friendship insnt fizzling and she knows shel see you in a month at the wedding. I would imagine you would feel more bonded to people who attended your wedding.