I wonder what the actual split is of men who help and men who don't? VOTE

[mavismorpoth]

IABU - My husband does nothing around the house or is incompetent about it or leaves most of it to me.

IANBU - My husband is my equal housekeeper and cook etc. and equally shares chores.

Thought it would be very interesting to see a snapshot of the situation. So many threads about this! A few saying 'we are equals' but I doubt they are that common so thought, a poll.

DH does some housework but definitely not half

left to him bedsheets would never be changed, clothes wouldn’t be washed until they practically walked themselves to the washing machine and he only sorts dinner once a week. He does however always clean the kitchen. He also deals with the admin around the house eg insurance, energy suppliers

this is a considerable improvement compared to what it was….

Dh does less than me, cooking wise, and I sort school stuff, but he does other things likes cars, gardening, maintenance. It works fine.

@mavismorpoth thank you!

We are definitely a team ...I do food shop and cook
He washes up and stacks dishwasher
He does hoovering and floors and I do the surfaces and bathrooms
He does all the ironing
Whoever is around fills the washing machine and whoever is around when it's finished empties it

I think I do about 35%, he does 25%, cleaner does 25%.

The other 15% just doesn't happen!

This will be based on your circle though.

Birds of a feather flock together and all that

conversely I don’t know one couple (and we have many friends) that isn’t 50/50

This will only work if you can show any differences in how many hours are worked. A SAHP should be doing the majority of the household chores. But not to the extent that a working parent does nothing in the house

This is mine.

DH has always been more domesticated than me. When we were younger and fitter we did the bits we liked and outsourced the rest, we have always had a cleaner. He cooked, I decorated, he washed/dried, I ironed etc.

Now I'm physically unable to do much so he does everything physical and I run our lives from the sofa in terms of everything else. We still have a cleaner though and our two sons pitch in with physical chores.

‘Help’ and you describe yourself as a housewife? Are you from the 1950s?

I only opened the thread initially to challenge the wording of "helping". I see lots of others feel the same.

However, I can't vote as it isn't as binary as that. People work with their circumstances. At different times of our relationship we have had more or less time at home in order to contribute to running the home, and the balance changes with that. We are equal partners however.

Nope, born early 80s, parents weren't even together. I dislike having a job and my husband is of the attitude a man should provide for his family. I'm certainly okay with this!

Sigh

In our house, it's equal (ish) depending on the week, we both do the house work, washing etc.. take kids to school, pick ups from college... we have a super busy life but do our best to support each other! Sometimes I think we both have our lazy days where the other one picks up the slack but balanced enough