If your child came down with a vomiting bug today, would it cross your DH's mind to think about emergency childcare arrangements for tomorrow?

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So our child has come down with a vomiting bug today, vomiting quite a few times this afternoon and this evening. Both me and DH are working tomorrow. Child would normally be at school and then picked up by a relative who keeps them for the afternoon until we are home from work.

I've just realised that DH hasn't even considered the fact that she won't be going to school tomorrow and we are both working. It hasn't even crossed his mind that we might need to sort out some emergency childcare or one of us might need to take the morning/day off work.

Would this happen in your house? I'm really tempted to get ready for work and leave as normal just to prove a point. Just to tell him that it never crossed my mind, but oh well I need to get to work, see you this evening. Because that's effectively what he's doing to me by deciding not to engage his brain.

But of course I won't, I've sorted out some childcare arrangements assuming she is feeling a bit better in the morning. If she's still really sick then I'll stay off with her.

Does this happen in your house? Or would your DH actually notice a potential issue with this situation and engage his brain without being told exactly what to do??

Yes, he would probably think of it and check his diary quicker than me, and initiate the conversation.

Vomiting bug is 48 hours at least to avoid cross infection, emergency childcare isn’t for sick children.

So yes, leave DD with DH!

I'm a SAHM and while obviously I would be the one staying at home my husband would still check that I had nothing on that couldn't be moved and would see if I needed him home earlier than usual
the same here. And tbh he would check his diary for the next 5 days in case one of us would catch the virus (unfortunate experience 🙂)

No, my husband would expect me to do it. I'd have to negotiate if I needed to work. He has one day off a week and does the childcare. One week in 7, he works the day and always forgets to arrange childcare. Drives me mad.

Of course he would think about it.

I am curious about what emergency childcare is though. Is it a grand parent? An aunt/uncle? I can’t think of anyone who would agree to look after a child with a stomach bug that wasn’t theirs, except maybe my kids Nana.

My mother is a retired district nurse and lives relatively close so she would step in but I often work 3 or 4 weekends in a row so my husband will act as chief cook, bottle washer and entertainments officer. Not that they are children anymore.

If it was the night before my husband and I would discuss it but I wfh and he doesn't do I'm usually the default. He leaves for work before we are all awake though so it's sometimes me just as I'm at home when I've made the decision not to send them in! Though he has come home early in the past if I've needed him to.

He hasn't mentioned it because he knows you'll sort it - mentioning it might give him responsibility. It will have crossed his mind

Of course dp would. I'd be really pissed off if he just assumed the dc were my responsibility to care for. I think that is a pretty shitty assumption for a dad to make, and not respectful.