To think my mum is the best mum in the world?

[shotoftequila]

A nice thread about mums for a change.

It was always just me and my mum in the house growing up. It was a small house, but really, really cosy. We had two cats, two dogs and a hamster. I remember always telling her she was 'lazy' however, now I'm an adult with my own kids, I think she was sensible and put her own self care above housework etc.

Don't get me wrong, the house was always clean but it was quite cluttered and messy at times. She was a social worker, and I know she was stressed in her job a lot but she really made our home our sanctuary. She spent much of her time off, spending time with me, trips out, girls nights, long walks, playing games etc as well as reading books (hundreds of books in the house growing up) and watching tele cuddling with the animals.

We had so much fun, no matter how stressed she was she was always fun, she knew how to switch off and we had some laughs. I always looked forward to coming home after school or knowing I was off school for the holidays, it was like our own little bubble.

My friends were over at the house a lot, she never had a problem with this or made it seem like an annoyance. My dad drove her up the wall, I know that, yet she still gave him lifts when she could and did him favours and always allowed him to come over Christmas morning to do presents.

When I left home for uni, the last thing she said when dropping me off was that I could always come home, no matter how old I was, no matter what happens, that the house will always be my home and I am welcome there at any time.

She was so open with me growing up about periods, sex, body hair, body image, contraception. I remember her saying to me, 'never tell a man how many people you have slept with, not even your husband because it's none of their business'. This served me well. I could speak openly with her about sex, nothing was off limits and she never judged me. She pushed me when I needed pushed though and was strict when it came to my education.

She guided me through so many horrible break ups and I returned home a few times, it was always my safe haven. My mum is truly my best friend, we have been through some shit, and I know her life has been far from perfect but she honestly has been the perfect mum.

AIBU to think my mum is better than your mum? lighthearted of course.

Your mum sounds wonderful ❤️
And yes she's definitely better than mine was!

@shotoftequila she sounds absolutely lovely! I want to be that mum to my boys. My own mum hasn't ever been like this, sadly, but I can certainly try my best to be like it for my children. I especially like the part where she said that you can always come home and how you acknowledge that she tried hard to still be kind to your dad so that you could have a relationship. I do the same with my children father. He drives me nuts but I give him lifts and make sure he's welcome on birthdays and Christmas.

This brought a tear to my eye. What a lovely post OP. So positive and filled with love.

I so hope my DC will say similarly lovely things about me when they are grown up. Your mum sounds wonderful.

I’ve had a difficult time with my mum but tonight we FaceTimed with my grandmother and I thought to myself how lucky I was to have them both and how I’d miss them if they were not around as they are my comfort blanket and I love them both deeply.

This is so lovely. My mum is my best friend too. Hugs to you and your mum!

Your mum sounds very similar to mine OP. I adore that woman. She honestly always put us children before everyone and still does along with her grandchildren.
I know I could ring her now and she would be by my side with no hesitation. That she has never judged me for any stupid decisions I've made, only supported me.

She is the first person I call when anything happens good or bad. We speak a couple times a day and see eachother at least once a week.

I am also very fortunate to have a very similar relationship with my sisters too.

Lovely thread.

Lovely thread! I am blessed with a great mum too!

I wish I had a mum like this! I'm glad you treasure her, it's lovely. I am however blessed to have this with my own daughter. 😊

I wish I had a mum like her. She sounds amazing.

Sorry to burst your bubble but I am actually the person blessed with the worlds best mum.

sadly she died last year and though I am sad, I feel a deep sense of joy that I got to have her as my mum. She was amazing, a great listener, and a great cook too.

YABU and YANBU OP - you mum sounds incredible.

My mum died 25 years ago and there hasn’t been a day since I haven’t thought about her. She was lucky enough not to need to work, although she did here and there for her own fulfilment. She was warm, friendly and funny and always had a few words to say to everyone she met. Don’t I know it - we would spend HOURS waiting for her to stop yacking 🤣

She was an appalling timekeeper which drove me, who is absolutely anal about punctuality, insane.

She smoked like a chimney and didn’t really enjoy cooking. But what she lacked in the traditional “housewife” skills she more than made up for in fun, adventure and wickedness.

Everyone knew her locally, and everyone loved her. At her funeral there wasn’t enough room in the church; people stood outside because they couldn’t get in. The warmest, kindest, most unforgettable woman that ever walked the earth.

If only you could have met your grandchildren, Mum. The adoration would have been mutual.

I love my Mum loads too....she did her very best bringing me up with what little money she had.....she ways worked but wehad great fun then and now I still really enjoy her company....she's 86 now but we still have little adventures together....I took her tolondon to see the queen lying in state and the flowers in green park last month....we got the 4.30 train and we queued 6 hours in the accessible queue....she looked so happy when I suggested it ....and was so overcome by the experience it made it so worthwhile ( I'm not into the Royals at all myself last!) ...last year I surprised her with last minute tickets to centre court at Wimbledon.....ive got a picture of her eating strawberries and cream on henman hill looking thrilled....I got her to write a bucket list when she was 81 and we tick things off....like 3 weeks travelling in Canada when she was 83 .....this year we've been on trips to london twice, Glasgow, tenby and Yorkshire dales and Llanberis....we've had the best times often with my DD and GDs as well.....Next onthe list is Oxford...then I've booked to take my Mum...my DD and eldest GD to Edinburgh...we are going to see Annie musical....my mum took me when I was a child ( catherine zeta Jones was one of the orphans!) .....we've come full circle....I can't imagine a world without her....but while she's still here and well we will keep on having our advebtures

Have a great DM too. So YABU 😉
we’re very lucky.

Trying to be a good mum to my DD, I don’t have as much patience as my DM and feel I may push her a bit more than I should at times. Need to work on that.

She sounds amazing, OP! ❤️ But YABU since mine is definitively the best. I truly hope my children will love me as much as I love my mum.

What a lovely thread!

I wish I’d had your mum, she sounds amazing.

You're Mum sounds like the kind of Mum I'm trying to be to my DS, and hearing how you feel about her has helped me see that I'm doing the right thing ❤️ thank you x

My mum is my best friend too! We see each other daily, literally live round the corner from each other. I truly would be so lost without her. Its so nice to read something uplifting on here for once.

Really lovely thread OP ❤️ Your mum sounds wonderful.

Sadly, I don’t have as close a relationship with my mum. Not bad, just not close. She says herself that she prefers being a “hands-off parent”...whatever that means 😅 she’s very emotionally distant.

I pray that my son grows up feeling the same way about me as you feel about your mum. He is my everything, there’s nothing in this world that I wouldn’t do for him and I hope he knows that every day of his life.

This is lovely. Your mum sounds absolutely amazing and I'm sorry she's not here with you now. Please hold on to the memories, she sounds like an amazing woman.

What a lovely thread.
@kitcat15 that sounds fab. Enjoy your adventures.
My mam was my best friend. She was the first person I’d ring if I had news. The first person I would turn to. She’s currently end of life with Alzheimer’s. She has no idea who I am, but I know who she is.

Is someone cutting onions? 😭

Beautiful post, OP.

Lovely thread. You’ve inspired me to try to be a better mum! Definitely want my DS to know he always has a home with me and can talk to me about anything. My own mum is truly wonderful too. I didn’t appreciate her when I was growing up but now I have my own DC I thank my lucky stars for all my mum did for me and thankfully I’ve had the chance to say that to her now (poor thing had to wait 30 years to hear it!)

She sounds awesome. I've tried hard to be similar for my DDs. My childhood was the stuff of nightmares and although I've made a ton of mistakes of course I still have a really loving, honest relationship with my girls. I always told them they could tell me anything. Some of which i wish they hadn't 😆 We laugh a lot!

She sounds amazing but, nope, sorry, mine's the best!😉