To think my mum is the best mum in the world?

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A nice thread about mums for a change.

It was always just me and my mum in the house growing up. It was a small house, but really, really cosy. We had two cats, two dogs and a hamster. I remember always telling her she was 'lazy' however, now I'm an adult with my own kids, I think she was sensible and put her own self care above housework etc.

Don't get me wrong, the house was always clean but it was quite cluttered and messy at times. She was a social worker, and I know she was stressed in her job a lot but she really made our home our sanctuary. She spent much of her time off, spending time with me, trips out, girls nights, long walks, playing games etc as well as reading books (hundreds of books in the house growing up) and watching tele cuddling with the animals.

We had so much fun, no matter how stressed she was she was always fun, she knew how to switch off and we had some laughs. I always looked forward to coming home after school or knowing I was off school for the holidays, it was like our own little bubble.

My friends were over at the house a lot, she never had a problem with this or made it seem like an annoyance. My dad drove her up the wall, I know that, yet she still gave him lifts when she could and did him favours and always allowed him to come over Christmas morning to do presents.

When I left home for uni, the last thing she said when dropping me off was that I could always come home, no matter how old I was, no matter what happens, that the house will always be my home and I am welcome there at any time.

She was so open with me growing up about periods, sex, body hair, body image, contraception. I remember her saying to me, 'never tell a man how many people you have slept with, not even your husband because it's none of their business'. This served me well. I could speak openly with her about sex, nothing was off limits and she never judged me. She pushed me when I needed pushed though and was strict when it came to my education.

She guided me through so many horrible break ups and I returned home a few times, it was always my safe haven. My mum is truly my best friend, we have been through some shit, and I know her life has been far from perfect but she honestly has been the perfect mum.

AIBU to think my mum is better than your mum? lighthearted of course.

Get in the bin OP. I have the best mum.

She’s been the second parent to my kids
most of their lives. She trusts me to do my best but totally has my back. I love her.

This thread is bittersweet.

This is everything I wanted from my own mother and never got. However she showed me what not to do and I'm determined to get it right with my own daughter. I hope one day she writes about me the way you write about your mum.

Your Mum sounds like the warmest, kindest human. Lucky you, I expect that her warmth permeates your entire being.

My mother was very strict and demanded huge work from my siblings and I, holding herself to the same exacting high standards. She died when I was 22 and her approach to life seemed to be so tough. We didn't have the best relationship. She will never know what an utterly fantastic role model she was and how her unrelenting efforts have been a wonderful guide to making the most of every minute.

She was the most amazing role example, from rising every morning at 6am to make cooked breakfasts for us all, ironing everything and maintaining a truly wonderful home, in terms of domesticity she was incredible. She used every force of her energy to raise us well.

I don't want to disclose in which ways she has impacted me because it will be too outing, but I salute her and wish she was here to let her know how unbelievably she has set the tone for my life and how grateful I am to her. I could do none of it without her and yet at the time I was unable to see it.

Before she died she apologized for the issues and I told her she had been a wonderful mother. At the time it was just a comforting response to her words, but now I have been lucky enough to be able to use her talents, strength and resources. In my life, I thought she was oppressed by her home. I did not realise that it was her arena to demonstrate her love and it showcases her abilities. I have chosen a different path, but she has shown me how to walk it.

Like your mother, she chose to do her absolute best and it has been a great template. You are very special too for encouraging everyone to write lovely words about their mothers, although I have not read the thread in its entirety.

I am very happy to hear about your mother too, she sounds like a very loving supportive woman and a marvellous role model. This sort of thing helps build women up, mother blame is so entrenched in our society. Well done for continuing her light and positivity.