To think I've done nothing wrong by making money on a charity

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I bought a dress for £60 in a charity shop. I didn't think many people would recognise the brand as it's locally made but it would have cost about £300 I think and would probably be a ooak. I'm asuming the charity shop knew this though because of the high price.

I bought the dress for me but it doesn't fit. I didn't want to get a refund from a charity shop but at that price I can't redonate it either. So I put it on my local FB page askimg for offers. I said it was from the charity shop but I didn't put how much I paid. If anyone asked I would have told them.

Someone offered me £100 and I accepted. They collected it and messaged me afterwards to say how happy they were.

Before I could remove the post someone commented that they worked in the shop and it cost £50. Now I'm getting lots of abuse about being greedy and ripping off the charity. The lady who bought it has put angry faces on it. I also have a couple of things on there for free and people have made nasty comments on those. I've removed all my posts now.

I don't feel bad about making money on the dress as that was never my intention. £60 was much, much more than I would normally spend in a charity shop and tbh I don't want to donate the £40. It was a proper charity shop, not one run by little old ladies who price everything at 50p because they don't know any better.

The lady who bought it, offered £100 and never asked how much I paid and was happy until she found out I paid less. I do feel bad that she won't enjoy the dress though as it's a beautiful dress.

AIBU for keeping the £40?

That is unbelievably unprofessional on the part of the charity.

You have done nothing wrong.

Once you have paid the asking price to the charity, it is fuck all of their business what you do with it.

I would not shop there again.

Others who see this may avoid the charity in future if they’re going to spy on people and what they do with their purchases.

None of their business at all.

PS- report the volunteer.

Electronic curtain-twitchers like that are not a good look for the charity.

It's not a GDPR breach but may be a breach of the charity's social media policy.

I would think it was unlawful and potentially comes under GDPR infringements.

I would report this to the charity

Isn’t that how business works? My daughter calls herself and her friends the Depop Bitches - they do this all the time, get stuff from car boot sales and sell on. You have given £60 to charity - they have benefited, you have gained £40 and someone is really happy. Win win win

Ignore them. The charity made £60 pure profit, you made £40. Keep it. Charities p:ss money up the wall. I know, having worked for a few.

You should have stuck on vinted it somewhere more anonymous

FB is brutal

I bet loads of vintage sellers buy stuff like this

Personally, id be too
Embarrassed to do this

Isn’t everything sold at a profit?? You’ve done nothing wrong x

Our local charity shop doesn’t have a changing room, you bought it for yourself and it simply didn’t fit - to me re selling it and getting a bit of profit is just lucky you !
the shop got the price they wanted -fair enough I really don’t know why the lady from the shop posted the original price .

Of course you have done nothing wrong. It’s pot luck whether a person picks-up a bargain in a charity shop. People love to judge others. She offered what she felt was fair, you accepted it and she got what she wanted. It might have been safer to sell it on eBay. I hope you don’t get ongoing hassle.

You have done nothing wrong you bought a dress that did not fit, it now belongs to you and up to you what you do with it. The charity shop staff was out of order doing what they did, if you want to resell that is your right, and if the person was happy to pay 100 then she can't complain. People make a living out of buying second hand stuff and selling it on. Shame on the people that shamed you for this. The 40 is yours. The charity shop don't own it anymore and the got money for it. I would complain to the shop, what happened to privacy.

Ignore the haters you have done nothing wrong. As to the purchaser hard cheese 🧀 no one forced her to make the offer and she just sour because she now believes she could have got it cheaper if she was more savvy.

Yes, I would tear a second hole in the charity for commenting on this, when you have given them funds.

It’s weird that the charity shop worker commented and has instigated online bullying. I would make a complaint about them.

You have done nothing wrong at all.

You have done nothing wrong. The person who paid £100 is still getting it £200 cheaper, what is not to like. A good sale is when where everybody wins. Charity shops won, you won and the buyer won. Lesson here is more around providing only the relevant information to tye sale. Where how you bought this item is of no value to the buyer and didn't need to be said. 😊

Lots of holes in your story, but yes- I think it's fine to keep the £40. However, I'd have probably sold on ebay as more anonymous - this stuff always happens.

Sorry but the charity shop worker has been really unprofessional. This is appalling behaviour from them.
It was your item to sell. Whether you posted for £10 or £100 that was your choice and you have done nothing wrong.
Also maybe when you put a post up selling an item don’t give a backstory?

You didn’t demand £100. You were offered it. Delete the post and ignore the haters!

I always laugh to myself how hot under the collar Mumsnetters get about GDP. Yet they still let this site have their data despite the breaches.

I would give some money back to the charity shop, even in just the donation tin. X

What an odd comment @BloodAndFire - she wanted to make some money and why the hell not. Grow up.

I bought a piece of china for £3 and sold it abroad for £60. It's not very often things like this happen to normal folk. Make the most of it.

Thanks all.

I said I got it from a charity shop to be honest. Ironically I didn't want someone to comment that they'd seen it in a charity shop and be accussed of misleading people. I also didn't want to be asked things I couldn't answer such as what is the fabric. In hindsight I overthought it.

I genuinely didn't think people would recognise the brand. I wasn't expecting to get £60 back but of course I wanted as much back of that as I could.

I've never returned anything to a charity shop as it feels like I'm taking money from them. Like I've told them here is £60, actually I want it back now. I'd normally just redonate but I've never spent that much money on one item.

What holes are in my story?

The dress was a fitted wool (pretty sure) dress with a flared skirt and some distintive details. It was fully lined and french seams and bias binding and stuff. So even if you didn't recognise the maker you could tell it was handmade to a high standard. It was beautiful and I would have lived in it! 🤣

BHF don't charge £60 for dresses (at least not in this shop) so they must have known what they were selling.

I will consider making a complaint because the worker was out of order.

Don't consider, do it. It's appalling that customers could be attacked online and the charity won't want business damaged that way. You can make it clear you're not asking for heads to roll, but action needs to be taken to ensure it won't happen again, and the worker needs to be informed that what you did was absolutely fine.

I'm so curious, can you PM me a pic of the dress? It sounds gorgeous.

Sounds like she wanted the dress herself, and missed out.