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Things other people do that irrationally annoy you

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HuzzahIndeed · 18/10/2022 10:21

What do other people do that makes you really mad even though it really doesn't matter. My mum has made me so cross this morning over something that is meaningless. Logically I know it doesn't matter but I'm fuming. 🤣

The crime? She said that my youngest brother has been with his fiancé longer than I've been with my husband. I started dating my husband before he started school and got married just as he started secondary school so it isn't like she's slightly out. See, doesn't matter and yet grrrr.

Also middle brother announced his engagement at oldest brothers engagement party. Oldest brother and his wife are the most chilled people you have ever met (unlike me clearly) so didn't seem to mind but I was furious as it's such bad form.

Also the cat is a dick. She has several water bowls and fountains but won't use them. Put a mug of water down someone and her head is straight in there. We've taken to leaving water mugs in various places (which inevitable end up getting spilled) and drinking out of lidded travels cups.

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PainterJane · 19/10/2022 09:49

FrangipaniBlue · 18/10/2022 22:22

People who weave when walking on a pavement or footpath.

JUST PICK A SIDE!!!!

When you finally pass them, you can see they're on their phone.

Having to dodge those walking

veganmayo · 19/10/2022 10:03

Oh and the ‘want gone’ or ‘must go’ comments on Facebook marketplace and similar sites just make me think - that’s not my problem?

I don’t really understand the rationale because surely it’s not going to make anyone more likely to take it from you?

ItsNotNormalLove · 19/10/2022 14:02

@reigatecastle:

"Yes this. There used to be a number you could put in and when they phoned it they'd get a message saying "this customer would prefer to be contacted by email". It was brilliant."

Wow, this is something that really needs to make a comeback, I'd never heard of it!

SillySausage81 · 19/10/2022 14:29

mumoftoddlerandteen · 18/10/2022 14:06

My husband cuts his sausages length ways when he eats them with a knife and fork and it drives me insane - no idea why!!

When I did a baby first aid course I was told to cut children's sausages lengthways because sausages are the biggest cause of choking across all ages, including adults, in Britain.

I don't know if that's why your husband does it, but it is certainly the safer option!

MatronicO6 · 19/10/2022 14:47

Mine is people who go to self checkout but aren't proactive enough to watch the checkouts and just go to a free one on their own intiative. The amount of people who just wait to be told to come forward is insane.

Also, people who do not get their card, payment method out until last minute. Like walking to tube gate then stopping to find the card, or on the bus or when shopping and watching assistant stand, scan and bag their clothes, tell them the price and then they decide to go hunting for their card.

MatronicO6 · 19/10/2022 15:00

Yes! As if it's other peoples responsibility to sort it out for them and take it off their hands.

Speaking of second hand shopping, people who list items like 'Bought in 1995 for £1200, some wear and tear, selling for £1000.' Accompanying photo show usually shows it's completely battered as well.

reigatecastle · 19/10/2022 15:02

FrangipaniBlue · 18/10/2022 22:18

Car drivers who think I should be on the cycle path and not the road, despite the fact the DfT says if you're going faster that 18mph you should be on the road.

That guidance is no longer in force, and hasn't been since about 2010.

losingit31 · 19/10/2022 16:43

People who call a photo of themselves a selfie when they didn't take it, someone else did. That means it's just a photo!! 😡

FortheBeautyoftheEarth · 19/10/2022 17:07

losingit31 · 19/10/2022 16:43

People who call a photo of themselves a selfie when they didn't take it, someone else did. That means it's just a photo!! 😡

Who on earth does that?! For what it's worth, I prefer photos taken by other people over selfies.

losingit31 · 19/10/2022 17:18

@FortheBeautyoftheEarth I heard someone do it on a podcast just this afternoon - specifically described a person asking someone else to take the photograph, and then referred to it as a selfie!

Firecarrier · 19/10/2022 19:12

GreeboIsMySpiritAnimal · 18/10/2022 22:24

Look, I'm a loud sneezer. I don't know why. I don't know how to fix it. I'm very sorry. Blush

I don't get it sorry, if I pinch the soft part of my nose mine are almost silent - surely that would work?

GreeboIsMySpiritAnimal · 19/10/2022 19:16

I shall try that next time I feel a sneeze brewing.

JauntyJinty · 20/10/2022 10:00

MatronicO6 · 19/10/2022 14:47

Mine is people who go to self checkout but aren't proactive enough to watch the checkouts and just go to a free one on their own intiative. The amount of people who just wait to be told to come forward is insane.

Also, people who do not get their card, payment method out until last minute. Like walking to tube gate then stopping to find the card, or on the bus or when shopping and watching assistant stand, scan and bag their clothes, tell them the price and then they decide to go hunting for their card.

This reminded me of another of mine!

When I'm waiting for the self services checkout, see someone moving away and the person manning them immediately says "there's one free there" - I know, I saw and I was already moving towards it thanks!

I know they're just trying to be efficient and make sure things are moving along, so it's completely my issue but it still irks me!

WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps · 20/10/2022 11:48

@HuzzahIndeed

People who don't say please and thank you when asking for/collecting things you've offered on facebook/freecycle.

I'm currently waiting in for someone to collect something I've offered. His reply to my post was literally "I'll have this. Where are you? I'll come tomorrow". He made me so cross but I need it gone and no one else wants it so I have to let him have it. I'm fuming with myself over it. But I know I'll smile and say thank you when he comes. Then I'll be even more cross with myself.

This pisses me off too. I was giving away some stuff on facebook a few weeks ago, (a dozen or so 1990s CDs.) I got some nice responses, like 'could I have one please?' but one said 'got any left?'' That was it. No please or thank you or anything. I hadn't, and I said 'sorry, but they're all gone or reserved.' No response at all.

One got left, as the woman who was meant to come for it didn't turn up, and I could have messaged the 'got any left' woman and said she could have it. But I didn't. She couldn't be fucked to even message back with 'ok, thanks for letting me know anyway.' I blocked her too, so when I give anything else away, she won't see it.

WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps · 20/10/2022 11:57

@UnderCoverFieldAgent

People who put ’so blessed to have been able to put something into the food bank today. It’s the little things 💗’

Urgh yes this! ^ Please praise me praise me, COMPLIMENT me, LOVE me. Desperate for the 'oooh hun ur such an angle' comments. Attention-seeking fuckwits.

@PainterJane

People who stand too close to me , especially when I need to give the person at the desk (doctor, hotel etc) personal details.

Urgh I hate that too. One man stood SO CLOSE to me in the bank last week that his elbow was poking me (I hope it was his elbow!) and it really creeped me out. I got so irked because when I moved forward, he moved too, so he was right next to me, half an inch away. I ended up putting my (covid) mask on! Luckily I had it in my pocket as I had just been to the GP practice.

I also loathe LOUD SNEEZERS, people with LOUD VOICES, and middle aged men in lycra, riding bicycles!

NightmareSlashDelightful · 20/10/2022 12:04

Constant use of 'our' in restaurants by servers. 'And here's our pork terrine, with our apricot glaze. This is our bread and butter pudding...'

It's not 'ours'. You're not sitting down and tucking in with me, love.

WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps · 20/10/2022 12:43

NightmareSlashDelightful · 20/10/2022 12:04

Constant use of 'our' in restaurants by servers. 'And here's our pork terrine, with our apricot glaze. This is our bread and butter pudding...'

It's not 'ours'. You're not sitting down and tucking in with me, love.

But isn't it theirs if they made it?

Voerendaal · 20/10/2022 13:35

Men ( it is always men about 65 ) who whistle tunes - my stomach flips over. Hands cracking, noisy eating and people eating with their mouth open. Bikes in large groups taking over the road. And people sounding their horn round corners on country lanes. If I am riding my horse on a single track road sounding your horn does not mean I can get out of the way- I can’t - so just slow down FFS instead. Also you are very likely to startle my horse and cause it to spook. Then I have less control as you come whizzing round the corner happy in your knowledge you have warned me of your impending arrival.

Somethingsnappy · 20/10/2022 14:00

People who still give me an exaggeratedly wide berth when passing on the pavement. Yes, I know this is irrational, as these people may still have cause to be worried about covid etc, but it makes me feel like a have the pox...

RainbowZebraWarrior · 20/10/2022 14:01

People petending they are capable of running the country, when they clearly couldn't run a fucking bath.

PeloFondo · 20/10/2022 14:15

KILM · 18/10/2022 12:06

This gets me from zero to 60 in 0.2 seconds: People who comment on other peoples appearance negatively.

"Oh god, mutton dressed as lamb"
"Blimey she's brave wearing that skirt"
"God those dungarees are a bit of an eyesore"
"Look at his makeup - bit over the top, dont know why he's drawing attention to himself"

Oh my god just FUCK OFF. I dont care if they cant hear you. Just fuck off, its literally nothing to do with you. Literally just let people enjoy their lives. Plus you sound so desperately thick when you say it, just really like... beige minded. If its not your taste, dont dress like it. I dont want to hear your stupid nasty comments. Noone does. Talk about the weather or something instead.
I dont know why it bothers me so much! Im not a particularly wacky dresser and im sure most of the people being commented about wouldnt give a shit but it just gives me the rage.

That drives me insane. My colleagues used to sit watching TV with incessant chatter like that, all negative
I work so hard to not say it and it's amazing when you realise how much people are negative about others
Don't like the outfit? Don't wear it
Think she's too fat to be on TV? She doesn't give a shit and is probably earning a fortune

Somethingsnappy · 20/10/2022 14:41

HighlandPony · 18/10/2022 13:11

Slow walkers. Meandering around in groups taking up the whole path. If you want to walk that slow then do it in single file. Maybe if you walked a little faster your arse wouldn’t be that size!

This made me laugh although it probably shouldn't. I am guilty of being large-of-arse. Although I'm pleased to say that I'm a competent, fast walker, so at least I can rule out meandering as the guilty cause of my, ahem, shapely bottom.

Somethingsnappy · 20/10/2022 17:17

satelliteheart · 18/10/2022 20:01

Dh having hiccups. I know he can't help it but it makes me so irrationally angry having to listen to them, especially when we're having a conversation and it keeps being interrupted by his hiccups. No one else's hiccups bother me

People I meet on the narrow country lanes where we live who are oblivious to passing places. No I will not reverse 50 yards because you weren't paying attention and drove straight past a passing place when you could clearly see I was coming. On a related note, what is this stuff about people beeping their horns on narrow lanes?! I live rurally and have never come across this. To the poster who does this, are you saying you just drive down the road merrily beeping your horn?! What weird behaviour. Not to mention completely against the highway code

Similarly people who live rurally, drive massive cars but are apparently completely incapable of reversing them or working out how wide they are and what gaps they can fit through.

People who insist on walking three abreast on the pavement and won't move to single file but expect me to walk in the road. This especially annoys me when I'm pushing the pram or holding hands with one of my young children. I'm not walking my pram/toddler into the road so you twats can continue your conversation. Nowadays I refuse to move and just keep walking at them until they have to move

People without children who park in parent & child spaces or people with two adults and a child in car, but only one adult gets out the car and the other stays in the parked car with the child. You didn't need the bigger space then did you?!

Our local Tesco who removed the pavement leading from the p&c spaces to the shop door so I now have to walk across the car park with my kids with no pavement/walkway

My mil who insists on comparing my children to bil in the weirdest way. Everything they do is "oh bil was exactly like that". That's great, but they're not bils children so it's a bit odd. Maybe compare them to your other son, their actual biological father? I get on very well with mil and this is the one thing she does that annoys me

Oh my goodness, are you me? Everything is the same, even down to the BIL comparisons. As for my DH's hiccups, he growls after each one. I grit my teeth and shoot him evil looks...

WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps · 20/10/2022 18:12

RainbowZebraWarrior · 20/10/2022 14:01

People petending they are capable of running the country, when they clearly couldn't run a fucking bath.

😂

CluelessHamster · 21/10/2022 10:08

People eating toast by tearing bits off and holding them in a twee way

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