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Things other people do that irrationally annoy you

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HuzzahIndeed · 18/10/2022 10:21

What do other people do that makes you really mad even though it really doesn't matter. My mum has made me so cross this morning over something that is meaningless. Logically I know it doesn't matter but I'm fuming. 🤣

The crime? She said that my youngest brother has been with his fiancé longer than I've been with my husband. I started dating my husband before he started school and got married just as he started secondary school so it isn't like she's slightly out. See, doesn't matter and yet grrrr.

Also middle brother announced his engagement at oldest brothers engagement party. Oldest brother and his wife are the most chilled people you have ever met (unlike me clearly) so didn't seem to mind but I was furious as it's such bad form.

Also the cat is a dick. She has several water bowls and fountains but won't use them. Put a mug of water down someone and her head is straight in there. We've taken to leaving water mugs in various places (which inevitable end up getting spilled) and drinking out of lidded travels cups.

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MeowMeowPowerRangers · 18/10/2022 10:25

People who are constantly negative everything has to be a drama, doesn't effect me in the slightest as I zone out but it does get on my nerves.

Also people who take up the whole Aisle in the supermarket and don't move when I've said "excuse me" 50 million times.

LeMoo · 18/10/2022 10:27

Breathe

CoffeeLover90 · 18/10/2022 10:39

When people chew loudly, smack their lips together or SLURP.
When they post on Facebook, 'where can I buy expensive item' GOOGLE. Or do you want us to do it for you so we know you're paying £50 for a kids hat? Good for you. applauds
In customer service, I get you're complaining and I do genuinely want to help but this YOU and YOUR company, blah blah. Like I'm personally responsible? Like this is my own company? Why the fuck would I be sat here talking to you then?
In the shops, people just stop suddenly in the middle of the aisle to start a conversation with another ignorant shit. No thought of me who nearly collided with you, who can't get past or can't get to the items.
When I try to bring up suggestions etc at work and these people who are older and supposedly wiser, than me feel the need to twist my words or explain things in a patronising way. The worst of it is I wasn't even addressing them.
People stroll along the street, next to a busy road, staring at their phone but your toddler is trailing behind you! FFS, I have no words.
See, I'm not a people person 😆 I prefer animals, even the annoying cats.

JorisBonson · 18/10/2022 10:40

Move. Talk. Live.

😅

Silverangels · 18/10/2022 10:46

I can’t/won’t shop with my dp
he loves,adores and worships at the door of Aldi-fine
but the second we shop at Asda/tesco I get the cats arse face,air sucked in,loudly through his teeth and ‘HOW MUCH?’ at every single item I go near
its embarrassing and I want to shove his head in the nearest chip fryer
best bit is,I pay for our food shop-it’s not coming out of his pocket (we don’t have joint accounts)

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 18/10/2022 10:49

People who swear unnecessarily and too much.

Stickmansmum · 18/10/2022 10:51

Gulping a glass of water. Pure rage at that sound.

CoffeeBeansGalore · 18/10/2022 10:56

Sniffing. Slurping. Talking at me, not to me. Mansplaining.

alittlequinnie · 18/10/2022 10:56

When my husband uses the soup mugs. Especially the mushroom soup mug.

They are mine - I brought them with me when we moved in together - but I hate them - they irritate me loads and to use them is even worse.

I KNOW it's irrational and completely unreasonable but every time he heats up soup and puts it in there I want to kill him!

... apart from that he's great!

At work - people who think it's okay to leave their bowl of half eaten cereal in the communal kitchen because "somebody" will wash it and put it away.

pantsville · 18/10/2022 10:58

When you walk past someone in the street who’s stopped to faff around with something, but as you pass them, they start walking again. Alongside you. Why?!

Also I had to re-read the husband/school bit in the OP!

MrsMoastyToasty · 18/10/2022 10:58

Two things rattle my cage.

Cyclists who cycle on the road when the pavement next to it is a designated cycle path. One 50mph road near us is often reduced to a crawl because a MAMIL is trying to achieve a personal best.

When you are in a shop or public building with a door that opens inwards (rather than sliding doors) and you open the door to leave the building but instead of being able to leave (creating more space inside) someone walks in. They usually don't say thanks either.

Brieeeeeeeee · 18/10/2022 11:01

People who make a noise when they yawn. STOP IT.

donttalkaboutbookclub · 18/10/2022 11:02

Tourists, even when I'm one.

FettleOfKish · 18/10/2022 11:04

The Woman this morning who's got into our apartment building with her survey and is wandering around door-knocking. NO.

There's an intercom security system at the front door for a reason. If you're welcome at the door of our flat we'll buzz you in, if you're not then buzz off.

Also people who say 'oooh you're being good' when you decline their offer of a biscuit. No, I'm just not hungry nor do I especially like biscuits.

And people who have phone conversations in public using earphones / headphones with their phone not even in their hand. I've got no idea why but it really irritates me Grin

elizzza · 18/10/2022 11:05

I have a thing with my mum that’s similar to yours OP - my brother is 10 years younger than me and she will totally misremember our relative ages - eg at 21 she thought he was “too young to go to Spain alone” (for a study abroad year, not even moving independently!) and when I said that I was only 20 when I went to New Zealand alone she said “no, you were much older!” Or at 27 my brother is “too young to be getting serious with his girlfriend”, I say I was 26 when I got married, she says “no you weren’t!” Like I don’t know how old I was when I got married?? If I argue she says “oh well you seemed a lot older”. Practically it makes zero difference to my life but every time it winds me up.

forevercooking · 18/10/2022 11:06

alittlequinnie · 18/10/2022 10:56

When my husband uses the soup mugs. Especially the mushroom soup mug.

They are mine - I brought them with me when we moved in together - but I hate them - they irritate me loads and to use them is even worse.

I KNOW it's irrational and completely unreasonable but every time he heats up soup and puts it in there I want to kill him!

... apart from that he's great!

At work - people who think it's okay to leave their bowl of half eaten cereal in the communal kitchen because "somebody" will wash it and put it away.

If you hate them just get rid of them?

mavismorpoth · 18/10/2022 11:09

When people get up on the tube off the seats that flip up, and they don't bother to muffle the sound but let it go BOOMF! and you have to hear BOOMF! multiple times in one train journey.
I find it inconsiderate.

People who let leakage come out of their headphones so you have to endure this tinny beat for however long you're by them.

Mercy1968 · 18/10/2022 11:10

People who put away the hoover with the button still switched on so when I get it out and plug it in it's roooaaarrrr straight away.
Don't know why it winds me up as much as it does.
Maybe because someone is so important and in such a hurry they can't be bothered to use an off switch?

Likewise lights left on at work and nobody at all around.
Lights on on a lovely sunny day and the blinds pulled down.
People who put the heating on because it's raining when it's actually 18c outside.
We are in South East England not the North Pole.

Doxiesshallinherittheearth · 18/10/2022 11:13

People biting their nails.

when people in restaurants start laughing in a over the top way like we all need to hear them.

people who tell rubbish jokes all the time.

People who walk slowly in front of me.

people who love to beep their car horn at every single person they pass by who they vaguely know.

Neighbours doing any noisy DIY.

and just generally, people!

Rozles · 18/10/2022 11:15

Mispronouncing things -

"Can I have a Koppenberg?"
"No! Because it's called KoppAberg!!"

Makes no difference, I know what they mean and I'm just being an arse, and I never say anything because of that, but it irrationally pisses me off for some reason 🤷🏼‍♀️

People who are having a conversation with someone else when calling you (not friends or family, calling a company/service where I'm on the other end of the phone) and you answer (sometimes 1st or 2nd ring too, not ringing for ages) and they miss your greeting because they're too busy talking to someone else and tell you to hang on or ignore you, like you rang me, the least you can do is talk to me instead of carrying on your other conversation!

And this stupid, disappearing keyboard again MN!!! Halfway through typing and off it fucks AGAIN. Will not bear me, I will type my response!!! 🙄🤣

forevercooking · 18/10/2022 11:17

elizzza · 18/10/2022 11:05

I have a thing with my mum that’s similar to yours OP - my brother is 10 years younger than me and she will totally misremember our relative ages - eg at 21 she thought he was “too young to go to Spain alone” (for a study abroad year, not even moving independently!) and when I said that I was only 20 when I went to New Zealand alone she said “no, you were much older!” Or at 27 my brother is “too young to be getting serious with his girlfriend”, I say I was 26 when I got married, she says “no you weren’t!” Like I don’t know how old I was when I got married?? If I argue she says “oh well you seemed a lot older”. Practically it makes zero difference to my life but every time it winds me up.

There's 7 years between my younger brother and I. My mum has a very clouded memory of our childhoods. Lots of 'I taught you to cook' - no you didn't
When I took you here - no you didn't that was my brother.
Oh you used to love that program.. no still my brother

Clevererthanyou · 18/10/2022 11:19

Folk who sniffsniffsniffsniffsniffsniffsniff incessantly and the worse crime ... making that hawking up phlegm sound and gulping the mucus down, loudly. It actually makes me angry and I hate myself for it.

ThingInTheAttic · 18/10/2022 11:23

Grown adults calling a pet a 'fur-baby'. I can't bear it, it's like someone scratching nails down a blackboard to me if I hear it. And I know it's irrational and doesn't affect my life in any way but grrrr! It's not a baby it's a cat/dog/ferret/whatever. Just stop.

hilariousnamehere · 18/10/2022 11:28

Cyclists on the road when there's a perfectly good cycle path next to the road arrrrghhhhhhhhhhh.

Ooh I feel better 😂

pinkpotatoez · 18/10/2022 11:29

Relationship advice from my mum who is in a miserable relationship herself and the things she's suggests are very outdated - what are you having for dinner? Oh are you not going to cook for partner? No because we don't live together and he is perfectly capable of feeding himself. Why are you in your slacks (At 9 at night) isn't partner coming round tonight? Yes but I'm not going to put a full face on and an outfit to go to bed Hmm