To still expect birthday presents at my age?!

[Cookienextdoor]

I'm not sure if I ABU or not- I've been quietly stewing on this but don't feel I can actually bring it up as I will sound like a spoilt child!
It was my birthday a few weeks ago and I'm in my 30s, with a DH and two young kids. I received a small gift from each child (chocolates which they kindly helped me eat 😂), cards from them and my DH and a card from my parents and my MIL. And that is it. No card from my siblings (and actually no acknowledgement from one of them now I think of it) or dh siblings. No gift from any adults in my family. I have cards from friends but we generally don't give gifts. AIBU to be a little disappointed by the lack of attention?! To be clear I don't expect expensive gifts or to be taken out for lavish meals or outings, but normally we do something for birthdays beyond a card and a WhatsApp message! So, AIBU and a brat? Or not?! I need telling!

Wow.

Your message makes no sense, grabby isn't even a word

OMG! I love it! It’s beautiful 😍

Well it is a word but not one anyone uses since the 1950s....

Well, as they’ve stopped giving you presents, this leaves you free to stop giving them
presents. Enjoy the extra time not having to shop for and wrap and send presents for people who don’t value it. This includes your siblings and in laws.

But did you ask your husband why no present?

I get a present from my parents but me and my siblings no longer buy for each other and haven't for a long time. I have 3 siblings and 8 nieces and nephews, so buying for all the children is enough really.

Having said that if it's a milestone birthday, I do get something for them but that's it.

Whaaat? Of COURSE you should get pressies, @Cookienextdoor - am gutted for you.. :-(

Don't buy the family presents anymore but definitely ask your husband why he thinks it okay to receive but not give back..

Well it is a word..

I don't even get birthday cards...

Yes I would. I'd be very disappointed if my family suddenly stopped giving gifts. However in my family we think birthdays are important and will always make an effort.

I don't get the adults can't have presents attitude or they are grabby attitude. We always have presies for birthday and Christmas. Gen

Oops generally thoughtful gifts. Giving us definitely one of my and my families love languages though and same with my friends, we always do gifts for birthdays.

YANBU my birthday isn’t until December and I’ve already bookmarked all my gift ideas ready to send DH 😂

Gosh do people really not get presents from their family?? I am mid 30s and get from parents siblings and nephews!