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To ask what you’re doing up past midnight?

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5YearsLeft · 17/10/2022 01:27

My meds are absolutely destroying me. It’s just… nothing left. And a friend told me that I haven’t been a good enough friend during this and I just… cannot comprehend. So I’m listening to this on replay:

Hope you other insomniacs are okay.

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PeppaPig4Tea · 18/10/2022 03:33

Baby had their first immunisations yesterday. It's been a nightmare!

If he's awake, he's been howling and if he's asleep, he's being carried.

KingaBee · 18/10/2022 03:50

Breast feeding 5 month old. She’s asleep now but if I put her down too early she will start crying / made that mistake earlier so now just reading a book and counting down the minutes.

sending hugs to those feeding even smaller babies and getting even less sleep xxx

Minniem2020 · 18/10/2022 04:08

6 month old doesn't want to sleep tonight. I've given up now and brought him downstairs to watch frozen planet 2 and have a cuppa(me not him).

Geppili · 19/10/2022 00:00

The Red Velvet cake was a huge success! Presented for your virtual delectation.

To ask what you’re doing up past midnight?
To ask what you’re doing up past midnight?
Blocked · 19/10/2022 00:13

That cake looks lovely!

I'm lying here soaking up the bliss of being in my happy place - snuggled up in bed with my toddler sleeping in the cot beside my bed, and my darling DS (5) due to come in beside me any time as he does every night. I love being with them so much particularly when they aren't asking me for things Grin

I'll regret staying up so late tomorrow though!

caroleanboneparte · 19/10/2022 00:17

It is unusual to be awake at midnight??

If I fall asleep before 11.30 I feel like I've missed out a bit of my day. The day doesn't end until midnight surely?

We just went up to bed after 11 and always watch tv/film etc for about an hour or 2. Sometimes read.

It's the only peace I get!

Have ASD dcs who don't go down til 10 or later.

katmeouws · 19/10/2022 00:22

Worked until 10pm. Just chillin´

TriceratopsRocks · 19/10/2022 00:24

Maybe some of you are up again tonight? I need time to switch off at the end of a day. It's been a difficult evening with DD (asd/anxiety) and I need something different and relaxing or I'll never get to sleep. So I'm fishing in a computer game, in a lovely and peaceful place with lakes and waterfalls, whilst reading mumsnet :) Like carolean above, it's the only peace I get :)

Bagpuss2022 · 19/10/2022 00:31

That cake looks amazing I’m onto my 3rd night of no sleep zero Sunday or Monday nights I hope I manage some soon

octonautsmom · 19/10/2022 00:44

I've been in bed since 6 but just woken up and can't get back to sleep. Day 5 of covid and yesterday I finally started to feel a bit better, only to wake up tonight with my fever back with a vengeance and everything aching Sad
The look of that chocolate cake has definitely helped lift my mood though Smile

bloodywhitecat · 19/10/2022 00:45

b0ldasbrass · 17/10/2022 02:24

I don't ever sleep any more. My husband died in Dec of last year and I keep myself awake thinking about what could have been. Been diagnosed with insomnia but nobody will do anything about it.

Likewise, my husband died in February, I haven't slept well since he was diagnosed in 2020. I replay everything and wonder how different it could've been had he been taken seriously when he first went to the GP. It's shit isn't it Flowers

HighlandPony · 19/10/2022 00:49

I’m still up too. Just finished a feed. We’ve got 12 week jags tomorrow after last weeks disaster and I can’t sleep worrying about not making it even though I will

lljkk · 19/10/2022 02:06

Staying in a noisy hotel above a lively bar. I did sleep about an hour maybe 10:45-1210. The loud music stopped ~ hour ago but I've been very awake for an hour before that. Brain is not interested in sleep. Bored Bored Bored.

TealTangot0gether · 19/10/2022 03:48

I went to bed at 9, because I have a bad cold
I am awake now taking some medicine
Then will need to get up for another 12 hour shift soon

MrsSchadenfreude · 19/10/2022 04:07

I’m with my Mum while she’s dying. I hope she goes in her sleep and doesn’t wake up. The death rattle is getting worse.

5YearsLeft · 19/10/2022 04:13

@bloodywhitecat So lovely to see you but so sorry to see you back! I remember last year, and what an absolute terrible time for you, and then I remember, it’s never “last year,” is it? It becomes this year, and the one we loved is still gone. I hope you’ve found some small simple pleasures in the mean time; I hope you’ve still seen some flowers bloom, and at this time of year, some leaves change color. You’re so very brave, even if you just get up in the morning and put your pants on one leg at a time… or both at once, for a surprise of a morning!!!!

@Geppili and @Clevererthanyou Thank you for the recommends! I’ve actually been on sertraline since I got my diagnosis in December but in this case, what’s causing the problem is steroids. Every time they suddenly give me a huge, crashing dosage with no taper upwards, I develop steroidal dementia - I cry when I wake up, I cry when I drink my tea, I cry all day long; I think everyone who loves me actually hates me, I think I’m worthless and a burden; it’s the only time I’ve EVER been really dangerously suicidal, and then I also worry that asking for help will make people hate me. My therapist now has me on some anti anxiety drugs until they can drop the steroid enough but I NEED the steroid because I have no bloody adrenal glands so I can’t just not take it which would be a LOT better. God, what a fix. So, are they psychotropic? Well, I would definitely warn all of Mumsnet that no one classifies drugs like prednisone (and oral hydrocortisone, or hydrocortone, hydrocortisolone) as psychoactive, but they are capable of causing HUGE changes to your mental health (depression, anxiety, mood swings, so far beyond the norm), and to be on the lookout.

And @Geppili congrats on success cake?

@caroleanboneparte I don’t know if it’s that bizarre after midnight, but we had to put the cutoff somewhere, you know? I mean, I think the first night I made the thread, I would have been putting, “You, hey you, wotcher, what you doing up past 1:32?” But it just doesn’t have the same right as “past midnight.” If we get a next thread, I’ll call it that.

@lljkk Always a pain when the brain doesn’t want the sleep anymore and you’re trying to tell it to do what it should.

@Blocked So glad to hear your je in your happy place!

@KingaBee and @Minniem2020 5 month old and 6 month old! Bless you both! At least Frozen Planet is a nice one to watch. How they get those shots of the animals! Just amazing.

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5YearsLeft · 19/10/2022 04:18

@MrsSchadenfreude Oh I’m so sorry. I know what you mean. Sometimes it’s much easier when it’s the end for a loved one to fade away peacefully, versus there being a big moment of hubbub, especially if you can already hear the rattle. I hope you’re not there alone with her but if you are, I’m so sorry about that too - sometimes life is unfair in these situations, and I hope you get some peaceful rest for yourself soon.

and @TealTangot0gether Im sorry! I do hope you feel better before you’re facing another 12-hour shift.

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redambergreen70 · 19/10/2022 04:31

So sorry @MrsSchadenfreude 😢sending you lots of love and strength.
Im full of a cold & sore throat and just can’t sleep.

beachyhead · 19/10/2022 04:37

I'm sorry to hear your news, Mrs S Flowers

I'm always awake between 3 and 4am or 4 and 5am.

5YearsLeft · 19/10/2022 04:43

@beachyhead Ah, that’s annoying! Maybe something about your internal body clock? Have you tried getting up, doing something for an hour, and then going back to sleep? I’m one of the first “after midnight” threads, someone shared a great article about how two sleep phases might be the norm.

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LetHimHaveIt · 19/10/2022 04:54

I've a suspicion I won't make old
bones, so I'm trying to pack a lot in. Listening to 'Teach Yourself Dutch' podcasts at the moment. Probably watch 'Top Gun: Maverick' for the umpteenth time, in a bit. Send some emails. Do some surveys.

5YearsLeft · 19/10/2022 05:08

@LetHimHaveIt The husband said Top Gun: Maverick was really quite amazing (he did flying in the Forces for several years). They invented a whole new camera rig to be able to shoot it and all the actors were required to be shooting up IN the planes, so I hear it’s quite something. Of course, a big ad for the US Forces, ha, but still quite impressive movie making and entertaining popcorn. Interesting about the Dutch. Do you feel it’s working? Is that for fun or work?

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LetHimHaveIt · 19/10/2022 05:18

It was markedly less a piece of propaganda for the US military, than the first one, that's for sure. I love it, although I'm aware part of that is loving what it represents - a slightly nostalgic smash hit at a time when a box office smash hit was much-needed. Terrific cast.
The Dutch is very much for fun!

5YearsLeft · 19/10/2022 06:57

@tiddlywinks2 Ah gosh, I’m so sorry. Yes, if you’re unable to return to sleep, I really do understand. I know that’s just a nightmarish feeling when you try everything and then see that clock blinking at 4am and know it was all for naught. No, useless over here. I desperately need sleep for my disease or my eye muscles won’t work correctly but if my body won’t sleep, it won’t sleep, you know? I did same as you: tried to lay here in the dark and just FORCE sleep to happen but… nothing. Sigh. And I have an emergency appointment with the eye doc today because these stupid steroids are causing some kind of eye pressure or something. Sigh; so I’m up now looking forward to two docs today (10am and 2pm).

@Bagpuss2022 how rotten! Stock up on industrial strength amounts of coffee or tea???

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