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To block OLD for asking me to buy him an I Tunes Voucher

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2022NewTimes · 16/10/2022 12:34

Just out of a 29 year relationship - been single for a year so though I would give OLD a little lookie.....

I have been chatting a man from OLD since Wednesday evening...all really nice and going well - a little bit too lovey-dovey for my taste - this morning he asked if I could help it at the supermarket - odd thing to ask as I live 70 miles away from him - so I ignore it - later I message to say was it meant for me ? He said he has trying to buy an ITunes voucher but they had none in the store could I help him.....I said you can get a monthly subscription taken straight from your credit card so you always have your iCloud space - he said it didn't work - I said can you buy the gift card online - he said "?" I then said you can buy them on Amazon or you can ring your local stores and see if they have them in stock..

So I then ask him straight out " are you asking me to buy one for you " He replied "yes If you could help me get one."

I replied " well thats such a shame as you seemed really nice.... please note that is completely inappropriate to ask someone you have been speaking for less than five days to buy you something......I will not be contacting you again "

AIBU - and should I report him on the OLD site ?

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AnApparitionQuipped · 16/10/2022 12:36

YANBU. He is a scammer. Report him.

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WagathaChristieMystery · 16/10/2022 12:37

I wouldn’t report him. Neither of you ‘owe’ each other anything, especially at such an early stage of getting to know each other, but I don’t think he’s done anything wrong. Just block him if you don’t feel comfortable with what he’s asking.

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luxxlisbon · 16/10/2022 12:38

Sounds like a scam.

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Riverlee · 16/10/2022 12:39

He’s already try to get (extortion) money out of you in less than a week!

Bullet dodged!

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Hotandbothereds · 16/10/2022 12:41

Scammer, what a twat - I’d just block & move on.

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RandomMusings7 · 16/10/2022 12:43

100% scammer. Please report him

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LimeTwists · 16/10/2022 12:44

Sounds like a scam to me as well - report him. Really not normal behaviour to ask someone on an online dating site to buy you an Itunes voucher. If the supermarket doesn’t have them, there are plenty of other ways to get one, but he instead decided to ask someone he’s known for three days to pay for it. There’s your evidence that he’s weird.

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RosieCockle · 16/10/2022 12:46

Getting people to buy iTunes vouchers is a well known scam.

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PinkFrogss · 16/10/2022 12:49

Definitely a scammer, probably fake pictures and name. Report the profile OP, far too many vulnerable people falls for them.

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Whatevergetsyouthroughthenight · 16/10/2022 12:50

Report. Clearly a scammer and will do it to someone more vulnerable than you if not stopped.

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RagzRebooted · 16/10/2022 12:50

RosieCockle · 16/10/2022 12:46

Getting people to buy iTunes vouchers is a well known scam.

This. DH had similar from a hacked friend on Facebook. He wound them up by saying he'd bought one and dropped it through their letterbox!

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Always4Brenner · 16/10/2022 12:50

Please report

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mynameiscalypso · 16/10/2022 12:51

Well known scam I'm afraid. I'd imagine not at all who he says he is and probably working from a scam farm somewhere overseas.

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extrasushiplease · 16/10/2022 12:51

Yeah, “iTunes vouchers” are today’s “Nigerian prince:” Never, ever trust that, and be weary of immediately lovey dovey guys as well.

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TimBoothseyes · 16/10/2022 12:53
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2022NewTimes · 16/10/2022 12:57

@extrasushiplease - I have read alot about these types of things re OLD on Mumsnet so I was very cautious when contacting him..... just did not think he would be that blatant so quickly......😂 Good job I had my red flags antenna on !!

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AtomicBlondeRose · 16/10/2022 12:59

I mean this gently, OP - your red flag antennae are not working terribly if it’s taken you three days to realise he’s a scammer.

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SpringIntoChaos · 16/10/2022 13:00

WagathaChristieMystery · 16/10/2022 12:37

I wouldn’t report him. Neither of you ‘owe’ each other anything, especially at such an early stage of getting to know each other, but I don’t think he’s done anything wrong. Just block him if you don’t feel comfortable with what he’s asking.

Are you seriously this naive??? Of course it's a bloody scammer ffs!!! He's asked a COMPLETE stranger on a dating site to buy him something...he's scoping her out!

Jesus wept...I often wondered to myself, "How on earth are women online STILL falling for this nonsense and being scammed out of their life savings by fucking conmen?"

Well now I know...because women like you fall for it!! THIS is how it starts, with something small...and then it builds as they reel you in!

On my life!!! 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

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Idratherbepaddleboarding · 16/10/2022 13:00

WagathaChristieMystery · 16/10/2022 12:37

I wouldn’t report him. Neither of you ‘owe’ each other anything, especially at such an early stage of getting to know each other, but I don’t think he’s done anything wrong. Just block him if you don’t feel comfortable with what he’s asking.

I would. He’s clearly a scammer testing out of you’ll fall for it. You haven’t but if you don’t report it, the next person might.

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LIZS · 16/10/2022 13:02

Often get emails claiming to be from contacts along the lines of "are you free to do something for me?" "I'm stuck in a meeting/overseas/at work, can you buy a iTunes voucher for me" Then if you do they ask fir the details under scratch off panel to redeem it. A known scam possibly the original account was hacked or the old uses it ask his mo,

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neverhaveiDEVI · 16/10/2022 13:02

scammer. Definitely report!

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2022NewTimes · 16/10/2022 13:02

@AtomicBlondeRose He only asked for the voucher this morning - prior to today it was all normal conversation..... no red flags or weird questions... Dealt with the red flag as soon as it happened

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TwoWrightFeet · 16/10/2022 13:03

Classic scam. Block and move on. I hope you didn’t share any personal details or photos with him.

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Georgeskitchen · 16/10/2022 13:03

This is definitely a scam. Working in a large supermarket, luckily I heard about this and was able to prevent an elderly man from purchasing 800 quid of I tune vouchers. I think it was by way of a phone call telling this man he owed money to HMRC. And instructing him to pay in ITunes vouchers. We brought in the local beat officer who took the man home to talk to him about safety. Poor old chap was in tears xx

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AnApparitionQuipped · 16/10/2022 13:03

he's scoping her out!

Yes. It will start with something relatively small like this voucher, then next thing he will be asking OP to help him pay import charges to bring diamonds into the country; or fund his baby nephew's eye operation to the tune of £thousands.

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