AIBU?
To block OLD for asking me to buy him an I Tunes Voucher
2022NewTimes · 16/10/2022 12:34
Just out of a 29 year relationship - been single for a year so though I would give OLD a little lookie.....
I have been chatting a man from OLD since Wednesday evening...all really nice and going well - a little bit too lovey-dovey for my taste - this morning he asked if I could help it at the supermarket - odd thing to ask as I live 70 miles away from him - so I ignore it - later I message to say was it meant for me ? He said he has trying to buy an ITunes voucher but they had none in the store could I help him.....I said you can get a monthly subscription taken straight from your credit card so you always have your iCloud space - he said it didn't work - I said can you buy the gift card online - he said "?" I then said you can buy them on Amazon or you can ring your local stores and see if they have them in stock..
So I then ask him straight out " are you asking me to buy one for you " He replied "yes If you could help me get one."
I replied " well thats such a shame as you seemed really nice.... please note that is completely inappropriate to ask someone you have been speaking for less than five days to buy you something......I will not be contacting you again "
AIBU - and should I report him on the OLD site ?
Am I being unreasonable?
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Dotcheck · 16/10/2022 13:06
AtomicBlondeRose · 16/10/2022 12:59
I mean this gently, OP - your red flag antennae are not working terribly if it’s taken you three days to realise he’s a scammer.
What do you mean? It took op less than half a day to work out it was a scam, and she binned him immediately.
mynameiscalypso · 16/10/2022 13:09
It's always worth doing a reverse image search of their profile picture. Scammers often use the same one multiple times / steal it from somewhere. I'd never talk to someone on OLD without doing that first (although scammers realise this and are adapting)
Oliverfunyuns · 16/10/2022 13:09
I suppose some might think OP should have realised earlier that he wasn't genuine from his texting style. She did say he was overly lovey-dovey. But it can be difficult to tell through texts when you're only just beginning to get to know someone new.
I'm glad you weren't taken in by him, OP! It's a shame there are so many scammers out there making dating even more complicated than it already has to be.
Mumofazoo · 16/10/2022 13:11
I have had this through my business socials, calling me dear and saying he's got such a strong connection to me and could I help him out with an iTunes voucher,when I point out I'm married they say it doesn't matter we can be special friends. I like to drag it out and wind them up until they realise and call me nasty names.
RiftGibbon · 16/10/2022 13:12
WagathaChristieMystery · 16/10/2022 12:37
I wouldn’t report him. Neither of you ‘owe’ each other anything, especially at such an early stage of getting to know each other, but I don’t think he’s done anything wrong. Just block him if you don’t feel comfortable with what he’s asking.
It's a known scam. He needs reporting and kicking off the site.
Hungrycaterpillarsmummy · 16/10/2022 13:13
WagathaChristieMystery · 16/10/2022 12:37
I wouldn’t report him. Neither of you ‘owe’ each other anything, especially at such an early stage of getting to know each other, but I don’t think he’s done anything wrong. Just block him if you don’t feel comfortable with what he’s asking.
It's a scam
Mermaidwaves · 16/10/2022 13:15
One of the ways to tell a scammer is they dont really give out information about themselves, they ask you lots of questions about yourself. I've been messaged by scammers OLD claiming to live in the same town as me, but when you ask them about that they avoid answering or are unable to.
If you're not sure in future of course don't engage with them but try asking a few key questions to see if it's a genuine profile.
Glitteratitar · 16/10/2022 13:17
WagathaChristieMystery · 16/10/2022 12:37
I wouldn’t report him. Neither of you ‘owe’ each other anything, especially at such an early stage of getting to know each other, but I don’t think he’s done anything wrong. Just block him if you don’t feel comfortable with what he’s asking.
The irony between your user name and your post 😂
RoseOud · 16/10/2022 13:25
'Romance Scammers And Online Scams' is an excellent YouTube channel run by a lady called Annie.
She has many different characters and comes upon many scammers and takes you through the whole relationship from beginning to end.
After watching a few of these, you will see how the scammer uses the same script every time.
Annie makes it very entertaining. Worth a watch.
🙂
2022NewTimes · 16/10/2022 13:27
AtomicBlondeRose · 16/10/2022 13:09
@Dotcheck chatting from Wednesday-Sunday without realising it’s a scammer isn’t showing great red-flag-reading skills. I would imagine there are some fairly glaring ones in the profile alone (photo/life story/writing skills etc).
@AtomicBlondeRose Wednesday evening to Sunday morning when he actually asked for the voucher is not that long. I said in my post that I was cautious - the replies were not what I would have expected from a scammer - no copy and pasted text or anything like that - long replies with information about themselves - nothing scammy about it. As I said he was a bit too lovey-dovey which was why I was cautious so when he tried to scam me this morning I replied and blocked straight away
SpringIntoChaos · 16/10/2022 13:58
Mumofazoo · 16/10/2022 13:11
I have had this through my business socials, calling me dear and saying he's got such a strong connection to me and could I help him out with an iTunes voucher,when I point out I'm married they say it doesn't matter we can be special friends. I like to drag it out and wind them up until they realise and call me nasty names.
Yup! The 'How are you dear?' is an instant 🚩
It's actually pretty easy to sift the scammers from their very first message! So many stick to 'the script'...or very close to it...and the key words are always there somewhere 🤷♀️
Eg. dear, beautiful (as a greeting, Hello Beautiful), god fearing, OVER THE TOP compliments about your 'beauty/eyes/smile' etc...makes my skin crawl 🤮), they are often 'engineers', or work off-shore (in oil/petrol industries). Photos are TOO SHINY/PERFECT to be anything other than fake!!
God they are the scum of the earth...men, preying on women, in order to extort money. I watched a documentary on this once...they're often sitting in dirty rooms with banks of computers, loads of men together (clearly overseas) doing this all day long en-masse. Despicable!
Silverangels · 16/10/2022 14:00
my ex used to have this
hed go online (looking for cheap sex),a ‘girl’ would chat to him and they’d then swop numbers (never speaking to each other on the phone-only texts) and after a few hours/days ‘she’ would ask him to buy her some credit for her phone (in the days of buying a voucher and entering the code)
he would-then he’d send it and never hear back from ‘her’
could afford to do this,endlessly,in his quest for sex,but couldn’t afford to pay for his child
a fool and their money are easily parted…
Obki · 17/10/2022 08:07
WagathaChristieMystery · 16/10/2022 12:37
I wouldn’t report him. Neither of you ‘owe’ each other anything, especially at such an early stage of getting to know each other, but I don’t think he’s done anything wrong. Just block him if you don’t feel comfortable with what he’s asking.
It’s a scam. ITunes vouchers are the preferred currency for telephone scammers too.
Did you come down in the last rain?
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