to resent the implication that all men have/look at porn and therefore women should just accept that?

[wannaBe]

so often have read "all men have/look at porn".

I absolutely 100% know that my dh does not look at, or possess any porn. He freely admits that he looked when he was a teenager but says it's very juvanile really and he has no need or desire to now that he's married.

I do realize that a lot of men do look, but I really do not believe that all men do.

and I resnet this implication that all men look at porn and that women should just accept that.

Dh says that he doesn't look at porn.

He has doen in the past, as a teenager, and as a single adult.

I wouldn't be too happy if he was looking at it, maybe because ut would make me feel inadequate, also because it isn't a nice industry, and somehting I hope that dh wouldn't be influenced, or attracted, by.

"what about the mans body ?"

"He's engaging in a sexual act for money aswell you know"

So true. It's just an example of the double standards of todays society. It's perfectly ok for say a bunch of women to go and watch a male stripper, it's a laugh, abit of fun. But if a man goes and watches a woman stipper he is branded a 'typical man', a pervert etc.

In most cases the women in the porn industry ie; movies, strip clubs etc, are there because they are being paid good money to be there. How can women be so horrified about this when it's the woman who has put herself in that movie? If that makes sense?

Priceless, isnt it?

Try this too. Not porn-related, but a 'banned' advert for Mastercard...too funny!

To all the women that claim their DH/DP NEVER look at porn, how do you know? Are you with them 24/7?

do you resent the implication that he has fantasies that don't involve you too?

I have fantasies that don't involve my dp. But that's all they are... fantasies. I have no intention of acting them out in real life and i don't love my dp any less for having my fantasies either. It's just some healthy fun i have in my head that's all and i don't think there is anything wrong with that.

Not all men look at porn. I've dated quite a few who don't. Not all women find porn disgusting, degrading or threatening, either. Yes there are lots of threads on here from women upset that their DPs look at porn, but in some of these cases, the women are actually being a bit unreasonable. In other cases, the men are being unreasonable. But what so often irritates me about these threads is the statements some people make about 'porn' as though it's all exactly the same, carrying exactly the same messages, when this is simply not true. Sexually explicit films and pictures can be crude and unpleasant, glossy and sophisticated, playful and funny, or boring - there is a fair bit of porn being made by women and aimed at women and couples. Also, when it comes to labelling media as sexist, objectifying and offensive, there is plenty of unpleasant insulting stuff in mainstream media as well.

KrippledKerryMum, sometimes yes and sometimes no. My fantasies mainly go on in my head while he is going down on me and that's great and perfectly healthy because it helps me climax. It's no big secret and it doesn't mean he is anything but a good lover but my fantasies are part of our sex life. Or am i not supposed to admit this like you said?