to resent the implication that all men have/look at porn and therefore women should just accept that?

[wannaBe]

so often have read "all men have/look at porn".

I absolutely 100% know that my dh does not look at, or possess any porn. He freely admits that he looked when he was a teenager but says it's very juvanile really and he has no need or desire to now that he's married.

I do realize that a lot of men do look, but I really do not believe that all men do.

and I resnet this implication that all men look at porn and that women should just accept that.

I resent the implication that women are not allowed to moan about anything their partners do. I mean to say, I didn't get married to nag myself.

Wannabe.

Is it the "in secret" part that would bother you. would you be ok if your dh was open about it? my dh has some porn films, and i'm ok with it,because i know about them.

I recently read a book by a man who threw himself into internet dating for a year, taking in net porn along the way. It is a witty book and quite sensible too. There's an interview with the author in the Sunday Times, here - here's a tiny excerpt but well worth reading the whole article (and the book is good too!)

"?And men are designed by evolution to be almost insatiable. So it?s a dangerous combination ? insatiability and the enormousness of the net. The happy thing is that there is probably a saturation point ? you just get full up, in my case after about a couple of weeks. My friends have had similar experiences ? they?ve known they were out of control and they?ve had to come offline or block their own access to certain websites, go cold turkey.?

Is the ubiquity of explicit sex on the net a good thing? ?Probably not. We?re not equipped to withstand this amount of porn and sexual imagery. I rarely take a puritanical view of things, but I?m suspicious now of the internet.?

Why do you need to know about every aspect of your loved ones lives though ? I like to think i know most things about my fiance but i genuinly am not intrested in when he has a wank, stratches his arse or picks his nose !

In life people need to have some privacy.. i'd go mental if i wasnt allowed to do something that was just for me !

Obviously porn can become a problem and absolutly if it did in my house i'd be moaning but it really isnt that important if its only occasional and they tidy up after themselves !

Apart from Df i dont know any men who don't like porn, its just one of those things !

Lad2Dad, I'm sorry but I don't think it celebrates women. It's quite often an unrealistic airbrushed/bleached/surgically enhanced stereotype of what women "should" look like, and behave.
While I acknowledge that a woman can get a kick from the power of turning someone on, I would hope that we could do it without resorting to cartoonish implants, and adopting a submissive "do what you want to me, Oh I love it" stance.

Pliant, young girls with big tits wanting to please men... how does that celebrate my achievements?

By the way, I'm pretty hot, it's not that I'm jealous of the attention these girls get. I go dancing and get plenty of attention. I just prefer talking to guys that ask me about my job, politic views and whether the Mighty Boosh is funnier than Green Wing or not.

Its pure fantasy. most men could never have sex with a really beautiful woman, so they have to look at picturs instead. plus, most woman are not "dying for it" even young women. it's all fantasy. a woman, regardless of looks can get sex quite easily. men can't.

Exactly dittany. i laughed when i read that.

well jumping in rather late but have skimmed through.

If you have ever looked at porn, you will find that the majority of the women are not beautiful infact they are more 3 oclock birds as my brothers would say.

And i may be gutted like a pig for this but ladies please, men DO look at porn. I think the majority of the problem is women dont use it as much as men so it is not understood. Have a look, you can not have a grounded and fair discussion if you have not.

And to niftynanny, unfortunatley hot or not, they want hot not politics and conversations, we all look at things we like, so they see what they like, the conversation should follow later.

I don't usually post on porn discusssion threads but I loved Worzsel's post.

How true. Just because you are married or in a long term relationship doesn't mean you have to know every waking thought and desire of that person. Nor can you possibly be the person in every one of his fantasy's who has the starring role.

As long as the relationship is working, he is faithful etc I don't need to analyse dh and I accept he probably has a private inner life to some extent. Doesn't everyone?

I haven't read all of the thread but I do personally think MOST men look at porn one way or another, be it dvd's, mags, page 3 girls or nuts or zoo mags.

I personally don't like porn and don't watch it - my DH watches it sometimes and has a stash of mags, particularly mags which show women over 40 (he prefers older women).

I don't have a problem with him watching it though BUT maybe I am being a hypocrite because I do often think about those poor women in the films - were they forced into porn, maybe they were trafficked etc etc .

ew and lol at older women

Why Cod??? Better than him fancying some fit 18 yo - makes me feel better .

you know, i know plenty of women who like porn too

ok well if we're going to be open about it then

My names Sarah and i like porn !

I find the assumption that All Men Do It, and that if you think your male partner doesn't you are a deluded emasculating frigid type very offensive.

For the record, none of the three men I have lived with consumed porn during that relationship.

I agree with Sprogger about the industrialisation, and with NiftyNanny about the yeuch factor in the idea that women's bodies are to be purchased and consumed.

Oh, and while I fully accept that some of my personal unease around porn is because it makes me feel physically inadequate, I have no problem with the fact that presumably my partner has sexual fantasies. It's the commercialisation that I dislike.

what about the mans body ?

He's engaging in a sexual act for money aswell you know

arf

lol.

And I like prawns.