To just go away by myself for a couple of nights?

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'D'P and I are not getting on well right now. I want to separate. He wants to bury his head in the sand and pretend it's not happening.

I'm completely drained and exhausted. I feel like I'm walking on eggshells in the house. Feel I can't talk to him about what's happening because he won't accept reality. It's impacting on my sleep, and on my work. My body feels tense and there's a painful knot in my stomach 24hrs a day. I normally never have a problem with my mental health but I can feel myself slipping. I'm bursting into tears randomly during the day without warning.

If I just up and left, I would need to continue paying the mortgage because he can't pay the bills on this place alone. I won't be able to afford that plus a rental around here. So financially, we're both stuck here until we sell the house. ³

We've both had next week booked off work for months. Normally always go somewhere in October but I cancelled our lodge some weeks ago as I knew we were at an end.

I can't stand the thought of a full week with him in the house without the break of us both going to work.

WIBU to go away by myself for a couple of nights? I don't care where I go. I want to just close the curtains, shut the door, and not speak to a single human being for 2-3 days.

There are no DC in this situation, thank God.

Thank you everyone. I did have a fantastic break. I'm home now and got a million and one questions from ex-DP.

HE WENT BLOODY LOOKING FOR ME!

Got in the car and drove about. He didn't admit it outright but made no point in trying to hide it. He described how he "went for a drive" on Monday and described the exact road down to my mates house in the middle of nowhere some 100-odd miles away

I had that horrible anxious knot in my stomach all the way home today but as soon as he let that slip, I knew I had made the right decision. Both in having a break and leaving him.

Glad you had a good break, and hope you can get things moving on getting out of sharing a home asap. x

And going looking for you is quite alarming. Stay safe.

Throw us an update now and again, you know, just to let us know how you're doing? And well done for just doing it! 👏 🙃

Hi guys, update for you all

When I got home from that trip and found out ex-DP had tried to follow me, I told him enough was enough and that I couldn't live like this anymore.

I got the house on the market and we got a buyer within the fortnight. Which is just as well because ex-DP refused to move out.

House will be sold at the end of this month and I've moved into rented accommodation. I'm going to start looking for a place of my own now!

I've had a couple of wobbles the past week or so but re-reading this thread has reminded me that I'm doing the right thing.

Glad you're doing OK and the end is in sight. 😊

Fantastic news OP! You did the right thing.

Well done OP.

What a scary freak.

How did you get him to accept it?

He sounds completely unhinged.

I didn't need to "get" him to accept it. I sat him down, told him I couldn't do if any more, couldn't live like this. This relationship is no longer healthy for either of us, etc etc. All he said was "so is that it then? I take it the house will be going on the market?" and thats been the extent of the conversation.

He's tried to lay on the guilt a good number of times but has never once not "accepted it".

I think deep down he knew what he was doing was unhinged and how it was going to turn out!

I'm glad you're getting things sorted, just think, you can soon sit in pyjamas and watch all the films you like on your own, it'll be fab!

Thank goodness for that.

Well done and every good wish for your wonderful future.🥳

I was cheering you on back in October and am glad things are going in the right direction. Please do keep posting on here if you need support, and in the meantime, keep going!