To be so unutterably bored by all the talk of "money"?

[FelicityFlops]

I may not belong to the current demographic of this website, but I was brought up never to discuss money or religion, in polite company.
In the current climate I think this holds even more true, or am I totally off the mark?

Well MN is hardly “polite company” is it?

Yes.

Totally different to discuss money & religion on an anonymous website than down the pub imo, if you don’t want to get into those discussions then don’t comment on them.

Must be nice to not have to worry about it.

Are you quite well off?

Lots of people are worried about money at the moment so of course there is lots of talk about it just now.

It's not impolite to talk about money. It's even more important to get rid of that idea for women. That is one of the ways that employers manage to get away with paying women less, because they don't talk about salaries and don't realise they are under valued.

It's an anonymous chat forum, not afternoon tea in the church hall

It depends what you mean by "discussing money".

If you mean stealth boasting about salary etc, fair enough.

But money is pretty important, its impossible to get through life without it, it massively determines the quality of life and shapes how societies are run and is a huge motivator for most people. It's also particularly important for women to be able to understand and have some control over their money and an inability to talk and think about money is massively problematic.

So on the wider point, YABU.

People are generally asking for help and advice about how to cope, on an anonymous site. It’s not nice at all to criticize anyone for this.

It comes across like sneering at someone who uses the wrong knife at a formal meal.

I wouldn't be here if it was polite company.

Thank fuck.

I never said that I was not worried about it, but money is just not a subject I would bring up in conversation.
I even noticed this recently when with family members, they were all obsessed by it - nobody "badly off" - whatever that means, but not in dire straits.

I think it’s important people can talk about money. It’s a massive part of life and one of the most divisive aspects of society. It’s a bit rude to ask someone how much they earn while manning the cake stall at the village fete, but discussing cost of living or gender pay gap or whatever is important for a fairer society.

As for MN, people post things here they wouldn’t ask their family or friends exactly because it could be seen as impolite or tacky.

So you’re a bit skint but giving it Im so bored by money lol?

😂

In the current climate?
So people should not discuss that they are struggling with the cost of living crisis in the country?
Is it uncouth to say they can’t afford their rising energy bills or their higher mortgage rate?
Is it distasteful to be vocally against abolishing the higher tax rate while cutting benefits for the poorest in society?

Thanks for the etiquette lesson.

I was brought up the same way op and although I feel it's good for people to be able to speak freely and get good advice my upbringing does mean I inwardly cringe when it's spoken about. Hard thing to unlearn.

Op how old are you, I’m assuming 60 -70-80?

My MIL always used to say that other people talking about money bored her, and she had no interest in anything financial related. The thing is, she has no money worries, so it was easy to say for her (and quite tone deaf given most of the people she said this to were significantly poorer than her).
Yanbu if you are talking about other people discussing stocks and shares in company, but if they are worried about paying their gas bills, while you know yours will be paid by your husband's direct debits, then you are very thick and unthinking.

I don’t mind it & the money threads are always ones I click on to read. I wouldn’t start asking my friends how much they earn/ savings they’ve got etc but I like posts on here about both money & politics.

I think it's really important to speak about money. Not talking about money in polite conversation means that you can't always tell if you're being underpaid or what is a reasonable market rate for your work.

We should have more conversations about money not less. I’m not talking peoples individual financial situation but important topics - savings, mortgages, pensions, credit cards. People need to make more informed choices in these areas.
I despair of some of the threads on here not because they bore me but some of the financial illiteracy scares me. I’m trying to bring my children up to known about finance but I think this should be part of our education system so all children have the knowledge to make informed decisions about finances

YABU

i find it’s only the boring or the old that find talk of money to be an issue. Thankfully times move on

Yabu. We need to talk about money more openly , if only to start making headway with the gender pay gap.

Does it matter?

I think people need to discuss money more, not less. Especially salaries.

Seconded - there seems to a concerted campaign of people moaning about "nasty" posts when all they mean is someone didn't agree with them.