To be so unutterably bored by all the talk of "money"?

[FelicityFlops]

I may not belong to the current demographic of this website, but I was brought up never to discuss money or religion, in polite company.
In the current climate I think this holds even more true, or am I totally off the mark?

No-one’s “telling” you, people are posting on an anonymous forum that you are choosing to read.

I have to limit my time around my dad’s side of the family because of this. They are completely and utterly OBSESSED with money and property. It is all they talk about. Family dinners descend into competitive one upping each other on their assets and giving each other unsolicited financial advice. I have had to shut my uncle down several times for telling me that I need to get onto the propert ladder at all costs and that I should move to some random town in Scotland (no connection to Scotland, I live in Birmingham) because property is cheap there. They all shamelessy dip into my grandma’s (who has dementias) savings and all have plans for their inheritance. My dad is the only one of 7 siblings who isn’t like that.

It’s important that women talk about money, that they understand it, and know how to manage and make it.

You've literally started a thread about it and are now discussing it. Which is fine, but doesn't really fit with your 'It's frightfully naff to talk about money' theory.

Precisely! If you find money unutterably boring why start a thread on a site with a very large amount of posters? It is contraditory

No you are completely right, people should just suffer and worry in silence. Shame is great.

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People need to discuss money more not less. So they learn to manage it properly, understand how it works, how to invest, make sure they are being paid properly, make sure they and their partner don’t fa out over money…

I grew up in a financially abusive household. Not feeling able to talk about money with her female co-workers was what led to my mum believing it was quite normal for a husband to give her £20 a week housekeeping and expect that to keep 7 of us in food, electric, gas and phone for a week. While he was at his 'club' drinking 4 nights a week.
Talk, talk, talk is how we protect each other and our kids.
Now politics and religion, well you can keep them.

I think you are very wrong. Talking about money is a good thing and many people find it difficult in real life so an anonymous forum is a great place to get it all out. I have saved and made a significant amount over the years from strangers advice (mainly on MSE). They have helped me get out of debt, then save and invest, and it's changed my life for the better.

I came to MN specifically to talk about money. Making it, losing it, investing it, spending it and saving it. Men are allowed to talk about it. Why can’t women?

Also, ‘money’ is a big topic. Everything from the economy to kids piggy banks is ‘money’. It can’t all be rude. And you only have the luxury of not talking about it if you have no worries, and little responsibility for it.

Definitely unreasonable. I do think people should be careful about dumping outwards. I don’t want to talk about how to invest a chunk of it to someone who is struggling with daily expenses. But I don’t see why I shouldn’t discuss my investments with people who have comparable ones. That’s how you learn and establish cultural norms. And we all need it!

Definitely unreasonable. Loads of people are really worried at the moment. Sorry that’s boring for you.

This. ^

OP asks a question.

Other posters disagree, and give THEIR point of view.

OP (and her cheerleaders) say 'OH YOU'RE SO NASTY! You need to be KIND. You are so goady and inflammatory ...

Unbelievable! 😂

Then when you don't carry on posting, they keep trying to bait you back onto the thread.

@FelicityFlops YABVU!

Songwriters and artists disagree.

Money money money ABBA
Money Pink Floyd
Money talks ACDC
Money makes the world go round Cabaret
….

Martin Lewis must be the most vulgar person in history, then!

As has been said, MN is anonymous, so it doesn't really matter if you end up falling out with somebody with very different views about money from you - they aren't your Aunty Gladys, who'll stop coming over for Sunday afternoon tea and start badmouthing you in the parish magazine.

Same as always: if a thread doesn't interest/bores/scares you, all you have to do is.... nothing; just ignore it and keep on scrolling.

Songwriters and artists disagree.

I would (slightly) respect any bank that had the honesty to use this song in their adverts, rather than blethering on about being 'by your side', 'with you come what may', 'here to help' or anything else suggesting that they want to be your friend.

MakingNBaking's post shows why some people really don't like it when women talk.

Ah. Another "Women, know your limits!" thread.

Congrats for originality, OP.

It's definitely not impolite to discuss why everyone's talking about money, ie: the conduct of the government and the economic consequences.

Unless you're a hard-core tory in denial.

But let's say, it is impolite to discuss money at all. The opening post implies that the OP doesn't have a personal cost of living crisis. This is quite obvious, a different demographic..

So shoving your apparent comfort in the faces of an audience who are largely becoming uncomfortable, that's rude as hell.

This!! I always talk about money with friends and even around acquaintances (obviously if the topic is relevant, I'm not a bore!) because I believe that, especially with women, ooeneds about finances breeds knowledge and independence. And with men it can also help to combat the dangerous competitive cycle. The more we talk about money with friends the more we realise we aren't 'behind' in our lives and we all have our own challenges. We know who has had a pay rise and who might be a bit tight becuase they've had a huge expense. We know who has had an inheritance and so we don't compare our position with their etc. It's strengthened our relationships more than anything else. It helps one of our group is an IFA because we all go to him for advice anyway, but our get togethers are often used for big and exciting discussions about tax and salary and childcare and mortgages etc. We talk and debate and challenge each other. We all have different incomes and different outgoings. There's no prejudice or judgement.

This.

Look at how many people didn't understand how their energy bills were calculated until the prices went up.

Today I've just read that only 3% of people eligible for a social tariff on their broadband, which means they can get it for around £15 a month have taken it up.

So many people are paying far more than they need for a large part of their bills and general spending because they don't understand things like mobile phone contracts, or bother to shop around, or use discount codes.

There's so much that people can do to make their money go further if they understand what help is available and how a lot of things can be had for less if they compare prices.

But they have to make the effort and talking about money helps raise awareness and teach people to help themselves as best they can.

Today I've just read that only 3% of people eligible for a social tariff on their broadband, which means they can get it for around £15 a month have taken it up.

It took ages and ages for many eligible couples with a SAHP to sign up for the Marriage Allowance - and I'm sure there are probably still loads that haven't heard of it.

There's so much that people can do to make their money go further if they understand what help is available and how a lot of things can be had for less if they compare prices.

One of the many problems with limited internet access is you just don't have unlimited resources to keep looking for the latest info and deals. You have to rely on your provider letting you know - and I did not get any kind of notification or reminder about a social tariff for broadband. thats the sort of thing I would have looked into.

Or you could sign up to the Moneysaving Expert weekly email and spend 5 minutes a week being informed about all these things for similar bandwidth to uploading a single photograph to <insert social media platform of choice>.

That's great, once you know about it. People who have limited social media and internet access are the least likely to find out in the first place.
Its not targeted info, so a larger amount of data sent to your phone really isn't practical for everyone compared to a text or email.

Oh come on, you're effectively saying that 97% of people entitled to benefits can't afford a basic smartphone or social media.

I call bullshit.