To be so unutterably bored by all the talk of "money"?

[FelicityFlops]

I may not belong to the current demographic of this website, but I was brought up never to discuss money or religion, in polite company.
In the current climate I think this holds even more true, or am I totally off the mark?

I think op has delusions of Gentry. The ‘old money’ considered it vulgar to discuss money. The view is only held now by those genuinely from old money, who haven’t ever worried about it, or those trying to ape them.

’badly off, whatever that is’ have a read of a few threads where people are sharing ideas how to cut back to try to survive.

Yes, it is very important that women especially don't start comparing notes on money - who knows what conclusions they could start drawing.

Shhh ladies, it is impolite to discuss how thoroughly we are being fucked over, talk about pretty hats or kittens or something.

I find the threads about money interesting. People rightly make the point in politics that many people don’t know how “the other half” live, and seeing it discussed helps with this.

But money covers politics and economics too - so many areas to discuss.

Genuinely curious - what would you consider ideal acceptable topics of conversation?

@OnTheBrinkOfChange of course age matters

as it’s most likely the driving factor of this post

Money makes the world go round

I was brought up not to talk about money too which I think led to me lacking financial knowledge as a young adult. But I realised I needed to learn about money in order to be financially stable.

One comment I read on a forum really stuck with me. It was that the rich definitely talk about money with their friends and family, they share advice and knowledge about money and educate their kids, giving them a head start on those that mistakenly believe it's vulgar to talk about it.

I now talk honestly about my worries and plans, investments and pensions with others, sharing the information I've got to help others.

I make an effort to teach my child about money too so that they have a head start.

If you find it impolite and it distresses you just excuse yourself from the conversation. Don’t click on threads about money, excuse yourself when people talk about money etc. It’s in your control.

For what it’s worth, money makes the world go round. It would be remarkable not to think and talk about it a lot given that it literally dictates what sort of life you’ll have.

Don't click on threads about money then.

Like a PP I was bought up never to talk about money. With the result that I didn't know how to budget. I still don't really know how mortgages and pensions work and I'm 38.

Money touches almost every area of our lives. I might be massively off the mark here, but would you find it more acceptable to talk about how so and so is getting a divorce, etc, rather than economics?

Such a hypocritical pov 🙄

What is the moral problem with talking about money? It’s only vulgar if you’re making other people feel bad (because they have too little or too much). So, don’t ever do that.

Anyway, it’s talk about conics and home finances. It’s not talk about “money” in the sense of “look at my brand new Jah which cost £120,000”.

Do a little more thinking and less posturing, OP.

And “unutterably bored” is so affected. Urgh, vulgar indeed.

If you don’t like talking about money (ever) then maybe go live off grid on remote island where a small population of similarly minded folks just barter produce and home grown stuff in a cashless existence.

I'm the opposite. I think it's very important to talk about money. I find it really useful.

Because it's a chat forum. Because everyone seems to be on 6 figures of the bones of their arse. Because many (women) are scared and don't know what to do, and can't necessarily discuss it with people in real life, because it's seen as crass or embarrassing, and need somewhere to discuss the very real fears they have about where the hell the money is going to come from to continue to fee, clothe, and out a roof over the head of their family.

I actually burst out laughing

Liz Truss…get off Mumsnet!

It’s not Liz, it’s JRM.

YABU to use the word "unutterably".

Would you take a job without knowing the salary/wage? Ofc money gets discussed. It's a frequent discussion because it literally rules the world.

" money makes the world go round "

I don't understand why it would be rude to talk about money or religion, op can you explain?! Both are sources of many of the worlds ills imo.

It’s the perfect place to talk about money, given the anonymity. Although that same anonymity requires a pinch of salt at the ready.

Can you please give an actual example of what specifically gets discussed on here that you find impolite?

So pleased you're unutterably bored about money while I am struggling to keep my little business afloat so I talk about, read about and take advice about money because I don't want to tell folks they've lost their jobs and I need to keep the roof over my head
Are you on a wind up OP?

I can manage at present , but, I suspect, like a lot of people, I wonder for how long.
It is just when I am with close family, I find it irritating and unnecessary.
For example:
Super, you are on your second marriage to a much younger man, you both inherited recently - great - your children all bought houses - even greater - but why do we need to talk about it or why do you need to tell me?

Bully for you.