Do you think this was a bit shitty of them or AIBU?

[Wonderful33]

A sofa came up on my local freecycle page, mine is falling apart so I messaged the person asking to be considered.

They said yes. We discuss measurements, they ask if I can collect it on Thursday. I tell them yes and then I contact a 'man with a van' via an advert in the paper.

He says he'll take the job and gives me a quote, I tell him I haven't confirmed a time yet but that was ok with him.. he just put me down as afternoon.

I go back and tell the seller I have arranged the van and could they kindly send me their address.

Radio silence until 9 hours later at quarter past midnight when they respond to say they've decided to give it to a family member...

Ofc I'm a bit gutted but AIBU to think that was a bit shitty?

Sorry I forgot to include, I asked the seller what time would be convenient for them and for their address.

Yeah it’s crap but that’s the nature of free cycle sadly. So many have been mucked about that they’ll just give it to the first person who gets there.

I feel quite sad, as silly as that sounds.

I also feel bad that I have to go and explain to the van guy 🙁

I replied saying that's fair enough although I would have appreciated them letting me know sooner as it looks like I've messed the van guy around.

They replied saying "I'm sure he'll get over it"

Christ.

Okay so it fell through for you but its hardly the guy's fault. It sounds like he was lonely and used this as an outlet to talk to a person, god knows the world is very busy for it these days to get a response back. You sound a bit entitled tbh.

That’s the most bizarre response. The guy must have been lonely so chatted to op about sofa measurements. Maybe, just maybe he was going to let Op have it and changed his mind m. How is Op entitled that she feels disappointed that it’s fallen through? Why would you suggest that he wasted Ops time on purpose because he was lonely?

Op, it is disappointing. But think of it this way. If you were the person getting rid of a sofa and found out a relative really needed it, would you tell the relative no because you had promised it to a stranger? Most people wouldn’t.

The van man will understand. This happens all the time. Just tell him as soon as as possible. I bet he has it alot where people enquire to have something picked up, only for the item to become unavailable.

But it’s ok to be disappointed.

???

🤣

What a strange take on the situation! For a start OP doesn’t say the seller was male.

Entitled to what?

@Wonderful33 I would be annoyed at this too.

Some people are unreliable and just mess you about - it's part of life, pretty annoying though.

Their response about letting down the van man - “I’m sure he’ll get over it” - is the height of rudeness. Some people are just vile.
YANBU

Yes because people often offer large items of furniture and then withdraw the offer, purely in order to get a chance of some conversation.
What a load of nonsense.

Are you sure you’re on the right thread? 🙄

Yes, people do because some people are that lonely. I find yours to be a bit of a dismissive response tbh. Not saying the OP shouldn't have felt disappointed by the situation as it happened to her but I would have looked into assisting this man with some kind of help instead of immediately judging.

Would you like a custard cream?

No ‘people’ don’t do that. You might do it. People, in general, don’t.

what if makes it more likely, that this person was lonely, rather than just gave it to someone else.

You also called the Op entitled. Now it’s ok that Op is disappointed?

Give over

I'd be disappointed too.

It was shitty of him not to respond sooner to your request for address/time, but perhaps he was waiting on relative deciding whether or not they wanted the sofa?

Hopefully, you find something soon and at least you now have a man-with-a-van contact for when that happens. 🙂

WTF

@Keyansier
"Yes, people do because some people are that lonely. I find yours to be a bit of a dismissive response tbh. Not saying the OP shouldn't have felt disappointed by the situation as it happened to her but I would have looked into assisting this man with some kind of help instead of immediately judging."

What the hell? Assisting the man who wasted her time because he couldn't get his shit together and was rude in the process? That is taking "doormat" to a whole new level.

I live alone and have never offered any of my furniture to anyone.......though, a woman did call round the other day asking for bed linen.
I told her she couldn't have mine a I'm still using it.
Turned out, she had the wrong house.😉

"I'm sure he'll get over it" was a completely unnecessary comment. Sorry, OP. I hope you find an even better sofa somewhere else.

Second thread in a row that's making me second-think my usual policy of finding bridge-dweller-under-ers more amusing than not... 🤔

Of course it's annoying when someone pulls the rug out from under you, and I very much doubt that offering a sofa on freecycle was a cry for help, attention, etc.

I'm thinking perhaps it wasn't a genuine ad in the first place. I have passed on a fair few things through freecycle and it wouldn't occur to send any of the receivers a message in the middle of the night regardless.

There are some strange people in the world after all, as we can see with Keyansier 😵‍💫

All the lonely people…
Where do they all come from?

Freecycle!

That has cheered me up 😂

Some people!