Last night I hopped in the bath about a hour after my partners DD had gone to bed. She woke up and needed the toilet and my DP had a big go saying she should have gone before bed but was too lazy to do so before bed. So I get out and wait in my towel to get back in and it's pretty cold. Her DD said I won't be long to me and I say yea ok, can you please hurry up. She goes back to bed, I hop back in the bath. All fine.
Tonight I get a message from DP saying your reply to DD last night made her cry. I said what reply, she says "just hurry up". I said I definitely didn't use those words as that's quite blunt and abrupt. Then told her what I actually said and apologies if I had in fact upset her DD. She asked why I was getting funny and I just said we'll I hadn't said those words and I feel you're making out I've been horrible and I'm being scapegoated and you had a really big go at her so maybe that's why she was upset. She called me selfish and said I should think about how I've made a child feel.........even though I'd apologised a few times by this point.
She then said she was absolutely furious with me and I should think before my next reply........ I said I'm sorry I didn't mean to make her cry, what I said wasn't bad. She replied well you have (made her cry)
Am I a bad person here??
For context there's been some issues between us the last couple months. I almost walked away but stayed and tried to work things out and see if she would change