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Am I being paranoid?

16 replies

Confuseddotcomatm · 09/10/2022 09:32

My man has gone dressed out like a sexy fireman tonight. We've been together for nearly ten years and have a child together. He's previously sent dick pics to a friend that I confided in having a kid with as we had difficulties it. He played footsie under the table with her in my presence(which I didn't know about at the time of for obvious reasons! ). It went on until I caught him and confronted him about it.
There have also been other doubts/signs, texting behind my back, coming on to a work colleague and whatnot. Should I be worried with him 'going out on a' lads' night dressed so appealing to other women scenario?

OP posts:
Jedsnewstar · 09/10/2022 09:34

Not really. It’s the serial cheating that you really need to worry about.

He will NEVER change. LTB.

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 09/10/2022 09:35

He's gone out for a night out dressed as a sexy fireman.... at 9:30am on a Sunday morning?

Thehop · 09/10/2022 09:36

He’s a cheat and won’t ever change. Doesn’t matter what he wears.

up to you what you’ll tolerate, but I’d be gone.

HTH1 · 09/10/2022 09:38

Couldn’t agree more with PPs. Do you really want to spend your life looking over your shoulder to see if he’s cheated (again)?

YellowTreeHouse · 09/10/2022 09:43

You don’t trust him, so this relationship is dead in the water.

Oysterbabe · 09/10/2022 09:54

Wouldn't give a shit about the fireman thing but I'd have left him because of the other stuff.

I didn't understand this sentence
He's previously sent dick pics to a friend that I confided in having a kid with as we had difficulties it.

Worthyornot · 09/10/2022 10:05

So you know he's a sleaze and still asking if you are paranoid?

Fraaahnces · 09/10/2022 10:07

Get a grip and put him in the recycling bin. No man is worth this hassle.

Anniegetyourgun · 09/10/2022 10:11

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 09/10/2022 09:35

He's gone out for a night out dressed as a sexy fireman.... at 9:30am on a Sunday morning?

It's not 9:30 am everywhere in the world at once. Did the OP mention being in the UK?

WotsitsMadeIn1927 · 10/10/2022 20:07

Why are you still with him OP? You’ve caught him in the act numerous times and he still doesn’t respect you enough to pack it in despite so many chances?
its obvious what he’s playing at and there’s no way on gods earth he’d be getting out the door dressed like something he should be keeping private for you!!!
You deserve so much better, know your worth.

Begoniasforever · 10/10/2022 20:09

Well if dick pics to your mate is something you take then the sexy fisherman is mild in comparison.

LuckyLil · 10/10/2022 20:41

Well obviously the dick pick wasn't all that if he has to dress up to get noticed.

Confuseddotcomatm · 10/10/2022 22:06

Had it written out but didn't post it until the next day...

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DickDarstedly · 10/10/2022 22:10

He's previously sent dick pics to a friend that I confided in having a kid with as we had difficulties it

OP, what does this mean?

Confuseddotcomatm · 10/10/2022 22:12

Oysterbabe · 09/10/2022 09:54

Wouldn't give a shit about the fireman thing but I'd have left him because of the other stuff.

I didn't understand this sentence
He's previously sent dick pics to a friend that I confided in having a kid with as we had difficulties it.

Sorry, was quite annoyed when writing my statement lol. He had sent the pic to a friend. A friend I had confided in about the difficulties. So she knew. The pics thing was back in 2017 and could genuinely see he was sorry so it wasn't recent but the pain does feel like it was tbh

OP posts:
DickDarstedly · 10/10/2022 22:58

Thanks for explaining OP 😄

I don’t think being sorry about the dick pics is good enough. I find dick pics obviously offensive but mainly an utterly weird thing to do. Why on earth would any man think that a woman wants a dick pic ?? They are just not attractive to look at and in no way sexy out of context. No amount of regret for sending it would compensate for the fact that he had the idea in the first place. What was he thinking??!

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