My bf has a long established friendship with a friend who is much older , single and gay. They talk every day and have a roughly a weekend away per month either together or with another friend or so, so far these were pre arranged before we started going out. To be honest at least on my bf's part I don't think there's more to it, but his friend wants them to plan longer holidays next year. I have to say I feel confused by this. I haven't met his friend ( he lives in Munich). I have great close female friends so I do understand the need for close established friendships. But I feel I am competing for my bf with his friend. So far I have just said how nice his best friend sounds etc as I don't want to appear resentful and needy but I can't help feeling excluded and compartmentalised AIBU and any thoughts how to deal with this. I would say my bf is lovely, kind and I am quite head over heels.