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Parking dilemma ongoing

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Suspiciousminds29 · 08/10/2022 19:09

Hi all, I am just wanting some advice on what action I can take. I wrote a post under another username a few months ago after I moved into my new home about an issue I was having with neighbours driving over my drive to access their drive without having tO ask the other household members to move their own car.

we have been here about 7 months now and it is still happening.. we never do anything like that because our drive is extra wide and granted we only have one car at the moment but I just think it is beyond bloody cheeky.

they basically drive along our long driveway until they can move their car in front of their other car. This is because the previous owners of my house removed a patch of grass to widen the driveway to the right so our original driveway is between their drive and ours but we park further to the right to avoid banging their car doors or anything (we have two young children)

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antigome · 08/10/2022 19:10

There are rules about this kind of thread

Diagram please!

SquashesPumpkinsAutumnBliss · 08/10/2022 19:10

Some lovely autumn planters on your driveway so they cannot access their drive?

GloriousGlory · 08/10/2022 19:11

antigome · 08/10/2022 19:10

There are rules about this kind of thread

Diagram please!

GrinGrin

CountdownCat · 08/10/2022 19:11

Park at the end of your original drive closest to the road?
Or put a small low fence up just on your side of the dividing line?
Plant pots?

Brigante9 · 08/10/2022 19:11

Can you park so they can’t simply drive over it? Put up a fence/heavy planters.

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Suspiciousminds29 · 08/10/2022 19:12

Basically we started parking right in the middle but down the bottom end so no one could use our drive for access as we feel it’s cheeky.

my aibu is what else can I do because every time we are out or our car is parked differently they do it and I was hoping by now they would stop because they realised we were parking like this for a reason. We found out we cannot fencing down the central line as the original builders put some clause in to say the street had to remain open plan 🙄

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HangOnToYourself · 08/10/2022 19:12

Lockable bollards are probably the best way to stop them. Have you asked then to stop and if so what did they say?

FlutterbButterfly · 08/10/2022 19:12

Planters or a chain fence

CountdownCat · 08/10/2022 19:14

Suspiciousminds29 · 08/10/2022 19:12

Basically we started parking right in the middle but down the bottom end so no one could use our drive for access as we feel it’s cheeky.

my aibu is what else can I do because every time we are out or our car is parked differently they do it and I was hoping by now they would stop because they realised we were parking like this for a reason. We found out we cannot fencing down the central line as the original builders put some clause in to say the street had to remain open plan 🙄

If you only use the end of your driveway anyway put some planters on it where they'd have to drive past to access but still leaving room for you to park where you'd like?
I don't think there's much else you can do?

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Suspiciousminds29 · 08/10/2022 19:15

I will draw a diagram when I can as just doing bedtime at the moment 🙂

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AdobeWanKenobi · 08/10/2022 19:16

How new are your houses? Unless a couple of years old nobody will be enforcing any covenants. They are incredibly tricky and expensive to enforce.

Get a divide in there, be it planters as suggested above, large rocks or a fence. A few trellis planters would work a treat:

Parking dilemma ongoing
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Suspiciousminds29 · 08/10/2022 19:18

I cannot speak to them about it as they originally bought the house brand new and so did the people we bought the house from who have both passed away so there must have been some understanding and years of some behaviours.

I hate confrontation and I feel like they may think no harm is being caused which is theory there isn’t but it just annoys me because they can widen their own driveway if they wanted too.. the front is built exactly like ours

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jetadore · 08/10/2022 19:18

Just let them get on with it? What’s your issue with it? Worse things happen at sea.

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Suspiciousminds29 · 08/10/2022 19:21

I can’t let it go.. if actually makes me so angry that they do it without even asking when we moved in.. we have young children and dogs, my concern is if they get out and they ran them over driving over my driveway.

Also we have 1 car and whose to say their driving over it every day or other day isn’t going to wear the concrete down and make me have to repair it sooner. I bet they wouldn’t offer any money towards the repair of it.

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lisavanderpumpscloset · 08/10/2022 19:22

I cannot speak to them about it as they originally bought the house brand new and so did the people we bought the house from who have both passed away so there must have been some understanding and years of some behaviours.

This is a none reason. The house and drive belong to you, regardless of any previous understanding.

Your options are to 1) tell them to stop, 2) put something down the middle of your drive to stop them 3) put the grass patch back in.

What are you hoping people here will say?

Murdoch1949 · 08/10/2022 19:23

Agree with others. Find a way using planters etc to make it impossible for neighbour to drive across your drive. This will be causing you stress, get it sorted before you have a stroke!

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Suspiciousminds29 · 08/10/2022 19:25

Option one or two are the viable options as the widened drive where the grass used to be is too the other side so it would go drive, grass, drive, grass between mine and my neighbours.

whereas the original layout was drive, drive, grass, grass between mine and the neighbours.

it just bugs me because I teach my children to stay on our boundary and same with the dogs when taking them out to the car 😐

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lisavanderpumpscloset · 08/10/2022 19:27

Do you get on with your neighbours? Meaning are you able to speak to them?

Idontgiveagriffindamn · 08/10/2022 19:28

I remember your previous thread. You’ve basically got 3 options:

  1. Speak to them and tell them not to do it anymore.
  2. Put something ‘permanent’ in place to stop them being able to do it.
  3. Do nothing and let the situation continue
jetadore · 08/10/2022 19:32

I think your fears for your concrete’s longevity are unfounded. However if you are genuinely concerned for the safety of your children and pets then you’re gonna have to suck it up and confront them. Ask them to stop. Give it a couple of days, if they don’t stop, ask again. If they do it once more then proceed to bollards/boulders/fences/planters/land mines as suggested by others. Do they act like dickheads in general or just with this?

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Suspiciousminds29 · 08/10/2022 19:35

The diagram is bad but hopefully you all get the gist

Parking dilemma ongoing
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Suspiciousminds29 · 08/10/2022 19:37

I speak to them about the odd I’ve got your parcel and they say hello to my kids and dogs now and again but other than that no not really.

It just bugs me that I’m younger than them and I just wouldn’t do it ever especially without asking first..

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christmaspudding43 · 08/10/2022 19:37

I'd do a group of large pots of all different sizes etc to stop them so it looks less like a divider but functions in the same way.

lisavanderpumpscloset · 08/10/2022 19:39

It just bugs me that I’m younger than them.

This is irrelevant.

I get that this is making you angry but instead of being defeatist, take some action. You have plenty of options to stop it, if this is what you want.

If you want them to stop of their own accord out of politeness or thought for you, it clearly isn't going to happen.

FlutterbButterfly · 08/10/2022 19:40

Planters are your friend, dot them up your boundary just to your side leaving no room for a car to wave through. Do it for aesthetics 🤪

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