Parking dilemma ongoing

[Suspiciousminds29]

Hi all, I am just wanting some advice on what action I can take. I wrote a post under another username a few months ago after I moved into my new home about an issue I was having with neighbours driving over my drive to access their drive without having tO ask the other household members to move their own car.

we have been here about 7 months now and it is still happening.. we never do anything like that because our drive is extra wide and granted we only have one car at the moment but I just think it is beyond bloody cheeky.

they basically drive along our long driveway until they can move their car in front of their other car. This is because the previous owners of my house removed a patch of grass to widen the driveway to the right so our original driveway is between their drive and ours but we park further to the right to avoid banging their car doors or anything (we have two young children)

I know you are all right I need to put some ankle or knee heigh fencing running along. I think whatever I choose they will know as I won’t be putting anything between the two patches of grass connecting me and my other neighbour 😩

Can you afford to put out some planters?

Can't you grass that section of driveway and stick a flower bed on the border?

If you don't need to use that part of the drive put some boulders on it between your houses that isn't a fence
Put some heavy planted pots there also with flowers in or little fir trees

Down the line between your driveways and maybe chairs and stuff at the bit you'd never park on

And get a Ring doorbell or equivalent that you can record their bad driving behaviour

I'm sure last time you posted on this people suggested planters. Have you tried that?

Have you tried something as simple as asking them to stop?

You need to decide if you are more afraid of potentially upsetting them by removing access via your property or more annoyed that they aren't behaving as you want them to without you saying or doing anything.

For all you know if you just add planters and tidy things up on your side they'll think nothing of it beyond oh, that looks pretty... And they'll just start swapping their cars round.

Why are you rehashing this? You got all the advice you could possibly need last time and haven't tried any of it.

This would annoy me so much.
I'd go down the large stones/planter route as suggested above.

You need a permenant solution to ensure the boundary of your own driveway is not accessible for the CF neighbour to drive over.
Strategically placing your car isnt sufficient

Jesus Christ. Just imagine if a simple conversation could stop this happening!!!!

you aren’t best mates. You don’t have them round for dinner every week and they are already pissing you off so nothing to lose. Just ask them to stop. 🛑 simple. You don’t have to give them a reason. You can if you wish just tell them you don’t want them to. That’s why. That’s it. Nothing else needed.

just have a bloody conversation or ask DP to.

I don’t really get why you’re so bothered if it’s not stopping you parking in your drive when you need to and/or making you parking more difficult. If it makes their life easier then I wouldn’t really care. I have a shared drive with my neighbour which is really tight, if they’re not in then I will use a bit of their side to make my manoeuvre easier, they do the same. Obviously ending up parking on my own drive. The wife has seen me do it and is still as lovely and friendly to me, perhaps she’s starting Mumsnet threads about it 😂

@TheOnlyBeeInYourBonnet i came back because I kind of thought that they had stopped or worked it out.. honestly if you could have seen the random ways I left my car parked on the drive.. you’d get it.

most days it looked like my car had been abandoned on the drive at an angle which was primarily saying don’t reverse over my bloody drive.. just ask your husband to move his bloody car off and then you reverse…

lazy entitled behaviour is the only description for it! I’m trying to stick to my boundary and have a good relationship with my neighbours but them doing this is the thing making me feel sour. I have a great relationship with the couple on the other side

Can you leave your bins along the boundary?

Asking them out to do it isn't being confrontational. If you are polite and friendly it just a normal interaction with your neighbour.

@Mistywindow you don’t sound like my neighbour ☺️ and honestly if it was a shared drive I would understand but it’s not.. there should be one drive each and the only reason I have a wider one is because of an extension of concrete.

A few planters (rather than a fence) will solve this as it won’t be against the covenant and they’ll look nicer.

You have every right to ask them not to use your drive to access theirs or to use the methods suggested to prevent them. Personally I wouldn't , if it's something that isn't harming or inconveniencing me Id let it go, good neighbour relationships are too important to risk on a principle.

Just speak to them - that would be a lot easier than obsessively watching your video footage of them parking!

What were the suggestions in the previous thread?
Because you should look at that thread again and pick something from there to implement.

I think yabu not to tell your neighbours you don't want then to do this.

Can you park on your diagram where your letters 'Dri' are as that looks like it would block their access? Or as others say, put planters along the edge

The repeated scorn for the OP is rather annoying.

I can tell you from experience that people like this won't take kindly to a conversation, and are more than likely just to keep doing as they please, especially when the OP is away. She gets one shot at such a discussion with them, with high odds that it won't go well. I don't blame her for putting it off.

I have nightmare neighbors and have had more than one conversation with friends about them. If OP wants to come back here and vent, and seek other opinions, what's it to anyone else? No one is forced to read this thread.

I think it would annoy me too, to be honest. I do get a little humphy when next door park on the drive, even though it belongs to us both and neither of us uses it much.
I'm sorry that this is happening to you. How long have you lived there now? Has too much time gone past to go and mention that you'd appreciate it if they didn't do it?

Write a note saying it’s not ok, or use bollards

If you don’t want to speak to them put it in writing.
Put up private property signs at entrance to your driveway.