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Parking dilemma ongoing

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Suspiciousminds29 · 08/10/2022 19:09

Hi all, I am just wanting some advice on what action I can take. I wrote a post under another username a few months ago after I moved into my new home about an issue I was having with neighbours driving over my drive to access their drive without having tO ask the other household members to move their own car.

we have been here about 7 months now and it is still happening.. we never do anything like that because our drive is extra wide and granted we only have one car at the moment but I just think it is beyond bloody cheeky.

they basically drive along our long driveway until they can move their car in front of their other car. This is because the previous owners of my house removed a patch of grass to widen the driveway to the right so our original driveway is between their drive and ours but we park further to the right to avoid banging their car doors or anything (we have two young children)

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EscapeRoomToTheSun · 08/10/2022 19:40

I remember your previous thread. Why haven't you put planters down the middle as was suggested?

Or you could just speak to your neighbours its really weird that you haven't when it bothers you so much.

Honestly I think you just want something to be annoyed about. I'm glad I don't live near to you. Get a hobby.

Princessglittery · 08/10/2022 19:41

@Suspiciousminds29 you have been given solutions on both threads.

Who bought the houses new/first is irrelevant.

The fact they are older is irrelevant.

Posters can suggest solutions but only you can implement them. You either live with the situation or do something about it.

StaunchMomma · 08/10/2022 19:41

Just put large planters along your boundary line. Problem solved.

FawnFrenchieMum · 08/10/2022 19:41

Honestly couldn’t not get worked up about this at all! It’s not like they are parking on your drive or blocking your drive.

Aprilx · 08/10/2022 19:41

Nope I don’t get the gist at all from your diagram, I can’t see how or why anyone would be using your drive. Regardless, I can’t imagine getting worked up about this.

FawnFrenchieMum · 08/10/2022 19:42

FawnFrenchieMum · 08/10/2022 19:41

Honestly couldn’t not get worked up about this at all! It’s not like they are parking on your drive or blocking your drive.

Couldn’t get worked up even!

TrainspottingWelsh · 08/10/2022 19:42

Honestly, how do you find the headspace to care? They aren’t going to damage the concrete, and nothing you say would indicate they are likely to drive over your dc if they happen to be in your driveway. I really don’t understand the problem.

sandytooth · 08/10/2022 19:47

Your age has shit all to do with it.

Plants sound like a good idea. Or some spikes?

CountdownCat · 08/10/2022 19:50

sandytooth · 08/10/2022 19:47

Your age has shit all to do with it.

Plants sound like a good idea. Or some spikes?

Stingers across the driveway!!

sandytooth · 08/10/2022 19:52

CountdownCat · 08/10/2022 19:50

Stingers across the driveway!!

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Yeah that sort of thing

AllThatHoopla · 08/10/2022 19:52

Just do something about it. Confused

Like @Idontgiveagriffindamn says, there are only a few options. Or move. They aren't just going to stop.

EfficientDynamics · 08/10/2022 19:53

I would look at getting posts with chains running between the posts

I wouldn't speak to them about it, just put something in place to stop them doing it

Hoppinggreen · 08/10/2022 19:53

Suspiciousminds29 · 08/10/2022 19:18

I cannot speak to them about it as they originally bought the house brand new and so did the people we bought the house from who have both passed away so there must have been some understanding and years of some behaviours.

I hate confrontation and I feel like they may think no harm is being caused which is theory there isn’t but it just annoys me because they can widen their own driveway if they wanted too.. the front is built exactly like ours

You can speak to them, you are too nervous to.
So you have to stop them, ask them to stop or put up with it
which of those do you think you can do?

donquixotedelamancha · 08/10/2022 19:54

I remember your last thread. The options are exactly the same now as they were then:

Speak to them or put a barrier in place.

It is bonkers to be asking the same question after so long, you really need to learn to move on with things in your life, either by speaking to them like a grown up or getting over this minor issue.

sandytooth · 08/10/2022 19:54

Strategically positioned solar lights?

Yell at them to fuck off next time you catch them?

Go round and ask them not to?

plasticdragon · 08/10/2022 19:55

You are concerned that they will run your children over, yet you won’t say anything because you are not a confrontational person?

KosherDill · 08/10/2022 19:58

I remember your other thread and sympathize with you. My neighbors were surreptitiously doing the same till I caught them at it and asked them not to. I have been pondering alternatives.

It's really galling.

Can you afford planters? What about row of decorative rocks?

Who is going to enforce the "open plan" covenant? How about a simple post-and-chain fence -- it would barely be noticeable but keep them out.

Can you rent the parking space to anyone who needs a place to store a spare vehicle?

I hate CFs like this who trespass at will.

KosherDill · 08/10/2022 19:59

donquixotedelamancha · 08/10/2022 19:54

I remember your last thread. The options are exactly the same now as they were then:

Speak to them or put a barrier in place.

It is bonkers to be asking the same question after so long, you really need to learn to move on with things in your life, either by speaking to them like a grown up or getting over this minor issue.

No one is forced to read this thread. I don't blame OP for wanting to discuss it again. And to some of us, it's more than a minor issue.

Ffsmakeitstop · 08/10/2022 20:00

Why do pp say "what has age got to do with it?" It can be relevant especially if someone younger is used to being non confrontational to older people.
You're just trying to be fucking woke and being deliberately mean.
Seriously sick of this shit on here. Anyone mentioning age, sex,gender, class, religion or colour are shot down in flames when they're usually just setting the scene.
Either give your opinion or advice or shut the fuck up.

Threeboysandadog · 08/10/2022 20:22

You have kids and two dogs. The time to ask them to stop crossing your driveway is when they complain that the kids are too noisy in the paddling pool or the trampoline is too close to their fence, that they don’t like your dogs barking at the postman or they don’t get the same warm feeling you do listening to your teenager’s bagpipe practice.

Our childless (not by choice) neighbours have a cat. She is their baby. She shits all over our garden. We hate it, really hate it (the shit, not the cat) but, in the twenty something years we have both lived here, we have had three children. They are all really musical and love outdoor play. We have also had 6 dogs (not all at the same time) the latest one, prone to barking.

Its live and let live. They are not causing you any real problem. I think you should let it go.

SnoopyNoseTits · 08/10/2022 20:24

Big fuck off planters, or buy a banger and SORN it and let it live there forever. Planters would look nicer

Sh05 · 08/10/2022 20:25

Those trellis planters are a good idea, if they say anything you just mention you're placing a barrier there so the children don't run across and out of your space.
I understand the age thing, it sometimes feels rude to speak up against someone who is alot older but this way it doesn't sound rude, you're making it sound like it's the children you were thinking about, nothing to do with their driving over your drive.

sandytooth · 08/10/2022 20:26

Ffsmakeitstop · 08/10/2022 20:00

Why do pp say "what has age got to do with it?" It can be relevant especially if someone younger is used to being non confrontational to older people.
You're just trying to be fucking woke and being deliberately mean.
Seriously sick of this shit on here. Anyone mentioning age, sex,gender, class, religion or colour are shot down in flames when they're usually just setting the scene.
Either give your opinion or advice or shut the fuck up.

I genuinely don't see what age has to do with it. it's not kids scared of talking to adults.

donquixotedelamancha · 08/10/2022 20:27

No one is forced to read this thread. I don't blame OP for wanting to discuss it again. And to some of us, it's more than a minor issue.

My question was what OP wants from discussing it again.

It clearly isn't minor to her but her reasons (concrete wear, children run over) are irrational.

That's fine, she has no obligation to be rational about her own drive, but it's not helping her to keep dwelling on it for so long- she either needs to speak to them or let it go.

PonyPatter44 · 08/10/2022 20:28

Just get planters. If using your words is far too scary an option, then all you can do is put up some sort of barrier. None of us can provide a Jedi mind-trick to make them change their behaviour, so you will have to do it yourself.