When I was younger I lived in a house share with a couple - the girl once fell over and hit her chin on the floor, blood everywhere, chin split open. And her boyfriend didn't get off his chair. Everyone in the room was around her, and then he stood up and took her to hospital. But I always remember that he sat there for 3 mins not doing anything.
My DH is a difficult man. He can be brilliant, but I'm finding his behaviour increasingly unacceptable.
There have been a few incidents where I've been really shocked at DH's lack of reaction. Cutting myself with a kitchen knife when making dinner - he finished his game on his phone, barely looked up. Our DS fell into the fire guard, he didn't move. Our DS wandered towards some concrete stairs when he was 2, DH moved so slowly I got there before he did. This morning, I smashed my head in the shower really hard in the ensuite and let out an almighty cry, you know that shock of hitting your head and you really shout out. He didn't move from his bed or say anything
When I questioned it - he said 'Oh love. Of course I care if you're OK just knew you weren't dead or anything' When I said his lack of reaction was weird he said 'don't fucking take it out on me'
Is this something anyone else recognises? It's not that he doesn't care about me or DS. He does then come to our aid. But in the moment, he doesn't bloody move. at all. Just like that other bloke. It's like the natural reaction of moving or saying something or doing anything doesn't happen in their brain.
I didn't know to put this AIBU or relationships - I'm just interested in whether this is a thing other people have seen in partners.
AIBU?
To ask if lack of reaction/empathy is a common thing in certain men?
BeautifulBenji · 04/10/2022 14:09
BeautifulBenji · 04/10/2022 18:30
I don't understand people who don't react at all. Maybe I'm too much the other way. If someone looks a bit upset I'm straight in with the hug.
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