To be bloody offended

[bagpuss90]

My SIL was over yesterday - she’s a foster carer. I’d been sorting through old photo albums of my kids. She was looking through one and there were pics of my kids in the bath - covered in bubbles , bubble on their heads , noses etc. She said how inappropriate it was and if she’d known me back then she would have reported it as a safeguarding issue . They were innocent pics - no social media back then , only ever going to be viewed by me and the kids dad ffs. She’s not the kids aunt - she’s my current partners sister . I appreciate as a foster carer she may see things differently-but bloody hell

Did she expand on why she’d have reported you “back then”, but isn’t inclined to report you now?

As a foster carer I wouldn't, and don't, take photos of my foster children like that. As a parent I absolutely did (and would not consider it a safe guarding issue in another parent).

She's being silly! I have pics of me in the bath. I thought it was a standard pic every parent took!

My mum used to work at Boots processing the photos (80s - early 2000s era).
They were trained to spot any photos that looked suspicious and when and how to report if needed.
A random photo or 2 of someones kids in the bath covered in bubbles among a roll of 30 odd other everyday family photos would not have been something to report.

She's ridiculous.

(Although you can't really say they would only ever be seen by you and the kids dad..she saw them!)

My guess is she’s taken her safeguarding training and ran with it. It was a daft comment. Just forget it.

'only ever going to be viewed by me and the kids dad ffs'

Except they are not, she saw them and presumbly your partner whose not their dad and others.

Just because something is 'common' does not mean its 'right' or even 'legal' and legally shes right it can end you up in a lot of trouble.

If the kids in question have visible genitals, then I suggest that you have a word.
By sending them to you she may be committing an offence and you may be by having them on your phone, even though you didn't ask and they get deleted.
Obviously you hope common sense would prevail (mum's intention is sharing fun pics of kids, and is not a paedophile) but it does cross a line if they are naked.

@mam0918 A photo of your own kids covered in bubbles with no genitalia on show is not getting you in any sort of trouble even if you put it on the fridge. There are stock images of the same thing available to purchase for commercial purposes. It’s a perfectly innocent photo.

I'd have told her to go right ahead and make a complaint retrospectively and send me the footage of them laughing in her face.

She needs to get over herself. YANBU.

It’s fashionable to be woke these days. ignore her, call her silly bitch under your breathe (or to anyone that will listen) and carry on regardless.

That said, If she knows a way you can time travel and change your photos, change what was acceptable in the past, I’d be interested to hear it.

She’s virtue signalling.

Makes me think she has a degree of bad judgement/ego which will interfere with being a good foster parent.

Ffs 😑. What a dick. Ignore her and tell her to piss off.

I have a lovely picture of my 2 and my friends daughter in the bath the other weekend with bubbles on their head and a nice bubble beard. My friend was laughing when I sent it to her. In fact, it was my friends daughter who decided to get undressed and run the bath 😂. Suppose I should've closed my eyes and ordered that she got dressed whilst calling SS on myself eh?

She's npt right and there is no legal trouble possible.

Only seen because she looked when OP was sorting a photo album. It wouldn't get her in any trouble at all. They are images of her own child privately stored away.

She's confusing fostering with having your own biological DC since birth. I would have questioned her thinking at the time and if she'd didn't apologise I'd have asked her to leave and distanced myself. It is hugely offensive and wrong minded.

Does she have any biological kids of her own?

I would have questioned her thinking at the time and if she'd didn't apologise I'd have asked her to leave and distanced myself. It is hugely offensive and wrong minded.

Agree with this.

What an idiot

With that comment I'd deem her a safeguarding issue and would have limited contact with her. What else could she report you for? She sounds insane.

Thick as s*hit

You've forgotten to tell us the rest of the story OP?

I can't be the only one dying to know what your reply to her was?

She's letting her experience- most likely with children who have experienced abuse- cloud things.
Ignore her.

Ignore her!

A friend of mine is a foster parent, there are very strict rules for them, understandably. But that is very different from your own children.

She does do playing in the bath with bubbles, but the foster child wears a swimming costume!