AIBU - Disagreement with the DH that I need opinions on please.
He wants to go on holiday to somewhere in Europe over Christmas/NY.
So reason I don't want to travel
- Sleep situation. We have a son that will be almost 3 at the time who naps for 2+ hours every afternoon. DS is not ready to sleep in a bed solo, and won't sleep in a travel cot. He sleeps in a cot at home. On our last 'holiday' it was me that bed shared as he woke all night and lay with him as he napped all afternoon. I was exhausted from the lack of sleep, and I struggled to enjoy the holiday because of it. It is always me that my son wants.
- Potentially messing up naps, so that he no longer has his afternoon nap when we return.
- Current financial situation. The worlds an scary expensive place right now, and my husband is a contractor without steady income. We have been on shaky ground recently with money, plus we might need money for IVF.
- Our last holiday was cancelled at quite an expense as he was asked to work and could not risk turning it down.
His reasons for holiday
- He lives for holidays. We have both traveled 50+ countries and met while travelling. They are his number one hobby.
- He was recently working 12-17 hour days, for weeks on end. In his eyes we can afford it and we deserve it.
- This might be his only time to go on holiday for the year. Unless it is between projects, but it very unlikely.
I tried to find a compromise where he agreed to sleep in a seperate room with my son, and increase pre school hours if naps get messed with, but I know he will just agree to anything to get what he wants, and then back out of it. He won't agree to a holiday in the UK.
Sorry for the long post, but I would really value anyones opinion or suggestions. Am I being totally unreasonable?