AIBU?
DH off on holiday with his friends
wonder113 · 02/10/2022 12:04
Despite my objection, DH has decided to join his friend's family (a couple with a baby) to go on a 10 day trip abroad.
Childcare-wise I will be able to manage (just about), but I just don't think it is reasonable. He has not travelled for nearly 3 years and said he would like to take that trip with the couple as they are moving abroad meaning we will not be able to see them for a while.
I feel miserable as he blatantly ignored my request not to go.
YAVU - just let him enjoy himself
YANU - he should not have gone
diamondpony80 · 02/10/2022 12:57
Was he (or your family) actually invited, or has he just decide to join this other family on their holiday? Seems a bit strange and imposing. I wouldn't be happy if one of DH's friends decided to just come along with us on a family holiday. I know they'd expect to go out doing their own thing while I was stuck with the kids.
girlmom21 · 02/10/2022 12:57
MinnieMountain · 02/10/2022 12:56
I’d love to know how OP could actually make her DH take their 2yo. Hide them in his suitcase maybe 🤔
Since he suggested the holiday in the first place, he already wanted to take the whole family. Suggesting he takes the 2 year old shouldn't require any force.
mountainsunsets · 02/10/2022 13:08
wonder113 · 02/10/2022 12:37
Can't take time off work as the nature of my role means I can't take extended time off during term time.
Won't get him to take 2 year old. What's the point? He is not going to be able to manage on his own, and it will 'ruin' his holiday.
If he can't manage a 2yo on his own for 10 days, there's something seriously wrong with him.
Personally, I would stay home with the 4yo and send him off with the 2yo.
WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps · 02/10/2022 13:16
Suprima · 02/10/2022 12:11
What a fucking weirdo third wheeling like that
why haven’t you been invited?
I’m not trying to be unkind OP- but the fact that he would gatecrash his friends family holiday rather than book a nice b&b/room in the same resort for his wife and child (to make a group holiday out of it) is really showing you how he feels about you and his own family life.
This. ^ Who the fuck tags on to a 10 day holiday with a mate and his wife and child? 
Especially when he is married with children himself. Odd as fuuuuuk!
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