To be so annoyed over a bloody cup of tea?

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DP has just made himself a cup of tea, hasn't even offered me one. We're in the same room, it's hardly an effort. I've lost count of the times I've told him him this is rude, thoughtless and I find it hurtful that he keeps doing it after I've told him that it bothers me.

So tired. So much bullshit like this, it's like death by a thousand cuts for a relationship.

That reminds me of the Saturday morning where the Twat came in from work and immediately made me a cup of coffee.

I knew he was about to announce he was leaving in five minutes because he would never, ever, lower himself to making me a drink on the grounds that if I'd really wanted one, I'd have made it myself in the first place.

He put on a fake serious face and said 'I've got something to tell you

'Yeah, I know, you're leaving'.

Took the wind right out his sails, that did - I think I was supposed to be stunned, shocked, hysterical or completely blindsided by his announcement. But he was a selfish prick and all I could think of was that if he wanted to keep his intentions secret until he'd lined up somebody else's bed somewhere to sleep, he probably shouldn't have been so fucking transparent.

That's rotten, OP.
Next time he carries his drink in, stand up, walk towards him, and lift it out of his hands.
'Oh, thanks, love, how kind! Where's yours?'

Sounds ridiculous to me.

In our house it depends whether it's a work day or not.

If DH & I are both WFH we ignore each other food wise until dinner time. If I want a cup of tea I make myself one & Vice versa.

If it's a weekend, we spend the days together so then of course we'd offer.

Is there any chance your DH is stuck in work mode?

He'd darn well remember I was there once he'd seen me tucking into a decent roast for one I'd cooked on a Sunday

Eaten with a spork so you can stick one finger up to him with the other hand throughout whilst you eat

My ex used to do this. It's hurtful because it sums up what they think of you without saying a word.

Funny how it is always the !little things. The final straw for me (there were lots of previous straws!) was DH never putting his dining chair back under the table as if a maid was going to trot along to do it for him.

Yes, so true, my x was very controlling and I was the domestic slave. but it was when he wouldn't even let me choose a saucepan in robert dyas that I realised I cannot make one single decision in my life while I'm with him, I'm a slave here, 100% encumbered with the housework but yet unable to choose a saucepan.

My sister does this. It's do fucking rude.

It's amazing how you can tell a lot about someone from this alone.