To think school should be more responsible for my childs' stuff?

[Mama234567]

My son (nearly 6) keeps losing his coat outside at lunchtimes. Today it was raining all day so coat got carried home wet while he got rained on. Lunchbox keeps getting left in the hall. He's in year one and we did not have this problem in reception. He's also come home in another child's trousers instead of his own, I sorted this with other mum and we laughed about it.

I do think this is partly down to his personality and I tell him everyday remember your lunchbox etc.. but he's not the only one. Another parent has had an expensive logo jumper lost already.

YABU- son should be more responsible for his things.

YANBU- school should help more.

@Mama234567 yabu to say it’s the school’s problem.

However, as someone who has taught y1 for a long time now, I would have absolutely no issue with a parent mentioning to me that their child was finding it really tricky to remember all their belongings.

It’s the parents who blame, shout and are just generally unpleasant who can be frustrating to deal with - and 100% they won’t have named the lost stuff in the first place!

When my own dc were little I bought name stickers with a little picture on and those helped them really quickly identify their things. Though I overbought and DS & I were laughing the other night about how he’d feel going off to secondary next year with a space rocket in all his clothes 😂

I don’t think it’s too much to just say a blanket reminder as they come in ‘has everyone got their coats?’
and at the end of the lunch
’please put your lunch boxes away’.
If course you need to work on it with him but at that age a little from all sides can do wonders. Five is still little and they mostly all get it pretty quickly.

I would be extremely surprised if the teachers wasn’t saying those things frequently already!

Totally unreasonable I’m afraid. 30 coats, 30 jumpers, 60 shoes, 30 book bags, 30 water bottles! School staff are not there to act as lost property monitors.
I suggest training your son at home to pick up and collect his lunch box, then bring back to the kitchen. Same goes for the coat and any uniform.
before starting school I trained both my children to pack and unpack their bags and also dress and undress for PE. They practiced over the summer holidays getting ready as I refuse to have them lacking basic skills.
take responsibility of your child and teach him at home to collect his items and put back. Repeat and repeat. Small children need to practise.

We are incredibly busy Dealing with things that detract from teaching and learning. I.am in a secondary school where pupil lose things all the time. Expensive equipment or PE kit for example that never has a name in. It's ridiculous.

My 3 year old can organise her self better than him. She sorts her self out at clubs changing shoes or her outfit when moving between activities. She then packs her bag up at the end of her class and fetches her jacket, water bottle and grading books. This is in a dance class, of 40 other 3&4 year old kids all doing the same. It’s a skill that needs learned but that’s your job, who packs his school bag?? He should be able to get himself ready to go with you just casting an eye over.

There is a mum at my school that glares at home time that her son hasn’t got his packed lunch box and bottle. She doesn’t seem to accept that by that stage we have probably reminded the children 3 times. He then dumps all his stuff on her and she takes it. 🤔

Can I just get this off my chest while we’re here? If your child can’t tie their laces, don’t send them in shoes with laces!!!!!!
Aah that’s better.