Okay I'm prepared to be flamed but otherwise I'm going to be thinking about for the rest of time, so I need some opinions!
Went to the theatre the other day, and noticed the seats were really squashed together (not my specific AIBU but a good topic itself!).
I sat next to a lady and we were immediately touching. There were quite a few empty seats as it was not a well known show. The lady seemed friendly enough and I said if no one sat next to us on the other side, we'd move up to give the two couples more room. She agreed and laughed - all fine!
During the interval I realised that next to that couple were 4 empty seats, whereas on the other side of us all seats were full and again my DP was sat basically on top of the poor woman next to him. The lady went to the toilets and I asked her husband if he would move up a couple of seats so we could spread out and all have a bit more room. He point blank refused. I asked him why and he said "because I don't want to"... I explained that if they just moved up at least one seat it would mean his wife would also have more space so it would benefit them. He started shouting at me that he wasn't moving, so I said I'm not sure why you're so entitled about a seat and left him to it.
His wife then came back and also started shouting at me that if I wasn't happy I should move. I said I am happy, I just thought it would be nice for us all to spread out and it would benefit her. She then started physically elbowing me at which point I shouted at her to stop. The pair of them then both started laughing at me saying I should move and that they can't believe I even asked etc. The wife said her husband was tall so couldn't move up, but by that logic he should have been in the back row?! I also didn't understand why she had agreed we would move to then come back and shout because her husband told her I had asked them to move up one. I just asked them to please stop as it's embarrassing.
In the end the show came back on so they stopped talking about me (loud enough to make it obvious) but she kept elbowing me periodically through the rest. Afterwards I just said to my DP let's go because I really couldn't be arsed to argue more with the couple when all I'd done was ask them to move up one. I could see that they started a conversation with the man sat in front of them so now I'm wondering if it was me being the arsehole. There were a few people still sat in their seats through the interval but no one said anything.
AIBU in thinking they could have easily moved up and it wouldn't have caused anyone an issue?!
AIBU?
Moving Theatre Seats
Sorrythatsjustmybrain · 29/09/2022 22:38
Am I being unreasonable?
348 votes. Final results.
POLLAlmostAJillSandwich · 29/09/2022 23:13
I pick dead centre when booking or get there early to get as central in the row as i can at none specific seating movies etc, because i don't like not having a straight on view. 2 seats along can make a quite noticeable difference, so if i was happy with the view i had, i wouldn't want to move. I wouldn't be rude about it or shout/elbow etc if someone asked me to move to fit their party in all together or to leave a gap seat, but i wouldn't say anything more than "sorry, no, i want this seat for the view".
After his initial "no" you were rude to pass further comment to argue your point, however politely worded. If you weren't happy and there were seats to move to, you should have just moved.
WhatLikeItsHard · 29/09/2022 23:16
So there were 4 empty seats, you could have moved to seats 2 and 3 of those 4 seats, which would have left an empty seat next to you and the couples next to you, and the two empty seats that you'd just vacated, so other people could move down a seat if they wanted to.
I don't understand how it got to shouting at each other. When he said no, you should have just said okay no worries, and moved yourself.
No way would I stay sat somewhere next to someone elbowing me, and my boyfriend would definitely have something to say about it if that happened.
drunkinthebackofthecar · 29/09/2022 23:30
I am an incredibly regular theatre goer (weekly) and I have never ever heard or seen someone trying to reorganise everyone else’s seating like this. I’m honestly gobsmacked you asked! I would be in total shock if someone asked that. As others have pointed out, many people book specific seats for specific reasons. He did not need to justify himself to you.
I’m also not inclined to completely believe your account of what happened next, given the fact you behaved like this in the first place.
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