To think this is alot of money for an afternoon tea?

[Mummyof287]

A Hen do is being planned for next year for a close friend (I am one of the bridesmaids, but another whom I don't know is planning the hen party)
I'm very honoured to be her bridesmaid, and obviously i'm going to attend but can only go for the afternoon tea daytime part (Some are staying overnight, which the organiser said would be paying a higher price but not sure how she has worked it all out)

I am just abit shocked at the price of the afternoon tea, which she has said will be £40- then they are splitting the cost of the Bride (which I am MORE than happy to contribute towards) which brings the total p/p for day guests to £60.
Tbh i was expecting the cost to be about £25 max (then the contribution for the bride on top)
The going rate around here is £15-20/head for afternoon tea, or £25ish at the poshest venues I guess.
I mean its £45 p/p at The Ritz in central london! :-/

AIBU to be thinking of asking the organiser where the place is and ringing to confirm the cost is correct?
Money is tight, and whilst I want to be there for my lovely friend, pay my way and contribute to her having a wonderful hen do, I don't want to be paying towards everyone else.

I’ve never had an afternoon tea where I’m starving after.

the last one I had was 6 sandwiches per person two scones and 4 cakes.

I would have split the bride's afternoon tea between all afternoon tea guests and the rest of the weekend between the weekend guests only. I would consider that fair.

@ememem84 same here. Loads of sandwiches and as well as two scones patisserie too. Not competitive under eating as probably at least 3000 calories 🤣

Me too, loads of food and always basically does us till a light supper.

As a bride, bridesmaid or general guest I’d not be signing up to go anywhere unless I knew the venue! I’m amazed people do!

It’s not just going to be afternoon tea though is it. It’s going to be for gifts, drinks, entertainment etc. a hen do isn’t just turn up eat and go home. I think you are being unreasonable especially if you are one of the bridesmaids who generally would do more and pay a bit more etc.

Sorry I didn’t read the whole thread but just wanted to say there are some great deals on groupon. I recently went for afternoon tea at caffe concerto for half price! £30 fo r two of us, it was wonderful

As a bridesmaid I think you should be helping organise the hen and not letting it all to the other BM? Then you'd know the costs too.

I’m not quite sure why the op thinks she’d be paying towards everyone else. It’s 40 quid, for that amount she’s hardly going to be covering other people.

Even in darkest Devon I paid £65 per head recently. I thought that was about normal?!