DS hates uni so far

[sgriffin89]

Not really an AIBU but I feel like the worst mum.

Youngest DS went to uni last weekend, there was a lot of tears when I dropped him off but my eldest DS was the same last year so I thought he'd be fine once he was settled etc. He’d been messaging me throughout the week saying he didn't like it and hadn't made any friends etc. He called me tonight in tears saying he hates it and wants to come home etc and he said his flatmates had a party over the weekend and he didn't get involved as he didn't want to ‘get in the way’ I told him he'll settle in soon and he'll enjoy it etc.

I'm just feeling like the worse mum for not bringing him home like he asked

He's not in Bristol is he?? Dd1 has a male flat mate who's not been out of his room all week. Have to confess I'm quite worried about him 😕

I agree with the previous advice re joining societies and waiting til he's had some timetabled experience. A week feels like a long time to be so unstructured when you're just settling in.

I think freshers week does more to put kids off university than to help settle them in!

Wait until Christmas and you are just at the other end of the phone if he needs you 😊 He will be just fine, what's meant to be will be and it is tough, I'm 30 and still struggle with social interactions.

My DS went to Uni on Friday. I had a chat with him before he left that he might feel homesick and want to come home at first, but like everything he will encounter in life it’s going to take time to settle and get used to. Once classes start hopefully things improve. I’d go there if my son was very homesick before letting him come home, as I think that might help more. It is such a worry when they aren’t settling very easily but hopefully he will soon. My eldest gave up his degree and regrets it hugely