People passing unhelpful comments!

[Lovetogarden2022]

This is a real bugbear of mine and it's so annoying I'm sure other people can relate 😂

Why do people feel the need to say unhelpful comments, either on here or on Facebook groups, but also in real life? It drives me mad!

For example, a few people have posted in our local group asking if there are any houses for sale under £450k, for example, and the comments underneath are "ha! You'll be lucky finding a nice property for that price round here!!"

Or another woman asked where the best place to park in town was that wasn't going to be busy or extremely expensive, and loads commented "come and have a look for yourself. Don't be so lazy" etc

The tip of the iceberg was this morning when I politely asked if anyone would be interested in coming to a public event I'm hosting and a friend said "nobody will come to that - there's something else on that weekend" (the other "event" she's referring to is happening miles away and would have no effect on my event 🤣)

It's just not helpful or constructive!!!!!

Does my head in! Is this normal or am I just being unreasonable 🤣

A group I was in were needing volunteers one weekend. They put a request on facebook, saying, "Please only comment if you can help." Of course this was followed by many many comments saying, "Sorry, I'm busy that day," "I'd love to help but I'm on holiday," "Hope you find enough helpers," ad infinitum!

On here when any poster asks for help for mortgages, credit cards or loans, there’s always guaranteed one or two that post to say they don’t have a mortgage and paid it off years ago or they wouldn’t dream of getting a loan and if they have a credit card it’s paid off every month and are debt free

its not remotely helpful and I rightly or wrongly see it as boasting too which also drives me bonkers especially as mortgages, loans/credit cards and the cost of living are rising to unaffordable levels in some cases! Just don’t comment on mortgage/debt related threads if you don’t have any

The messenger group I used to be in for uni, someone would ask a question and me or maybe someone else would answer it correctly and then and hour later someone else will put the same answer, when it’s right above

Here is my unhelpful comment. Does anyone else laugh at the question section of Amazon products?

Q: How long is the cable?
A: Don't know. It was a gift for my son.

Q: What is the use-by-date?
A: I received a pillow case by mistake.

The reviews amuse me too.

2 stars
It arrived next day while I was out. My son ate it before I got a chance to try it, so I can't say if it was worth the money or not. Very disappointed.

Or

1 star
This extra-large American-style fridge was too large for my teeny tiny space. Had to return it.

🙃

At the same time there’s a woman in a group I’m in who always asks the most stupid questions (easily googlable or making a mountain out of a molehill). I behave and don’t answer though.

I remember during lockdowns when people asked for advice or support on trying to work from him and home school the kids and a couple of posters would insist that they had become sahp, years before just incase anything like this happened and people who were working just hasn’t planned well enough.

I mean let’s pretend we believe they became a sahp just incase a pandemic closed the schools, how is ‘well you should have done xyz 2 years ago’ helpful at all.

To be fair, Sainsburys do sell large packs of Indian spices. They have a fantastic world foods aisle

That one is because when you buy a product from Amazon and someone later asks a question about it, Amazon email you the question. So a lot of people think they're being asked personally!

Our Church WhatsApp group does this a lot.

Q- can anyone cover for me this weekend as I now can't make it.....
A- I would love to but currently in the Maldives on holiday.

On next door..
Q- I've lost xyz, if anyone finds it please msg me.
A- if you haven't found it in a week's time, I'll come help you look for it. Slammed till then.

Why not just ignore!!!

To be fair, on a community thing like a church group, people are trying to be supportive by not ignoring the poster. Imagine if you asked a question like that, nobody happened to be free but there was just tumbleweed because nobody responded. I think it's fair enough in a community group to show a bit of solidarity by at least acknowledging the question.

Probably going to out myself here but on my local Facebook group people are always asking "Why's the helicopter out?" and complaining about it. I think the Admin are deleting posts regarding that now. Good. Because it got old very quickly and it's obviously out for a reason. Not just because they fancied taking it out for a spin.

YANBU and it’s the same sort of poster that replies with their ‘witty’ comments
usually a bloke
usually middle aged
usually has something like ‘university of life’ on their Facebook page
when taken down a peg or two by another poster they get sensitive and angry
it’s usually women’s posts they reply to because they’re sexist and enjoy taking the piss out of the ‘little woman’ posting

That's because you need to review the seller not the product. Different section for packaging/delivery feedback.

I think some people genuinely do not understand how the Internet works. MiL is a case in point, she's on loads of FB groups and will always respond to posts because otherwise she thinks she's being rude and ignoring someone.

Luckily she seems to have found a few favoured groups now where everyone is the same and they all happily chat to one another about the fact they don't know and that's apparently supportive and not incredibly unhelpful. I think its rather sweet but have had to mute her!

The MN Covid board is terrible for this type of thing - particularly now. If anyone asks a question about Covid, a response might typically be "I don't know anyone that thinks about Covid any more? I certainly don't! Is Covid still a thing?"

Friend of mine had a cat dumped at hers earlier this year. She tried everything under the sun to find its owner with no luck, and as it isn't getting on with her cats, she put up a listing to find it a new home.

Well stuff me, all the fanny wobblers came out on that post how she wasn't allowed to re-home it within 7 days, had she checked for a microchip, had she spoken to her neighbours, one fanny wobbler was starting her own movement on the post how she was being ignored! On and on they went about what she should be doing with this cat... but not one offered to re-home it for her.

”belong to a Facebook group for a particular holiday resort and the number of people who respond to questions with ‘Just Google it’.

God yes! I live on the Algarve and I’m on related English (and Portuguese) language Facebook groups for locals that also get enquiries from holidaymakers. This happens all the time.

Also if a British or Irish immigrant dares to ask on the English language group if anyone can anyone recommend a good place for a Sunday roast/ Indian meal/ fish & chips, others stampede to rage about why they’ve moved to Portugal if they want to live like Little Britons . Presumably they’d want Portuguese immigrants to the U.K. crucified for ever missing fish cooked over charcoal or bacalhau,.and as for the Portuguese here who frequent our local Italian, they should fuck off to 🇮🇹

Just recommend a good restaurant if you you know one FFS or scroll on.

Thank you everyone. 3am is the worst for me when I wake and can't get back to sleep (frequently) and my thoughts turn to gloomy-catastrophic stuff. But you've given me a laugh today, so thanks for that.

I love the annoyance at the overhead helicopter - do they have any idea how much those things cost to get and keep in the air? Not a decision taken lightly.

There's always a smart arse who would've known exactly what to do in your shoes but I think that's just human nature, for some anyway. One infuriating exchange from when I was on Twitter (no longer as I saw the light): discussion about airport loos not having free sanpro/only having machines taking local currency when you've just landed etc. Man pops up and tells the women how they should always be on top of this, why no sanpro always in handbag/luggage? Absolutely no idea how flying can interfere with menstrual cycles, period arriving early etc. Well, that was us told.

As to purchases, wouldn't it be better to review them after one year or so? Then we'd all know how reliable/hard wearing whatever the thing is. But we'd forget, wouldn't we or we'd have lost interest. I also get infuriated by all the 'don't know, still in the box' type comments

I reckon there are all sorts of reasons. But I think a significant one is that many people feel as though any question is being directed to them personally. And surely making "unhelpful" comments in real life is a completely normal part of conversing? If a friend mentions in a one-to-one conversation something that you have no experience of, you don't stay silent; you say "I don't know - I've never done that." If it's a group conversation, then surely it's reasonable to chip in your own thoughts - "Oh, I never do that - far too much faff" - because a group conversation is owned by the group. Humans are relational beings - it's hard-wired into us, so engaging in a conversation that's happening around you is pretty normal. Like it or not, social media has become part of social conversation.

MN says it has around 7 million users. So when you ask a question here you're asking a question directly to a potential 7 million individuals. It's inevitable that you get unhelpful chatter in reply.

On local FB pages -
‘I lost my iPhone in town today between the Tesco and the cafe please keep an eye out’ or something, the comments section is full of:
’Have you looked on find my iPhone?’, ‘What does it look like?’ & ‘it’s probably gone by now’. Urgh 🙃

Have you tried responding with, "God, you're fucking miserable." ?

Can anyone recommend someone for oven cleaning?

Clean it yourself.

Seen on my local fb group. Really, really helpful.

You get this on the Amazon question and answer section:
"Does this hairdryer have a cool setting?"
"Sorry, I don't know. I sent it back"
Do they think it's against Amazon's law of the land not to answer a question about a purchase? 🤔

Asked a couple of years ago if anyone was free on a particular date for something. Someone replied with "I'm not free on that date but can do the week after". I wasn't asking about the week after!

I'd love it if the OP replied "Well yes, but I am far too busy and important. I am also lazy. So, helpful as your suggestion is, I don't think it would work for me" 😂😂