People passing unhelpful comments!

[Lovetogarden2022]

This is a real bugbear of mine and it's so annoying I'm sure other people can relate 😂

Why do people feel the need to say unhelpful comments, either on here or on Facebook groups, but also in real life? It drives me mad!

For example, a few people have posted in our local group asking if there are any houses for sale under £450k, for example, and the comments underneath are "ha! You'll be lucky finding a nice property for that price round here!!"

Or another woman asked where the best place to park in town was that wasn't going to be busy or extremely expensive, and loads commented "come and have a look for yourself. Don't be so lazy" etc

The tip of the iceberg was this morning when I politely asked if anyone would be interested in coming to a public event I'm hosting and a friend said "nobody will come to that - there's something else on that weekend" (the other "event" she's referring to is happening miles away and would have no effect on my event 🤣)

It's just not helpful or constructive!!!!!

Does my head in! Is this normal or am I just being unreasonable 🤣

I would block him tbh.

Definitely need to permanently put some menonpause (I'll get me coat).

The smug 'just Google it' crowd clearly don't understand that Google isn't always the great definitive oracle on everything. If somebody who runs a shop on her own has her 'official' opening hours of 9-5 on Google, that can't replace local knowledge that might tell you that she often pops out to get a sandwich at 11am most days and puts a 'back in 2 mins' sign on the door but is more often gone for 20 minutes, so avoid then; or that she knocks off at 4 if it's quiet, so make it before then if you can.

We've recently had a couple of times where the air ambulance has landed very close to where I live, within minutes cue all the "why's the air ambulance landed here, anyone know what's happened?" On either Farcebook or Next-door.

I do chortle at the numerous replies of "It's an emergency" or "somebody is ill/injured" and quite often "mind your own business!"😆

My daughter and her friend were doing a volunteer project, collecting old used towels to donate to the local animal shelter. They distributed fliers around the neighborhood, and asked people to email them if they had items to collect. The girls got a few messages saying basically “100 America Dr will NOT be participating in your towel collection”. Why bother writing that and emailing it to a couple of schoolgirls?

The main one is where OP has given scenario and asked AIBU? and then had so many questions from others they've had to provide a bit more info...so a few more posts from OP (drip feeding doesnt bother me)...and then PP comes along 5 or 6 pages in and hasn't been bothered to read all OP comments and bases their comments on initial OP comment!!! Drives me nuts! RTFT ffs! 🙄

This place is full of twats that post shit like this.

Its like their sad little day just got a bit better for a few seconds because they managed to be irritating to a few randoms

My peeve is when someone in a group suggests a meet up.
They give options such as ‘Which is the best day for most of us.’
Saturday 1st
Saturday 8th
or Saturday 15th.
The majority of the group say the 8th someone will always say I can’t do any, how about Monday 17th. The organiser had clearly said it will be one of the above Saturdays. Then the whole thing gets disregarded and nobody meets up.
If I can’t do any of the stated dates I just say that I can’t make any and leave it at that.
Ive started meeting friends on a one to one basis as I can’t be bothered with all the derailments.

She sounds like fun

Maybe not as extreme. But I asked on my local fb group if there was any recommendations of places to buy big packs of Indian spices and poppadoms etc. Specifically not the small packs or bigger/western brands you get in the supermarket (we're a way outside London and world food aisles sell uncle Ben's and pataks ect).

Majority of responses: sainsburys

Or in a WhatsApp group:

Does anyone know where to find xyz?
I don't.
I don't!
Nope, don't know.

Ok that's nice, I was asking those who know?

We also get job ads posted in that group (nannies) and there'll be: I know a family looking for a nanny on Monday to Wednesday

Someone will ALWAYS reply, hi yes I'm free, I can only do Thursdays and Fridays.

And on the flip side, I'll post an ad saying I'm looking for 9-10 hours M-Th on ABC days and I'll get a message from a parent saying 'I can offer you Wednesday 3-6. I don't even bother replying.

In our local Facebook group, we have many of these unwanted, unhelpful, silly comments - often by men, who seem to think we all need to know their thoughts. The classic for me was when a young woman was enquiring about driving instructors who taught in automatic cars. The number of men who felt the need to inform her (wrongly) that if she could not learn to drive in a manual car she was not a proper driver was ridiculous. Fortunately for her, there were a few normal people who actually answered her question sensibly.

This is my theory too. And being polite, they think they have to answer 🤣

Yep, seen this too!

It's like someone stating they have postnatal depression after their first baby, and someone coming along saying *'I have had THREE children! Come to me when YOU have had three if you can't cope with ONE!' (Basically poo-pooing the other poster's problem... So rude.)

It's the ones who hijack a thread who send it off the rails that annoy me.
For example....
Q. Can anyone recommend good period pants please.
A. Why are you using period pants? You should use a mooncup!
Cue a poster pile on about period products.
Leading to rows about environmental issues and how the world will implode because a woman dared to use a product which requires washing.

Omg one of my favourite as a nanny working with an ASD child was when I asked for advice in a nanny group from car buffs on how to lock the doors on a particular brand when sitting inside it, so the child couldn't unlock the door.

We used to get to school pick up early and sat in the car with the windows down and the child would come and sit in the front passenger seat and play, but would also manage to unlock the door which was obviously a safety issue.

The FIRST comment was 'have you considered telling them no?' 🙄 when I said he was ASD and it didn't work like that, but thanks for the useful response she replied 'well you should have said!'

No, I didn't need to, I specifically asked for people familiar with this particular car to help me solve a car-related issue. And someone did! And all was well.

I wonder what on earth goes on in the mind of someone who sees a question about a product on Amazon and feels the need to reply to it with "I don't know". It completely baffles me.

FB is awful for that

I post "lovely top, £20 in next in loads of colours" and add a link

Replies

How much was it hun?
Where from?
Did they have any other colours?
Have you got a link?

OP you used the wrong analogy in your OP. You used 'tip of the iceberg' when you meant 'icing on the cake' or something similar.

Happy to be unhelpful.

I once did that @IglesiasPiggl on a Disney Holidays FB group - I got banned for being too aggressive 😂😂😂

I wonder what on earth goes on in the mind of someone who sees a question about a product on Amazon and feels the need to reply to it with "I don't know". It completely baffles me.

Yes, it's very frustrating when you read it; but at the point where they're invited to answer, Amazon is (I think) deliberately ambiguous, as they (misguidedly) try to make it all seem more personalised and like your own opinions matter far more in the grand scheme of things than they do. They're always sending stats about how YOUR feedback gets read.

They will say "User X has asked a question about this product that you bought" - of course, nowhere does it say that they asked YOU specifically, but the two phrases, when taken together, can easily be interpreted as though the person has specifically asked you. Of course, they haven't, how would they even have known who you are and that you bought it; but I can see where the confusion might arise.

I did once attempt to review something based on delivery... but that was because it was recyclable paper (that I'd speicifcally looked for and ordered with a load of other things to reduce deliveries).

I ordered 3 rolls. All 3 rolls were delivered seperately and absolutely covered in miles of plastic.

I was furious. And even more furious when they deleted my review because it related to delivery when technically it related to packaging and logistics which are solely at the discretion of the company.

This was last Christmas... I'm totally over it... can you tell?

(Also, yes to annoying and pointless comments. I think these people are equally awkward/weird IRL, but you are just more exposed to them on SM).

😂 I love the ones who say ‘haven't tried it yet so not sure if it’s any good’. THEN DON’T LEAVE A REVIEW!

@Muststopeating

I had one of those too, I made the mistake of buying a 6 pack of toilet cleaner on Amazon. One of them wasn't sealed properly and the box came with bleach dripping out of the bottom.

I posted a review and it got deleted but honestly the think people would want to know if a seller is incapable of adequately packaging a bleach product.

I posted a review on a bag that was meant to be Cath Kidston, had photos showing the branding and when it arrived is had to tags and was a fake. I said so in the review. And I got a message saying that they couldn't post it because it 'broke guidelines'. So I couldn't warn anyone else if the scammer 🙄

To be fair some people start a post with helplessly little info. For example "mum's [sic] where can I get a birthday cake?"
Cue lots of "A shop?" type responses.

Or who don't bother to spellcheck or make sure it's coherent. Saw one a couple of years ago asking if anyone knew someone who could "wapper my wall". (I presume she meant wallpaper.) Some bloke quipped "I can do it in kwisp wappers if you like"

I love the ones who say ‘haven't tried it yet so not sure if it’s any good’. THEN DON’T LEAVE A REVIEW!

They are amusing and infuriating in equal measure, but Amazon does make it look like they need your review ASAP, when they email you. It might help if they made it clear in their emails that they would like a review at an appropriate time, if you're willing, but that isn't the case.

There are lots of products that are pointless to review soon after purchasing them - much better to see how reliable they turn out to be down the line, or if the novelty wears off and they become a white elephant.

I predict there will be loads more pointless reviews in the next month or so, from people who have bought presents early for Christmas and then end up leaving the requested review for something that's still in a sealed box in their loft!

Having said that, I have seen (serious-looking) reviews in the past for items that are most clearly intended for very young children and then an adult gives them 1 star for being 'boring and childish' - presumably devastated that a 3-piece jigsaw didn't keep them, a 43yo in middle management, entertained for quite as many hours as they'd hoped.