Urgent advise please

[ScabbersChin]

I need urgent advice.

my job involves me picking things up from clients home then returning them a few hours later. It’s my own business.

just been to pick one up from a house where I know the wife personally.

this is the second time now where the husband has told me about dreams he’s had about me. Except this time he told me to keep it secret and not tell his wife. Which I’m uncomfortable with.

what shall I do?

1. Tell the wife and gently drop them as a client.
2. Tell the husband I’m not comfortable with it and to stop or I’ll tell his wife (I’ll record the conversation on my phone)
3. Message him the above.

literally don’t need this. I see them both on the school run daily too. I’m worried about keeping secrets from the wife as she’s lovely. I’m worried about him lying. And I’m worried about it being awkward.

j have to drop the thing off in the next 90 mins or so….

Weird.. I'd just be totally professional & 'in a rush'.. no time to talk..

Are the dreams he's telling you about sexual?

I would do a mixture of 1 and 2 or 1 and 3. I wouldn't message or talk to him, I'd talk to the wife and explain it's making you uncomfortable and if it doesn't stop, you won't be able to continue to deliver whatever it is you're delivering to them.

Are they sex dreams? If so Don’t speak to him about anything other than the job. If he says anything say ‘this is sexual harassment please stop’. If he does don’t mention it to his wife. Don’t get involved. If it carries on, go to the police.

Does the picking and dropping involve actually going indoors? I'd be worried about being indoors alone with a creep like that who has already overstepped boundaries.

I'd tell the wife and gently refuse to do any more service unless she's the contact.

Always trust your instinct on these things, if it feels wrong then it is wrong.

From his demeanour they’re sex dreams. He has had affairs before I think.

I would drop it off, then send an email saying that you have to stop your services as you're uncomfortable with the sexual nature of chat the husband wishes to engage in.

Keep it professional and direct.

You do know you sound like a pervy cunt don't you?
And leave..
No need to escalate and lose a client imo.

I would drop the item, too busy to chat, and then be unavailable for future appointments. But I'd also probably record the husband secretly too so I'd have evidence.

I’d drop them as clients and tell the wife to ask her husband why.

she will either know exactly what he’s like and know what you mean or she won’t. If she does she is unlikely to believe it even if you told the truth anyway.

Do not make excuses for this man though and just ignore it. He’s pushing a boundary.

I would do this too. No room for misinterpretation or ambiguity.

I wouldn't do this as he will most certainly lie and say you made a pass that he rejected. Indeed he will deny what you say anyway of you choose to say why. I would just say you don't have enough capacity if you want to stay on friendly terms with the wife.

Id just be dropping the item back and never returning or speaking to him ever again. Even on the school run. Make him know by your silence this is unacceptable and he needs to stay the fuck away from you.

He is sexually harassing you. If that continues, tell him sharply that you are not interested and that you will drop him and his wife as clients unless he stops, and that if his wife asks why you've dropped them, you will tell her why.

Drop off item. Say directly to the pervy bloke “I don’t want to hear about your dreams again. It makes me uncomfortable and this is my professional business. I don’t want to have to drop you and your wife as clients, so I’m sure you understand. See you next week.”

Any chance you could get one of those chest cameras that record? Any chance you could claim us was a safe guarding thing? That should stop it dead.

I like this.

He's testing the waters to see if you respond with any flicker of interest.

First, "Tell the husband your not comfortable with it and to stop"

Second, if he doesn't stop say you'll tell his wife that he makes you feel uncomfortable and you may have to drop her as a client.

The next time he starts with that sort of chat, just say "I have no interest in hearing about your dreams. This is a professional relationship and will stay that way. If you say anything of this nature again, I will have to drop you and your wife as clients, and will explain to your wife why."

Deliver the goods this one last time, then if he ever contacts you again you politely and firmly decline any further business. No need to give any explanation or excuse. Do it by email if you can't say it face to face.

Honestly? Tell him to fuck off or you'll tell his wife.

I'd be a bit more blunt than "I'm not comfortable with this......". Tell him to fuck right off in no uncertain terms. CFers, regardless of the brand of CFery, thrive because people are often too concerned about being diplomatic in their response.

The issue with this is that OP has a business to run and you don’t want to run the risk of bad-mouthing/gossip if the bloke feels he needs to get his story in first. So it’s better to take the high road in the first instance with a polite but firm warning shot across the bows.

Then if he carries on tell him to fuck off and tell his wife.

You need to get rid of them as a client ASAP. I would be tempted to make an excuse up why, rather the truth in case it back fires on you. Block them and do not reply to any communication.

then completely avoid them both as much as you can on the playground other than a quick hello to the wife.

Tell him to stop and if he continues, you will tell his wife. Then be vague/unavailable for a future appointments.

This is what i would suggest too