Urgent advise please

[ScabbersChin]

I need urgent advice.

my job involves me picking things up from clients home then returning them a few hours later. It’s my own business.

just been to pick one up from a house where I know the wife personally.

this is the second time now where the husband has told me about dreams he’s had about me. Except this time he told me to keep it secret and not tell his wife. Which I’m uncomfortable with.

what shall I do?

1. Tell the wife and gently drop them as a client.
2. Tell the husband I’m not comfortable with it and to stop or I’ll tell his wife (I’ll record the conversation on my phone)
3. Message him the above.

literally don’t need this. I see them both on the school run daily too. I’m worried about keeping secrets from the wife as she’s lovely. I’m worried about him lying. And I’m worried about it being awkward.

j have to drop the thing off in the next 90 mins or so….

Good message. You told him no discussion so don’t be drawn into replying to him. If he tries saying these sort of things to you again, eye roll, then slowly shake your head.

The general feeling I’ve had here and IRL is no need to loose a customer. And I didn’t really want to tell the wife as it’s a can of worms I don’t need to open right now. I have a final hearing for my divorce next week and I have huge anxiety over that as I’m going to have to sell our home.

so it can stay like this for now. If it happens again though……..

Well obviously he was going to. If you'd just dropped the dirty git it would have been over with, but now (and see if I'm wrong!), he will repeatedly attempt to engage you in conversation again, he will contact you further behind his wife's back to try and shut you up and eventually you're probably going to have to drop them anyway because he'll end up being reported to the police for harassing you. Threatening to tell his wife was a very silly thing to do. Do you honestly think some sleaze like this is going to let you have the last word? Mark my words, this is probably going to escelate now that you've upped the game by threatening him. A dignified silence would have ended this rather than trying to exert power over him by making threats to tell his wife because now his marriage is at stake he will twist things and convince her that you've tried it on with him to ruin your reputation. You're clearly a dog walker or groomer and word will spread. You should have just returned the dog, blocked him and never looked or spoke to him ever again and let his wife work out herself what might have happened.

Well if I’d have dropped them, without explanation the same might happen to my reputation….

As long as it escalates after next week I can deal with it 🙈

I’m not worried about reputation. I’m very good and well known for what I do in my area. Additionally I have so much legal protection and nonsense or slanderous type accusations will be shut down. But it won’t come to that i hope.

Of course, I hope you’re wrong 😔

I would like to know if my DP was saying stuff like this to other women!
I would tell her and drop them, but follow your instinct

This is good.

If you meant to hide your identity OP, your last message suggests the nature of your business which might be outing...

I mean the one that quotes your message to him

What if you did take it the wrong way. I am ALWAYS dreaming about colleagues/ friends and often tell them. If I followed it with a jokey ‘don’t tell the husband’ I’d really hope they didn’t think I was making a pass at them.

i guess it depends how he said it to you and how well you know each other. If it was serious or jokey

Either way, you’ve sorted it now so move on

I assume you are a dog walker? Can you deal with the wife instead of the husband? Don't go into the house at pick up, just call the dog from the doorway.

it was obvious what he was referring to 😔 and why keep it secret from his wife.

sadly I can’t deal with his wife as she is at work and him working from home. I do liaise with her rather than him about the service though.

Ah well. You dealt with it well, don’t dwell on it. Cunts will always abound!

@ScabbersChin just flagging that, in your OP, you were cagey about your business e.g. picking up and dropping off items. Your 12.42 post says what you do in more detail. It's not identifable, but presumably you were being more reticent for a reason. Just mentioning in case you want to report it to get the detail changed.

I would screenshot the messages too as no doubt he will delete them his end in case you do need them in future.