To ask what you sibling relationship are like

[Fluffycow78]

Good or bad?

2 older brothers. I love them both but the nearest in age to me (years between us) is my best friend. We are so alike in personality, what we like/dislike. He lives overseas . We WhatsApp nearly every day and have a long WhatsApp call twice a week. My oldest brother has high functioning autism and finds small talk draining so we are in touch less often but they're both very important to me. And we are there for each other in bad times and are happy for each other in the good ones.

I meant there are 6 years between us.

2 Brothers, I was the very much unwanted little sister they bullied when we were growing up and given half a chance, continue the bullying now.

I am now low contact with them, and imagine once our parent dies, we wont speak at all, as thats the only conversation we have. I was diagnosed with MS years ago and one of my brothers still hasnt acknowledged it. My SIL is lovely, I dont know why she puts up with him.

Two brothers. One is in prison; he’s a sociopath and I wish he was dead. The other is completely selfish and utterly uninterested in me, though he loves telling me his woes. Once our DF dies I’ll have nothing to do with either of them.

Older brother. Not best friends in that we hang out all the time but we get on well.

3 brothers. Eldest & youngest are crap, middle one's alright.

Better than they were. Why?

Good. I have a younger brother and sister and get on well with both. In fact my husband and I are on holiday with my brother now. We live hundreds of miles apart but try to keep in touch via what's app and meet up a few times a year. I don't have time or inclination to talk to them every day but when we get together we just take up where we left off. None of us are really alike but we all have things in common we enjoy doing.

Thank goodness you can choose your friends.

My sister is my best friend. I would be absolutely lost without her. She lives about 3 miles away and I see her a couple of times a week and we go on holiday together with our families. My mum is an only child but my dad is one of 10 and they are all incredibly close too so it would feel really unnatural to not have a tight bond after coming from a very close family. I'm aware how fortunate I am.

I have 2 sisters. 1 a 5 minute walk away and one living overseas. Neither are talking to me at the moment, but I know they are talking about me to each other as one of them sent a reply to the other via our group chat by mistake. I have no idea what I'm supposed to have done this time, but I'm used to it after 50+ years of being the family scapegoat.

six siblings and they are an integal part of my life. Get on with all some closer than others but they are always on hand when i need them. Incredibly lucky and we have got much closer as we have grown up.

Younger sibling I get on amazingly with whereas older one I'd happily never see again

I love my DB dearly, and I am pretty sure he would be there for me in a crisis (and hope he know the reverse it true). However day to day we are not close, he simply doesn't seem interested (very short replies to texts, never texts himself, doesn't call etc).

I don't know if it would be different if I lived closer maybe? But I moved away (<3hrs) with work years ago and whilst I make every effort to see him every time I go back, he's not once made any effort to come to me or meet halfway even. It makes me sad.

I feel like I'm low level excluded by all my family as I moved away, but that was when I finished uni so I could get a job, and my life is here now. I'm not willing to uproot my otherwise happy life to move back home (where I would still struggle to get a decent job in my niche, as would my now husband).

One brother one sister. Totally no contact with sister. On good terms with my brother and see him a few times a year, maybe an occasional text, but we aren’t close at all, don’t know anything about his personal life at all.

It’s sad my parents wanted us all to be close, but even growing up, we just weren’t really.

One sibling. Didn't get on particularly well in childhood, get on better now but we rarely see each other. Talk on phone about once a fortnight, mainly about DM and our DCs.

Slightly younger sister. We get on pretty well- live in different countries now but WhatsApp most days- we did live in the same country for 10 Years but I recently moved back to uk. However, we had a 10 year phases as young adults when we had v little contact after a big falling out. We both still have our flashpoints where the other is concerned but I think with age have realised that the other one is never going to change and it’s worth the relationship despite the irritations .

1 brother, we don't speak.hes abusive.

My sister is my best friend. I'd be lost without her.

I'm 55, my little sister is 16 months younger and I adore her 😍😍 Even though she does boss me around (thought that was my job 😳🤣).

Great! My sister is fab. We were very different as children (though got on well from teenage years) and have got more and more alike as we got older. Along with dh and my dc she is the person whose company I most enjoy. Unfortunately we live about 5 hours away from each other!

I have one older sister. I think she’s one of the most amazing people I’ve ever met and I love her very much. She is 100% always there for me, always on my side, makes me laugh so much and I’m so lucky to have her as my big sister. I love my BiL who I’ve known for 40 years like a brother too. I’m so lucky.

One brother
Very close

My sister is quite a bit younger and hasn't had relationships or children. So it can be hard to feel we have much in common in terms of life stage and challenges.

But we do have similar tastes and interests so we can always find something to talk about when we are together. . We just don't talk often. I took my family to stay with her recently for the first time and that was nice. She doesn't tend to initiate contact much but she always remembers birthdays and is always very generous to us all!

I wouldn't confide in her with any problems or difficulties though.

I think we may become closer as our parents become elderly and we need to work together to care for them.

I worry about the fact that she lives alone, has never had a relationship and it's very unlikely she will have children. She is very close to my parents with whom she shares many similar interests - but they are getting older and it won't be long before they're too old and frail to go on holiday with her and be "best mate" material.

But as DH says maybe I need to accept her for who she is!

DH has three brothers and I have sibling feelings toward them. We are all in WhatsApp we chat and visit each other, they're all married with kids and lots going on. We get together at my in-laws and then one a year rent a big house where we stay and get all 8 cousins together.

I’ve got a half sibling who i found out about as a teen and who I’ve met twice. Seems like a nice enough person and we text on the odd occasion.

got a brother (full sibling) who I’m pretty close to. We live hundreds of miles apart but see each other 3-4 times a year and chat/text pretty regularly. We still wind each other up and bicker but nothing bad.