To say that long term marriage

[Bluey124]

Can be easy, fun and that you can stay in love as much as you always were?
This forum can be so depressing at times. We married at 23, still together 14 years later and very happy. Many of our friends are the same and this isn't looking happy for social media either

I think it’s subjective. Your great might be my mundane and vice versa. I think the point above that people often tolerate because the alternative seems worse has an element to things sometimes.

growing in a way that aligns with one another constantly is very lucky.

I've been happily not married to my partner for 30 years. You don't have to be married for it to last.

Yanbu. Married for 32 years 23 when married. 3 kids, 2 adult, 1 secondary school age.
But I would say we are the outlier amongst our peers. Most who married that young split, often once kids reached uni age. Many happy in second marriages/relationships. Takes all sorts to make a world.

Well I’ve been married just under a year so 14 feels like a long time to me!

40 years married. No it’s not the same as when you first get together, and firmly believe if you are unhappy and it can’t be resolved, then yes, part. But, life isn’t easy, we change, what I wanted at 23 is not the same as I want now. If you can find someone to change with you, it’s the best thing in the world. Our kids grow up leave for their lives, our parents die, our friends change too. A loving spouse is your friend, your companion and though love changes, they are still your love.

I have a friend in her mid 50s who’s been with her husband since she was 16 married since 21. She would say it’s a wonderful marriage and she’s very happy.

she has to lie when she goes out to theatre with friends 🤷‍♀️

but I do think it is possible - but I think people are very luck when it happens and it is not common

op Have you watched 45 years? I only watched it for the first time this week. It’s about a long marriage (45 years!) - it’s brilliant.

Oooh start another one! I love Threads like that. It’s nice to have some positivity amongst the doom and gloom.

If you marry the right person, then of course its possible. It's blatantly obvious a lot of people on here marry the wrong person or for the wrong reasons.

Those of you saying 14 years isn't that long, I've been with DH for 20 years and married for 13. I can count on three fingers how many of our friend's marriages have survived within that time.

40 years married here. I would have got less for murder! ( Joking ) We met and married when we were both seventeen after a whirlwind courtship.
I couldn't imagine being with anyone else.
We have a lot of fun, we always did.
Two kids grown up and married with kids themselves.
I hope to achieve my parents record of seventy years.

Did anyone say they couldn't? People post on here because they need support with something, so no, you probably won't find many people making posts about their happy marriages but people post knowing there are others out there with the experience of healthy relationships to help them. And those helpful posts far outweigh the negative experiences.

39 years married, before dh passed away. I miss him every day. 😓

@Watzzap I’m sorry 💐 I know little consolation but it makes me think of the Queens saying that grief is the price of true love, how fortunate you are to have found someone who clearly was so wonderful, but how painful that means today is 😢

Sweet.

Come back to me at 30 years married. Easy? No, not if you're doing it properly.

Oh I would absolutely love to read this thread, if anyone has a link?

Well aren't you the fun sponge with that attitude
I've been married well over that and I think I love him more than ever , having fun and laughing daily at utter shift helps

*shit , not idea why it corrected as I use the word shit all the time
Hey ho

I imagine it takes a particular combination of personality types, values and luck.

But the men I meet can't generally manage 14 weeks...

So sorry, @Watzzap.

I disagree with this. Not everyone's experience is the same. For us, the first ten years were the time when things could have gone wrong, but since then, with the arrival of children, things have just got better.

Sorry to hear about your loss 💐

I agree with most of you, when it’s the right person to begin with, it becomes a deeper love that becomes richer over time x

53 years together, 51 years married and perfectly happy.

I feel like this is a very naive perspective and I really hope you don't get bitten on the bum. Sadly, I do think most men are arseholes. Lots of women put up with a lot. But until your significant other is dead and buried and nothing comes out of the woodwork five years down the line, anything is possible...

I've been married 25 years, together 30 years. Absolutely adore my dh. He's gorgeous and sexy and so incredibly kind. He's a great dad and a wonderful husband.
I too find the endless misery a bit much.

All my friends are still with their husbands and partners. OK, all our kids are still all under 10 but out of 8 of our close friends, all have stayed together. Its good to hear similar stories here

Some men are arseholes. Some women are arseholes. Nobody can look at the Relationships board here and not come to that conclusion. I dispute that most people, either sex, are arseholes. My husband certainly isn't, my Dad isn't, my brother isn't, my son isn't. In the last few weeks, we've had a family crisis to deal with (my side) and my husband's been absolutely brilliant. Decades ago, it was the other way around. We are there for each other as and when required.