To be upset Mum hasn’t bought anything for my baby

[ktlgh]

Context, i’m 31 weeks pregnant, this is mine and my partners first child.
We have a baby shower planned, unfortunately 2 weeks before my due date to accommodate my mum and little sister due to said little sister’s dance commitments - mum would refuse to move/rearrange, and its important to me they are both there so i’ve had to take the risk of having the baby shower close to my due date.
Now, she hasn’t bought a single thing for the baby, or even mentioned any kind of gift she’d like to get, which would be fine if she hadn’t done this for my brother’s child as well, but she did.
I don’t want anything expensive, literally a card and a blanket or something would be perfect, but i know if i mention it to her, she will try to use money as an excuse; yet she goes to her friends most weekends and finds £20 to spend on bottle of alcohol and taxi home.
This is where it upsets me, I feel she can be quite selfish and if she comes to the baby shower without anything I will be a bit upset, but i don’t know if thats me being unreasonable and I shouldn’t expect anything but her presence there.

Thanks for letting us know what kind of person you are.

I would just try to switch off from all this, OP. No one can make someone give you a gift. It’s possible she is waiting until after you have given birth. But whatever her plans are, this is lots of unnecessary stress in the third trimester.

I sympathise OP.
when you are expecting a baby you want your parents to be excited for you, thinking ahead, asking you what you might need, giving some indication of how or what they might like to contribute….
a baby is not a random gift giving occasion, there’s a ton of stuff that first time parents need and it would show care and love for the mum to indicate what kind of lovely thing she might contribute to her child and grandchild, of course according to her budget and preferences …
the fact that you are having to rearrange around her and don’t have any sense that she’s eager to contribute (by the way, it doesn’t have to be with a material gift but I get the feeling she is also not being generous with her presence, support, sharing in the moment) doesn’t sound nice.
i would be tense in this scenario.
hope it all pans out.

Is your brother the golden child

i think it wold have been better to put it int he op that your mother bought him/them stuff all through their pregnancy but not yours

its not really about the shower

This is a wind up right?!