to message someone I fancy on their work email?

[loveyoutothemoon]

I've googled his name and found his email. No social media. It's weird isn't it - stalkerish! I don't know him professionally.

I found his Instagram and messaged him and no reply - he has 1 follower (me) and he's following nobody.

Am actually dying for you right now.

OMG how embarrassing. Seriously..... WHY?

I've worked in a place where I got copies of all my boss's emails meaning I found out his wife was pregnant weeks before he told me.

Where I work now my boss has access to my emails.

So in answer to your question OP, don't do it!

30 years is a LONG time to hold a torch for someone. If he's got Instagram and Facebook but isn't active on either, then I'd assume he doesn't use social media. Messaging him on his work email is a daft idea. What are you planning to say?

Dont,you will regret it.

Don't! He'll know you googled him.

Do not do this!

Not only will he think your batshit but he could also get into trouble at work.

If you know where he works then can you not use his business or walk past at closing time - still slightly stalkerish but way better than emailing him.

Definitely smacks of bunny-boiler

I would be looking for a therapist.

Don’t do it! His employer may read the emails

Hello Old Crush
Bunny Boiler here! How are you? Fancy meeting up for a drink and dinner? I've googled you so I know you are single and I know you finish work at 6pm so I'll meet you outside the office on Friday.
Looking forward to catching up after all these years!
Love and hugs
BB xxxxx

Going against the grain here but nothing ventured, nothing gained! You don't have a professional relationship so what have you got to lose........

One life..... live it.......(wishes I could take my own advice)

I wouldn’t mind if someone approached me like that. I might just delete or write a polite thanks but no thanks back, but it wouldn’t upset or offend me. And if it was someone I genuinely did fancy 30 years ago, I would probably be intrigued.

What she may lose: Her dignity, his job and any potential relationship.

It depends a lot on his job too. Maybe those that are suggesting to do it don’t have very professional roles?

Also if you haven’t seen him for years how do you know that he’s not married/dead/a wanker?

No it would be highly unprofessional. You shouldn’t put anything in a work email that’s not work related that you wouldn’t be happy with absolutely anyone reading.

Although I think it's a completely crazy thing to do I don't think you have anything to lose do you? I doubt he'd get fired for some random emailing him - why would he? it's beyond his control! and if his boss did see it who cares? You don't know the boss and you don't have to say you always wanted hot and dirty sex with him or declare your undying love!

I'd just say 'Hi, this is loveyoutothemoon, it's been a long time and I just wondered if you were up for a catch up some time? My email/number is xxx hope all is good with you, loveyoutothemoon.'

He wouldn't lose his job....Christ..... if his company allows him to post his email on t'internet for a 30 year old crush to find it then that's more fool them.....worst that can happen is either no reply, sorry I don't remember you or never contact me again......Worth taking a punt if after all those years he's still on someone's mind!!!

I can't imagine anyone losing their job from receiving an email that says "hi could to bump into you the other day, here is my email if you want to keep in touch"

And if she doesn't email there is NO CHANCE of a relationship anyway as she had no way of contacting him otherwise.

I'd probably see if he is on linked in first? Connect to him that way.

He would have been in touch if he fancied you.

No. Can you imagine the comments if a bloke had tracked down his crush from 30 years ago and emailed her at work. "Stalker" would probably be the the most polite word used.

What made you look him up? You have searched fb, insta and now Google and found his work email. If you haven't spoken or seen him in 30 years and you are now following him on insta (his only follower) and you also email him at his work then you run the risk of looking a bit strange I'm afraid. Personally, I would find it weird.

Don't you have to accept followers on instagram? So he's accepted the follow, but ignored your message?

I'd say game's a bogey.

Do you know if this guy is actually available OP? He may not be.