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WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps · 22/09/2022 19:53
loveyoutothemoon · 22/09/2022 18:44
We fancied each other 30 years ago! His Facebook looks very old. One photo from 2013. I found his Instagram and messaged him and no reply - he has 1 follower (me) and he's following nobody. Same photo as the old Facebook one.
OMG how embarrassing. 
Seriously..... WHY? 
CharlotteSt · 22/09/2022 20:04
lannistunut · 22/09/2022 18:35
I don't understand what you mean here? Please could you explain?
Pointlessuser · 22/09/2022 18:34
I wouldn’t, both places I’ve worked have had emails that sent and received, have automatically sent a copy to the boss, if that’s the same you can guarantee everyone will be having a good laugh at your email
I've worked in a place where I got copies of all my boss's emails meaning I found out his wife was pregnant weeks before he told me.
Where I work now my boss has access to my emails.
So in answer to your question OP, don't do it!
PollyAmour · 22/09/2022 20:04
loveyoutothemoon · 22/09/2022 18:44
We fancied each other 30 years ago! His Facebook looks very old. One photo from 2013. I found his Instagram and messaged him and no reply - he has 1 follower (me) and he's following nobody. Same photo as the old Facebook one.
30 years is a LONG time to hold a torch for someone. If he's got Instagram and Facebook but isn't active on either, then I'd assume he doesn't use social media. Messaging him on his work email is a daft idea. What are you planning to say?
PollyAmour · 22/09/2022 20:23
Hello Old Crush
Bunny Boiler here! How are you? Fancy meeting up for a drink and dinner? I've googled you so I know you are single and I know you finish work at 6pm so I'll meet you outside the office on Friday.
Looking forward to catching up after all these years!
Love and hugs
BB xxxxx
Choconut · 22/09/2022 20:45
Although I think it's a completely crazy thing to do I don't think you have anything to lose do you? I doubt he'd get fired for some random emailing him - why would he? it's beyond his control! and if his boss did see it who cares? You don't know the boss and you don't have to say you always wanted hot and dirty sex with him or declare your undying love!
I'd just say 'Hi, this is loveyoutothemoon, it's been a long time and I just wondered if you were up for a catch up some time? My email/number is xxx hope all is good with you, loveyoutothemoon.'
Dunnoburt · 22/09/2022 20:46
He wouldn't lose his job....Christ..... if his company allows him to post his email on t'internet for a 30 year old crush to find it then that's more fool them.....worst that can happen is either no reply, sorry I don't remember you or never contact me again......Worth taking a punt if after all those years he's still on someone's mind!!!
burnoutbabe · 22/09/2022 20:46
I can't imagine anyone losing their job from receiving an email that says "hi could to bump into you the other day, here is my email if you want to keep in touch"
And if she doesn't email there is NO CHANCE of a relationship anyway as she had no way of contacting him otherwise.
I'd probably see if he is on linked in first? Connect to him that way.
Greyarea12 · 22/09/2022 20:54
loveyoutothemoon · 22/09/2022 18:44
We fancied each other 30 years ago! His Facebook looks very old. One photo from 2013. I found his Instagram and messaged him and no reply - he has 1 follower (me) and he's following nobody. Same photo as the old Facebook one.
What made you look him up? You have searched fb, insta and now Google and found his work email. If you haven't spoken or seen him in 30 years and you are now following him on insta (his only follower) and you also email him at his work then you run the risk of looking a bit strange I'm afraid. Personally, I would find it weird.
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