to think that maybe MIL would let me know about plans she is making regarding her son?

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she has been over today to sit with steve whilst i went out,i had to meet someone at 10.15 so she was going to be here at 10 she wasn't here when i had to leave at 10.30 she was supposed to stay with him until i got back but she didn't.
it is steves birthday tomorrow, steve thinks she was on about having a takeaway here but he doesn't know when, now she knows he has very bad memory loss and confusion and therefore not likely to remember what she has said.
i would like to make plans for steves birthday but as i don't know what she is planning how am i supposed to do so.
i could ring her up but i am annoyed with her right now so i think i had best not ring her.
will go and calm down and eat chocolates.

triplets - bless you Try not to be hurt. I wouldn't even think to send a birthday card for someone who had died - I'm sure they can't realise what it would mean to you. Maybe you should say something? Everyone is different - I think if it was me I wouldn't want people to make a point of doing that. It's like putting an advert in the local paper to mark anniversaries of the person's death, or their birthday. And the people who lay flowers at the scene of a fatal car crash every year. There's one near me - the lad's name was Darren and his mum always places an ad in the paper for his b-d, which was close to Christmas, and places a little holly wreath near the tree he crashed into. It obviously means the world to her but I'd never do anything like that. Don't think badly of your family - they just haven't realised what it would mean to you. It doesn't mean they've forgotten or that they don't care.

I hope it is a good day for Steve today. We have a local memorial for a girl who was knocked down - the birthday flowers are poignant, year after year.

Happy Birthday to Steve for today, onlyjoking. Have a good day with your family. x

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My dads birthday today too, he is 65.

We have all clubbed together and bought him a 40 minute flying lesson in a Tigermoth aeroplane.

Hope you have a lovely day and apologies for my comment yesterday bout the traffic. She makes my blood boil that MIL of yours !!

Thanks for all the birthday wishes, steve had some pain and sickness today but did manage to have some birthday cake when his mum sister & brother came over, i had to do a 20 mile round trip to pick DD up from school as she had a temp.

Happy birthday to Steve, sorry he has felt rough today.

Hope you've had a lovely day, OJ, best wishes to Steve.
xx

Hi Oj,
Have thought of you all all day, sorry Steve has been so sick, poor Steve.
Fortyplus, I didn`t mean an actual birthday card, but some sort of card, just to say we are thinking of Matthew. I know they are, but I have nothing to put up, it hurts and hurts so much, 14yrs and its just as painful. Anyway this is not about me, Matthew, its Steve and Oj, and I wish I could do something, anything to help, xxx

Happy birthday to Steve!

Glad his mum and bro and sis showed up. Do hope his mum didn't choke on enjoyed her slice of cake.

Hope you and Steve have a peaceful evening together.

Hi OJ sorry i haven't been around much but we had a new addition to our family last Friday so she has kept me a little preoccupied.
Sorry Steve hasn't felt too well today but wanted to wish him a happy birthday, hope you have been able to enjoy some of it x LL

Triplets i think i understand what you mean by not having a card it must feel like people have forgotten, CAT me your address and i will ensure that you do get a card.

Hi oj - well a mixed sort of day by the sound of it - did you manage to enjoy it?

What about Steve? Did he seem to appreciate his day? I hope so.

And triplets - I was thinking of you today, too - can't imagine how you cope.

I know 3 people who have lost children and one who had a stillborn baby and it never goes away, does it? Not that you'd want it to but you know what i mean. I hope I never have to face that - even if I'm 100 and they're old men.

Oh gawd she's bloody useless OJ, She's probably planning on going to Plymouth to watch fireworks . If not knowing will stress you out just ring and be a bit huffy, if not plan your own thing.

Hope you have a lovely birthday.

Cxx

oh bollocks I'm 24 hours late! Will read thread now!

Hello Oj,
Just me catching up with you all, how has Steve been this w/end? Its been all birthdays hasn`t it, my threes today, not as stressful as I thought it would be, they have been very good, only one bout of tears from James as his friends teased him at their party. He is such a sensitive little soul, I hate to see him upset. Hope you have had a peaceful w/end, in my thoughts xxx