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New neighbours (of no specified age) complaining before we've even unpacked!

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Elfblossom · 21/09/2022 16:20

Revised ...

Moved into our new home yesterday and the new neighbours on one side have already complained - twice, to me yesterday as the removal people were unloading the van and today to the builders working on my patio - about the hedge needing a trim!

Thank you to all the people who wished us well in our new home on my previous post. Sadly it was reported and deleted before I could even read half the 95 comments.

I think it's fairly ironic that it was deleted purely because I specified the age group of the complainers - and I only did that because I felt it was relevant.

For the record, I have some wonderful ex neighbours and friends of a similar age to my new neighbours, who are kind, friendly, welcoming to all and good humoured.

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Am I being unreasonable?

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GoingThatWay · 21/09/2022 16:24

You should have said can't you see I'm busy, bugger off.

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GCAcademic · 21/09/2022 16:25

Oh god, you've moved next to my parents, haven't you?

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Bubblebubblebah · 21/09/2022 16:25

๐Ÿ˜‚ loving the revision.

Same advice.
Set your boundaries right away.
"I said it eill be done in few weeks"
"I am not doing it"
"I am not planning on doing it"
"I am sorry you feel that way bit I am not doing it"
Firm but polite.

Happy new house

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FightMeOnTheBitches · 21/09/2022 16:27

I was waiting for this thread ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

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FightMeOnTheBitches · 21/09/2022 16:29

Some teenagers are so uptight

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Iwantmyoldnameback · 21/09/2022 16:30

I would deliberately leave it a while because you don't want her thinking you will do as your iold every time she says jump. And I'm of an unspecified age too.

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TigerRag · 21/09/2022 16:31

Bubblebubblebah · 21/09/2022 16:25

๐Ÿ˜‚ loving the revision.

Same advice.
Set your boundaries right away.
"I said it eill be done in few weeks"
"I am not doing it"
"I am not planning on doing it"
"I am sorry you feel that way bit I am not doing it"
Firm but polite.

Happy new house

"if you're that desperate for it to be done, you could do it"

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EL8888 · 21/09/2022 16:32

Boundaries boundaries boundaries. Donโ€™t let them think they say jump and you say how high. I would also be avoiding them like the plague, who starts complaining to neighbours straight after they move in?!

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Quveas · 21/09/2022 16:33

I'm wondering why the age of the "complainers" was relevant. People of all ages complain. Why make a point of their age? And yes, I did ask that question on the original thread and no I did not report it. If I have something to say I say it. As I did. But I see no correlation between age and whether people complain about things - reasonably or not reasonably.

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7Worfs · 21/09/2022 16:33

Hedges arenโ€™t supposed to be trimmed Mar-Oct because of nesting birds anyway.

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TheHateIsNotGood · 21/09/2022 16:34

Fightme๐Ÿ˜‚

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Idbemonica1 · 21/09/2022 16:36

Who the hell complains to neighbours on moving in day? Exactly as others have said - don't put it to the top of your presumably long to do list. And avoid the unpleasent individuals like the plague. Congrats on your new home x

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Dillydollydingdong · 21/09/2022 16:40

Tell the neighbours it's not top of your priority list, and they're welcome to do it themselves. You could also say you might just chop it down if it's causing problems!

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lanthanum · 21/09/2022 16:40

"It does, doesn't it. It's going to take us a week or three to get unpacked inside, let alone find any hedge clippers. But we're happy for you to do it if it's bothering you."

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Longdistance · 21/09/2022 16:41

I wonder why your vendors sold up? ๐Ÿค”

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GingerGloucester · 21/09/2022 16:42

Loving the revised post OP!

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Saucery · 21/09/2022 16:43

โ€œYes, it does need a trim but itโ€™s not a priority as weโ€™ve just moved in. Nice to meet you, bye!โ€

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andtheweedonkey · 21/09/2022 16:45

How's the patio looking?
Wink

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SnackSizeRaisin · 21/09/2022 16:45

lanthanum · 21/09/2022 16:40

"It does, doesn't it. It's going to take us a week or three to get unpacked inside, let alone find any hedge clippers. But we're happy for you to do it if it's bothering you."

I wouldn't let them do anything on your property. That's asking for further interference. Just tell them you will do it when you get round to it.

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jokingfox · 21/09/2022 16:45

Longdistance · 21/09/2022 16:41

I wonder why your vendors sold up? ๐Ÿค”

Same

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YanTanTetheraPetheraPimp · 21/09/2022 16:48

Longdistance · 21/09/2022 16:41

I wonder why your vendors sold up? ๐Ÿค”

Me too!

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TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 21/09/2022 16:49

Re: hedge, if they think it needs a trim, I would say "Do you think so we rather like it, and anyway it'll shield the trampoline better.

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GingerFigs · 21/09/2022 16:51

@TwoLeftSocksWithHoles ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ

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ilovesooty · 21/09/2022 16:51

7Worfs · 21/09/2022 16:33

Hedges arenโ€™t supposed to be trimmed Mar-Oct because of nesting birds anyway.

Is the timescale as long as that?

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Whiskers4 · 21/09/2022 16:53

Our solicitor (a colleague) told us if you can keep the lawn tidy that makes all the difference in the first few months while you're settling and doing jobs around house to make it yours. Maybe take that attitude and give it a tidy before winter. They're welcome to do their side and top anyway.

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